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He still the same as when we 1st met cuddling all the time kissing me telling me he loves me rings me all the time, texts me all the time, were together all the time accept for when he goes out with his mates on the odd occasion.. so I'm just wondering why hasn't he admitted it to me? As I know it's the truth he did kiss her and its not just a rumour?. why does he stay with me? Why hasn't he said yeah I kissed her instead of deneying it , I just do not understand why he wants to be with me if he kissed her ? What's to say he hasn't done anything else with other girls?? also I did giv it the benefit of the doubt then I found out he's been giving girls his number WHAT THE HELL, why would he do this.. then yesterday he said I'm going to be nice to you because you deserve to be happy , and today I find an email of a girl which was a reply to him giving her his phone number, I love him but all this is so confussing and tearing me apart what should I do?. HELP!

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Boys don't lie, individuals do, that includes girls. Find one that doesn't lie or mess with your head.

I agree. Everyone lies, you just need to find someone that will be more honest and faithful.

Well if he's giving out his phone number to girls all the time... then DUMP him!

Just because he cuddles and says he loves you doesn't mean anything. Actions speak louder than words, and his actions show shady behavior.

He might not have said anything to you because of fear for the way you would react. You seem to be very tense when you react to a situation (by reading your post), and this might be the reason he didn't say anything at all. I'm not saying this behavior is excusable in any manner but you wanted to know why he didn't mention it to you.

If you have solid proof that he's doing all these things without telling you, then the trust is broken and you need to talk to him. Actually I would say not to talk to him, because there is always the chance he'll try to win you back... it all depends on what you want and if you can trust him again. If you don't think you could forgive him and trust him again, then just end things and don't talk to him anymore.

Please stick to the same thread.

If you want to stay in this relationship, then stop analyzing it.
We have all recommended you gather up your self-esteem and leave him.
Without trust you don't have a relationship.
You have caught him in a lie. He hasn't been truthful since he was caught.
If you want to continue against everyone's advice, you can't come back and think that the advice itself will change.
You hold the key to how you will be treated, it's all downhill from here.

You keep wondering what's up and since you know what's up, why do you keep letting him get away with bad behavior and act normal about it like nothing is happening.

Instead of starting new threads about the same thing, get rid of the boyfriend. Until you do that, stay miserable.

When will you learn all the snooping isn't going change his ways? I guess your going play the private eye role throughout this entire relationship. Maybe one day you will smarten up or your just keep bumping your head into the wall.

You got all the advice you need but you chose to ignore it. Change start with you. Look at yourself in the mirror and ask yourself "why do you allow yourself to be with someone like him?"

Hello "Kelly". I'm sorry to hear of your problem. I can understand a little about what you're through. There is one catch in the "love" relationship with him. Your feelings have for him in your heart is very happy and content with the physical relationship too, except that he has a bad problem with lying among other things. Unfortunately, that's just part of him and his personality. I've been in a similar situation. If you love him so much you just have to except everything about him. If you think about your feelings, you may or may not decide that your feelings for him may only be infatuation or you feel a need to change him. The problem with that is that you can't "change" a person, no matter how hard you try. A person can't be changed unless they want to be changed. His lying problem is probably actually a fixation or simple weakness. My ex-wife has a bad lying problem. She lies to weave a very intricate story to achieve whatever she had in mind. So you can look on the bright side. It could be worse. So you can look "inside" yourself. Is he so important to you because he's the brightest point in your life? Is he the both most physically active and mentally complexing to initiate thought from you? These things may be signs of infatuation. His treatment of you may also have beaten your self-esteem down to a point that you don't feel that you're not good enough for anyone else. That of coarse probably depends a lot on how long you 2 have been together, and does depend very much on how you feel about yourself anyway. It is still a free country. You can leave him if you find that solution in your own heart, or you can stay. But if you decide that it's truly love that you have for him, then you have except everything about him and deal with any pain that might come with it. I can tell you for a fact though that with a person lie to extremes actually may not really be capable of love. They may just not understand what it really is. I'm not saying that of your catch. But that's the way mine was.

