Ok-if they phone less text less break dates and generally become less attentive and/or become less available.there s my little list.
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Ok-if they phone less text less break dates and generally become less attentive and/or become less available.there s my little list.
Get someone who wants you as much as you want them, and learn to work together, through honest expressions of feelings, and communications.Quote:
Originally Posted by Jordan Christin
He may be a bit insecure, and so are you, about the relationship, and I guess it makes you see small things as bigger and more important than what they are.Quote:
Originally Posted by Jordan Christin https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/amhd_i...s/viewpost.gif
Why does he keep saying that?
Hard to relax, and enjoy, getting to know each other, when your paying attention to your own issues, and not each other.
You will be able to tell, you conscience will let you know, if you are having doubts that he is becoming to dislike you, you will be able to tell with the look in his eyes, the tone of his voice when he talks to you will change, sexual encounters will probably decrease, a big sign would be if he told u that u two really don't have anything in common, that's a nice hint to you that he is beginning to dislike the relationship. Sorry if this is happening to you. Good luck!
The fact that you're here and asking is sign enough. Don't you think?
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Is this the same person you're referring to?
No
When they start to make themselves less and less available.
If you come here asking that type of question, that's usually a pretty good sign as to things aren't working out too well
When you are an option in there lives, and they are not making time for you.
Threads merged
Anyway I really hate my ex soooooo much now!! We have had this weird on and off dating thing but now I am sick and tired of it so I broke up with him today. He was going to break up with me anyway because he wants to focus more on school cause he thinks freshman year is so important and that he is getting B's so his parents are yelling at him cause he is a straight A student. He also says that he has a lot on his mind and that he won't have time for me even though he hangs out with his friends and stupid gay reasons like that. I am just so tired of him hurting me like that and yet he wants me to wait till the end of this school year just to go back out with him! Ugh I hate him so much that I hope he dies!! Anyway I don't like him anymore but he is getting me really mad cause he is starting to say things about me behind my back. Can anyone tell me how I can take out my madness??
Are you the things he calls you? If not, then ignore them. Stop talking to him, and go live your life. Life is so much more than fighting, and on/off with a jerk. Don't waste anymore time with this guy. It will challenge your sanity, and make you "hard". A good relationship will come along when you least expect it. With a gentleman, not a punk. Good luck to you.
Thanks so much but I am just wondering how I should take out my anger cause I have so much I just don't know what to do with all it
Kick boxing! That is the best way! Don't kill any one.
You can go to a gym and connect with something or you can just kick the air until you fall over. :D
Lol well I have tried that and it really doesn't work for me. I just like want to go up and slap him
Anyway I have no idea what to do, it's so confusing. My ex is just so weird cause I have no idea if he likes me or just wants to use me. He told me the other day that he likes to kiss me and stuff but he hates all the school/public stuff. And he wants to be "really good friends," and kiss and stuff. So is he saying that he hates to be with me? And yet it seems to me that he likes this same girl still even though he knows that she doesn't like him, but he looks and talks to her like he does still likes her and yet he told me he knows it won't happen with her so he says he has moved on. And yet he treats me like in front of his friends. I feel used , so what should I do?
He is using you. Stop all contact with him and don't talk to him or be around him. If you do, he will use you more.
That's what I thought but it's so confusing cause at first he seems like he is really into me and then it gets out of hand at school or something. Cause he looks at this girl in a way that he likes her, but yet when me and him are together its like different.
A guy that likes you will never look at another girl as more than friends. Obviously he is playing with your head. You got to do what is best for you and not him. I am sure there will be tons of other guys that will treat you right. Leave this guy behind, and don't contact him anymore would be the best thing to do.Quote:
Originally Posted by Jordan Christin
K but I don't get it when he says that he is over her and yet does that stuff, Am I just imagining it or am I believing that he can have someone better then me?
Is this the guy from your previous posts?
Stop overthinking stuff. It doesn't matter anymore.Quote:
Originally Posted by Jordan Christin
You are way too hung up on what your ex is doing, thinking and saying. Free yourself from these games by leaving him alone. Forget if he can have someone better than you, worry about fixing your own issues and finding someone better than him. He is your ex. Both of you owe each other nothing. You are both NOW free to go pursue a life that fits your two as individuals.
Thanks I know that but its like he changes his mind about me, first he likes me and the hates me.
