Haha, aww.. I love you ladies!

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Originally Posted by CGM91

Haha, aww.. I love you ladies!

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Only a couple of pages ago you despised us! What changed?

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Originally Posted by J_9

Only a couple of pages ago you despised us!! What changed?

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I never dispised, it is the internet. I simply just got tired of the flaming and stupid comments. The comments you guys are making now are just funny.

But seriously, Pulling out isn't considered Birth Control? :confused: Hahahaha

No, pulling out is not considered birth control.

Read my combined Stickeys here... https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/womens...ert-53865.html

Now, the babies are coming! The babies are coming!!

It's off to work I go. Yes, I really am an RN in labor and delivery.

OMG THE BABIES!

Haha,

*sigh*

Well.. I better go do something productive.

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Originally Posted by CGM91

tired of the flaming and stupid comments. The comments you guys are making now are just funny.

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There was no flaming or stupid comments. We were all dead serious. And still are. No humor here. We get too many "am I pregnant" questions after unprotected and pull-out sex to be laughing about it.

Ok, I've read through this entire thread. The first thing that stood out was your talking about your choices. The thing is YOU have no choices. The choice here is her's and her's alone! You have no say in whether she gets an abortion or not. You can tell her what your preference is, but the choice is still her's.

However, according to my research a minor can have an abortion without parental consent or knowedge.

So here are the facts.
1) If she is pregnant, she gets to decide what to do about it.
2) You had sex with someone under the age of consent, therefore you are guilty of statutory rape. Whether you are prosecuted for it or not is up to her parents and the local prosecutor.
3) NO method of birth control is 100% effective. The pull ou method is so INEFFECTUAL as birth control, its not even considered birth control.
4) It doesn't matter who pulled it out. YOU allowed it with a minor. You needed to be the responsible one and you weren't.

So, you better pray she isn't pregnant and you need to CEASE having sexual intercourse until you are both ready (financially, physically and emotionally) to have a child.

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Originally Posted by ScottGem

Ok, I've read through this entire thread. The first thing that stood out was your talking about your choices. The thing is YOU have no choices. The choice here is her's and her's alone! You have no say in whether she gets an abortion or not. You can tell her what your preference is, but the choice is still her's.

However, according to my research a minor can have an abortion without parental consent or knowedge.

So here are the facts.
1) If she is pregnant, she gets to decide what to do about it.
2) You had sex with someone under the age of consent, therefore you are guilty of statutory rape. Whether you are prosecuted for it or not is up to her parents and the local prosecutor.
3) NO method of birth control is 100% effective. The pull ou method is so INEFFECTUAL as birth control, its not even considered birth control.
4) It doesn't matter who pulled it out. YOU allowed it with a minor. You needed to be the responsible one and you weren't.

So, you better pray she isn't pregnant and you need to CEASE having sexual intercourse until you are both ready (financially, physically and emotionally) to have a child.

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Clearly you didn't read the whole thread ;).

And I was kidding about the pull-out method, I am not that dense.. sarcasm was initiated with white colour text.

Yes I did read the whole thread and sarcasm is very hard to portray in writing. You failed to do so.

These are my sishes in your case. I hope the girl is not pregnant but if she is I hope she has the baby and gives it up for adoption and tells you to go to H+ll.

Then I hope you get prosicuted for sexual assault and child molestation and your picture and I D is put up on every bulletin board in the Internet. Also I hope that if the profession you wated to go into requires a license and you will not be elgible.

I don't understand? Why?

You are over-reacting like crazy. You think I raped the girl? We have been dating for more then a year, I was 17 and she was 15 when we had sex.

You think I should be prosicuted to the fullest because I had sex with my girlfriend although she was 3 months short of the allowed age to engage in intercourse?

Please, tell me.. why would I deserve such a punishment?

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I don't understand? Why?

You are over-reacting like crazy. You think I raped the girl? We have been dating for more then a year, I was 17 and she was 15 when we had sex.

You think I should be prosicuted to the fullest because I had sex with my girlfriend although she was 3 months short of the allowed age to engage in intercourse?

Please, tell me.. why would I deserve such a punishment?

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Simple answer. IT WAS AGAINST THE LAW!!

End of story!

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Some guy at my girlfriends school is constantly asking her to have sex with him and to do other sexually oriented activities. He even asked her in front of me at a school football game. I told him to watch his mouth or I would be fixing it for him and left with my girlfriend.

I am not sure what to do about this dude? My girlfriend would never cheat so I am not worried about that.. but she has told me numerous times that he is creepy and obsessive.