You are in denial and wishing for him to be the image you want him to be. I would even go as far as to say you are co dependent because you can't eat and you can't sleep...

So how many girls down the line in the years to come will it convince you that he is a no good cheating two timer?

He's your life? YOUR WHOLE LIFE? Surely there are things you like to do, and certainly did before he came into the picture.

KC is right. Time to get a new life, sans the jerk. You KNOW he did it, you KNOW he denied it, and you KNOW he's a liar who obviously does not respect or care for you. You're certainly not HIS life, and he doesn't seem to mind if you're in it or not.

This is a classic case of a person being turned into a doormat. Or maybe toilet paper. He's just wiping crap on you with lies and disrespectful attitude.

Why does he stay and cheat? Because he knows you'll put up with it. The end.

Let him go, girl. He's not going to change. Not even making him your "life" will do that.

Good luck.

I think you know when you don't have to ask if he does, to be honest. In other words, there won't be question. He will show it through his words and his actions.

I see what's going on. Didn't you just post to ask how you know if your boyfriend loves you? Leave him. Leave him now and never look back. If you're questioning this and he's cheating on you, forget it. This is no way to build a relationship.

Oh my gosh. Just one question will do. There is no need to post so many times. I realize you're hurt, upset, etc but this isn't going to get your questions answered any faster.

Leave him. Just leave. Don't waste any more time with him.

You don't need to either way, we can't read the question if we're still in bed you know?

That's a lot of questions
First, how old are you?

I've cheated once a while ago on one of my ex's, I was at a party, and things turned to things
But yeah, I fealt like crap, I didn't tell her, and she never found out, but I was guilty, and I ended up dumping her because I found out she had been cheating on me, funny world isn't it
What I'm trying to say is, every one is different and not every one is going to react the same way
People cheat because maybe their board and want a little more than the same person all the time, I don't know
But what I don't understand is, why don't you just dump your boyfreind if he cheated? Is he really worth it?

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Originally Posted by kelly10jonson

I'm so confused everyone says leave him,but i can't i love him so much its making me mad:| i don't sleep or eat and I'm so down. but when I'm with him I'm happy but i keep thinking god you've cheated then it brings me down again !!

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Obviously someone has been answering your questions

Every one has a Desire! And They Everything for it . You better Don't Worry! Where Some one is Waiting for U wrapping lots of love for u ! Its all happen when you keep more trust one Someone . Why do you still love a guy Where he doesn't keep your Trust . It is still no use . Relax!! Think about it .

Well I think your boyfriend has missed the best love that he had on earth . Unluck guy .

U keep on thinking and Worrying Doesn't Help ! Get rid of it soon !

Better questions would be:

Why do you keep associating yourself with someone who cheats?

Why don't you have more self-respect?

Why don't leave behind in the past and move on with your life?

Why don't you meet new people who aren't cheaters?

He's not the only person in the world!

You deserve better, so leave him behind.

If I had a girlfriend who asked the same question 50 different ways I would consider cheating as well. STOP starting threads over and over again. It will not get you more help.

I agree with I wish (had to spread the rep hun!) but figuring out why he did what he did... that won't really help. The only behavior you can control is your own. Facing reality can be a good start... fact is he cheated on you. He went behind your back and cheated on you. This shows a major lack of respect in my eyes.

What can you do about it?
Face the fact of what he did, and control your behavior... of course I'm just assuming, but if he cheated and when he was busted; he didn't even admit his actions to you... well hey more disrespect for you as a person...

Leave, you deserve better!

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STOP posting the same issue all over the site.
Stick to ONE thread!

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Originally Posted by kelly10jonson

yer well maybe if people answer my questions i wouldnt need to

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Your question has been answered so many times its really ridicules. You have been warned about the multiple posts and your still doing it. I don't know what will satisfy you but our advice has not, so this thread is closed, and any other will be deleted, until you can stop trolling for whatever it is your wanting to hear.