Ask Me Help Desk - How can I possibly get her back

Then live your life, have fun. Stop dwelling on this so much. It does not change the situation and it does no good.

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Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

Then live your life, have fun. Stop dwelling on this so much. It does not change the situation and it does no good.

I know.. Do u think she will come back to me

I don't know, which is why you need to start living your life and moving on.

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Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

I don't know, which is why you need to start living your life and moving on.

I just feel like he trying to please her family first so that she will come back to me. And I even promised her that I wouldn't move on to anyone else.. I can't break that.. Plus it wouldn't feel right with anyone else but her

How are you going to please her family? How do you plan to go about doing that when they don't even like you?
How long are you going to wait for her to call you?

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Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

How are you going to please her family? How do you plan to go about doing that when they don't even like you?
How long are you going to wait for her to call you?

Noo, I'm saying that I think she is trying to please her family by not talking to me and when that cools down then she will talk to me and stuff..

Well I hope so, but for you to sit around in a funk waiting is just foolish and it's going to get old. Life is too short. Don't waste too much time waiting for this girl to call you.
If she really wanted to talk to you, communicate with you, she would find a way.

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Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

Well I hope so, but for you to sit around in a funk waiting is just foolish and it's going to get old. Life is too short. Don't waste too much time waiting for this girl to call you.
If she really wanted to talk to you, communicate with you, she would find a way.

I am going to go places. And I know she will. She will when she's not around her family

Well I hope she does, but it would be so much easier if she were not sneaking around. All this does is cause more friction with the family and your back to where you are now.
Maybe you two should just break up. If you two are meant to be you'll find each other again when you don't have this family stuff hanging over you. She will be older and more independent of them

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Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

Well I hope she does, but it would be so much easier if she were not sneaking around. All this does is cause more friction with the family and your back to where you are now.
Maybe you two should just break up. If you two are meant to be you'll find each other again when you don't have this family stuff hanging over you. She will be older and more independent of them

She not done with me.. I'm just going to wait until I hear from her but I will go out..

Ok.

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Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

Ok.

Or do u not think the same as I do

It does not matter what I think because you are going to wait.
I think you two should break up. Her parents don't like you, she is ill and probably stressed by all of this and you are waiting for her to what, disobey her parents and call you?

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Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

It does not matter what I think because you are going to wait.
I think you two should break up. Her parents don't like you, she is ill and probably stressed by all of this and you are waiting for her to what, disobey her parents and call you?

I know she wants to talk to me though

I have told you what I think. You do what you want.
She may want to talk to you but this whole situation is not a good one.

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Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

I have told you what I think. You do what you want.
She may want to talk to you but this whole situation is not a good one.

That's why I'm trying to fix things

You need to leave things alone. Your trying to fix things can make them worse.

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Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

You need to leave things alone. Your trying to fix things can make them worse.

So I should just wait to hear from her

You can wait to hear from her but get on with your life. Prepare yourself for the fact that she may not call you, she may not come back.
Other than that, I don't know what else to tell you.

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Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

You can wait to hear from her but get on with your life. Prepare yourself for the fact that she may not call you, she may not come back.
Other than that, I don't know what else to tell you.

All right.. This is hard for me

You know?

I know it is hard. But you will get through this.

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Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

I know it is hard. But you will get through this.

I know.. I'm at the beach with my friend then later we are going fishing so I'm trying to stay busy

Good for you. Enjoy yourself. I'm proud of you

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Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

Good for you. Enjoy yourself. I'm proud of you

Thanks. I'll contact you a little later

So the beach was good. I was hoping to see her there but didn't so me and my friend were chilling and we didn't get to fish cause it was getting late. Then my friend texts me asking what was wrong with me and I told her and then she was going to speak to my girlfriend and she asked her what was going on and she said that she didn't want to talk about it and that its too much drama right now.

Leave it alone. Stop talking about it to people who know her hoping it will get back to her. You are causing more harm than good. That is why I said don't try and fix anything.
Leave it alone. She will contact you when and if she wants to. In the meantime live your life

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Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

Leave it alone. Stop talking about it to people who know her hoping it will get back to her. You are causing more harm than good. That is why I said don't try and fix anything.
Leave it alone. She will contact you when and if she wants to. In the meantime live your life

I am.. I'm just saying. U know

You said you were hoping to see her at the beach. Why? You talked to someone who knows her about what was going on. I told you not to do that. It got back to her, I think you knew it would. Stop talking about it to people who know her. Stop trying to fix things. Leave it alone.

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Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

You said you were hoping to see her at the beach. Why? You talked to someone who knows her about what was going on. I told you not to do that. It got back to her, I think you knew it would. Stop talking about it to people who know her. Stop trying to fix things. Leave it alone.

They just wanted to know what was wrong.. I'll just let things cool down

You say what she said." I don't want to talk about it"

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Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

You say what she said." I don't want to talk about it"

I will.. The only thing I can do is pray

Now that's a thought!

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Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

Now that's a thought!

Yes. But I'm going to try my hardest and stay positive

Yes. But I'm going to try my hardest and stay positive

I hope no one minds if I jump in here. I can tell you are trying to leave it alone and get on with your life.
But you really need to continue to take Homegirls advice about not contacting her and talking about her to friends in the hopes that it will get back to her.
I say this mainly for one reason, this girl has health issues one of which is stomach ulcers.
I have ulcers and have for many years so I know how things may affect her physically.
Continuing to try and stay in her life, thoughts and conversations no doubt makes her feel like she is in the middle of you and her family. In the middle is not a fun place to be.
I'm sure this is stressful for her and one of the worst things for ulcers is stress.
So if you love her as you say then think of her health and let it be.
Keep going out with your friends and having fun, but leave her out of it.
Maybe she will get to a place where she contacts you, maybe not, but you must not put your life on hold.
As far as her parents go, I'm sure they are upset about the fact that there was sexual contact, but at the same time they are concerned about her health I'm sure.
Understand those two facts and you may see where they are coming from.
Kudos for trying so hard and keep the positive attitude.

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Originally Posted by LadySam

I hope no one minds if i jump in here. I can tell you are trying to leave it alone and get on with your life.
But you really need to continue to take Homegirls advice about not contacting her and talking about her to friends in the hopes that it will get back to her.
I say this mainly for one reason, this girl has health issues one of which is stomach ulcers.
I have ulcers and have for many years so I know how things may affect her physically.
Continuing to try and stay in her life, thoughts and conversations no doubt makes her feel like she is in the middle of you and her family. In the middle is not a fun place to be.
I'm sure this is stressful for her and one of the worst things for ulcers is stress.
So if you love her as you say then think of her health and let it be.
Keep going out with your friends and having fun, but leave her out of it.
Maybe she will get to a place where she contacts you, maybe not, but you must not put your life on hold.
As far as her parents go, I'm sure they are upset about the fact that there was sexual contact, but at the same time they are concerned about her health I'm sure.
Understand those two facts and you may see where they are coming from.
Kudos for trying so hard and keep the positive attitude.

I know what you mean.. I haven't contacted her or anything.. I'm just going to pray

I know what you mean.. I haven't contacted her or anything.. I'm just going to pray

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Originally Posted by noko2149

I know what you mean.. I haven't contacted her or anything.. I'm just going to pray

Do you think she will get to a place to where she can contact me?

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Originally Posted by noko2149

Do you think she will get to a place to where she can contact me?

No one can possibly know the answer to that.
Time will tell. You really need to stop stressing about it, your young, it's summer-go enjoy it.