Do I go to the cops? Do I handle it myself? Right now I feel like driving over to his house and smashing him up. I have anger management so perhaps my testosterone is getting the best of me.

What do you think?

YOU do nothing except tell him to shut up next time he says something in front of you. Your girlfriend needs to be the one to take steps to protect herself. Since this seems to be happening at school, she should be reporting his behavior to school administrators. If that gets her no where then she shoul most definitely go to the police. My high school had a resource officer, so when me or my friends would have issues with guys, the vice principal would call the officer in so there was never any need for us to go outside the school for anything.

JC is right.. let her (not you) tell the school administrators and then walk away. Be the bigger man in this situation as the guy is clearly a slime-ball. Never resort to violence because some idiot can't keep his mouth shut. One person in jail is always better than two in this case.

Don't go doing anything that would earn you an asault charge. Fighting him wouldn't solve anything. It could even make your girlfriend wonder if your anger issues will affect your relationship at some point. Keep your cool.
Yes, this is her place to stop this creap from bothering her.

If this is the same girlfriend you have been writing about in other forums, I guess this means you haven't gotten her pregnant yet.

You do NOT want to be anywhere near the officers in this one. Let her handle it.

More of the relationship issues: https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/teens/...ed-404786.html

I read your threads in the Teen Forum. Have you sat down and discussed your concerns with her.

I think there may be more to your reaction than just this guy being a creep. How much are you concerned that her actions and dress contribute to getting that type of reaction? Yes, those feelings and frustrations do have impact on the rest of your interactions especially when it comes to something that hits one of those nerve endings.

The solution to this person is for HER to report him to officials, school or otherwise. Even at 15 she has to be able to stand up for herself when it comes to sexual harassment. You won't always be around when she has to deal with creeps.

This guy is trying to get a rise out of you. He is being a complete butt-dart. Don't play his silly games. He obviously has no chance, and is in the "creep zone". I would advise your girl to report it to the school authorities, and then step back and let her handle it. Keep your cool, don't get physical. That's what the guy wants. Just ignore him, and tell him to stay in line if he disrespects your girlfriend again. However, I would give your girlfriend the chance to handle it for herself.

My girlfriend asked me today to go on a break, we are currently in a slump right now.. anyway.. I said "is that what you want? are you sure?" and she responded with "ya, I just need to clear my head for a bit." We have been dating for more then a year, this is her first relationship (she is 16) and I am 18.

I am not sure what she is implying? Do you think she is just trying to break up with my nicely? Or is she just trying to get space to breathe and re-evaluate the relationship? She is working two jobs and is in school. And I guess I haven't been a trophy boyfriend lately.

Anyway, please respond I am kind of confused.

I don't know where you are, but I think you should give her a break. You may not have been a trophy boyfriend, but more about your relationship is needed to know more about you. In addition, because of your age people can consider you as a pedofile. If you don't know what this means try to look it up. I am not being mean it's the law.

My now ex-girlfriend (who is 16) just broke up with me because she said that "she needs to date other guys because she can't commit to a long term relationship and that she needs to get hurt in relationships and gain experience before she is any good of a girlfriend to me"

I was her first boyfriend (I am 18) and I have been around per say..

What do you guys think? Should I forget about her? She is quite the women and we are both very compatible and our families are awesome. But she is very inexperienced and it would be unfair for me to make her only have one guy for the rest of her life?

Opinions?

Yes, she needs to gain life experience, and, may I add so do you. Your own inexperience is patently clear if you actually believe that at 16 and 18 you would be together 'for life'. The likelihood of this is so slim, as to be almost non-existent.

Listen to what she's saying. She's a teenager and she wants to do teenage things like date and have a good time. You should be wanting to do these things as well.

In fact she's more mature than you think - the fact that she recognizes her need to get more life experience is indicative of that!

Have a great time exploring the world.

Well honestly it is not your choice, but there is nothing wrong at all in finding and dating only the one person you end up with.

But just like when you were 16 and may have changed girl friends like you did socks, at 16 this is what normally happens and to be expected

Once again, let's get the whole story in one place: https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/teens/...ed-404786.html

You need to let her go to live her own life. It sounds like she is letting you down as easily as she knows how to. At least, she is stopping the game playing.

I think you have seen this coming because you have written about being concerned over her hanging out with other guys and her choice of clothing and actions along with the way other guys have been treating her.

Compatibility and families aren't the only requirements for a good relationship. So is trust and maturity.

I am not sure you trust her and she definitely does not have any maturity yet.

I would suggest reading the stickies at the top of the Relationship Forum about breaking up. They may hold some valuable information for you.