Seems like he likes you when he wants to kiss and "stuff". Try your hardest to stay away. You deserve better. Here, I found a quote for you. Hope it helps a little!
Relationships are like glass. Sometimes it's better to leave them broken than try to hurt yourself putting it back together.
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He wants to "kiss and stuff", but treats you bad in public? Can you handle dropping him ? Are you willing to do that? Because that's exactly what you need to do. If he can't treat you with respect when you're around other people, he's not worthy of even touching you.
Never forget that. Don't allow ANYONE to use you.
I wish you luck and happiness.
Then he's a wishy-washy so-and-so. He says what he knows you want to hear in order to keep you around and play mind games with you, then he tells you the truth.Quote:
Originally Posted by Jordan Christin
Thanks guys so much I will do that!!
He is your ex, keep it that way, and keep your distance.
Anyway, it been a while since I have been with my ex boyfriend. I still really miss him and I have tried to have other relationships and they haven't been really long, but what I don't get is why I can't get over him even though I am not dating him. And why none of my other relationships haven't last so long. Help!
One of the problems is that you're using other relationships to try and drive the first one out of your head.
Doesn't work very well, does it?
I can't tell you what this guy could give you that you're not getting now; I'm not you. You can figure it out for yourself, though, if you put some effort into it.
Whenever I've had a hard time getting over a breakup, I try and analyze my own feelings first. What's hardest for you about not being with this guy? Is it having to see mutual friends? Is it all the fantasies you had about being together forever that aren't going to come true anymore? Is it a sense of safety or security, or are you feeling a lack of comfort and love? Is it maybe all those things?
When you have a void in your life, for whatever reason, it's very romantic-seeming to think that there's someone out there who can fill in all the holes that the void created. It's also wrong. When you're missing something in your life, the very best thing you can do is identify it and then fill those holes in yourself. Again, this is just what I've done, but when I remind myself of how much I enjoy my own company - that I really can be happy without having a relationship - then I'm perfectly positioned to find someone who isn't going to "complete" me (since I'm already quite complete, thank you!), but someone who complements me.
So you want my advice? Stop trying to start relationships for the sake of having a relationship with someone. You won't be happy, and it won't be fair to the people you're dating since you're never going to find what you want when all you're really looking for is a substitute. Learn to be happy on your own, and the rest will just fall into place. I promise.
Like Fugue said, you are doing everything wrong. You are using rebound relationship to get over your ex, when what you actually need is to take care of yourself and heal. Start going to the gym, join an activity, volunteer... Take an active role in healing, not just passive.
Its just that my ex was really good I and really liked him and our relationship that we had for about 10 months he decided to break up with me cause he thinks that he is to good for me, never spends enough time with me, says he won't have time to know(which he kind of doesnt), he never really talks to me when I try to talk to him, I know his friends hate me.
That`s also something you are doing wrong. You are keeping contact with him. Cut the source of the pain, and the pain will go away. I had a relationship for 3 years, it is only a waste of time to think about the past. You will only be sad and never look toward the future. Let the past be, and start a new life WITHOUT him.
Is this the same guy as before? If so time to let it GO.
Stop dating for a while and be happy being who you are.
I am somewhat in the same situation but I haven't been in a relationship since I have broken up with my ex. Having these different relationships is not good because you are only dating them so you could get over your ex but you want because they aren't him. You need to give yourself time to heal and find the right person for you instead of rushing into another relationship.
So the other day I went to my ex's house to hang out cause were still very good friends. We played some video game first, then we wanted to go up a play the wii but it wouldn't work, so we decided to poke each and tickle each other, but soon it ended up at kissing. Now I am so confused and I don't know what to do! Were not even dating and I have no idea what is going on!! Help!! I need advise really badly!
If this is the same guy as in your other threads,reread the advice you've been given previously.
Yea but its been forever since we have really talked to each other and we have became great friends, and when I went over it was like we were back to dating all over and when we were kissing he kept holding me close to him
You haven't talked in ages but you have become great friends? How, if there's been no conversation?
My take on this is still that you're allowing this guy to mess with your head and you should stay well away from him and concentrate on your own life.
If you're only friends with him in hopes of rekindling your relationship, then you're setting yourself up for disappointment. I'm sure he's happy with the friends with benefits arranagement.
So if you're not on the same page, you're in for another heartbreak.
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