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Your questions aren't a bother, it's the fact that you don't listen to the advice that's the bother. If you had listened to the advice we gave you from the beginning you wouldn't be having these constant issues.

We care about what happens to you, and we're always willing to answer your questions, but at some point you actually have to learn something from the answers given, and so far that hasn't happened.

So I asked me da if I could start dating now I'm older and he said he didn't think it was a good idea, he said that he's proud of how well I'm doing in school and me grades and he doesn't want me to get distracted, I don't really agree with him seeing as I have been dating and Im still getting good grades but he,doesn't know that. Me da said if I keep up me behaviour and grades than in a couple of months he will see. So I told me boyfriend I have to break up with him because me da doesn't want me to date he wasn't to happy. Now it's just really awkward he's me tutor I see him just about everyday and it sucks I really really like him and its hard to just be friends. I don't know what to do. I realise I created this whole situation by not being open and honest with me da to begin with but I can't change that now I am trying though but it's very hard when I'm with him everyday and he doesn't make it easy. Do you think if I told me da that I was already dating and who that he might change his mind or would he just be super pissed

This guy never should have crossed that line with you. If he does not think he can be your tutor anymore, he should tell your dad and let him get someone else.
These kinds of things happen when you mix business and pleasure, when you do things you shouldn't. Thing get awkward.

I was thinking maybe we could just like keep seeing each other if me da is going to reconsider me dating in a couple of months anyway but that probably not a good decision I don't know it's hard not t o think about him when I see him all the time and we both still like each other. Don't understand why me da won't let me date don't see what the big deal is. Do you think it's because of the things I've done in the past or something.

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Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

This guy never should have crossed that line with you. If he does not think he can be your tutor anymore, he should tell your dad and let him get someone else.
These kinds of things happen when you mix business and pleasure, when you do things you shouldn't. Thing get awkward.

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It's only awkward because I had to break up with him

A lot of it is because of the things you have done in the past and what you are doing now. You are still being dishonest. Stay away from the guy. Tell your father you want another tutor.

"It's only awkward because I had to break up with him "
That is what I was saying. When you mix the two and something happens, things get awkward. You two should have never been dating and contemplating sex in the first place.

I can imagine how hard it is for you both to have feelings for each other and not being able to express them, but lets be very clear, you weren't dating, just sneaking in make out sessions between tutoring. Even this boyfriend/girlfriend stuff was all about sneaking around so that makes the break up bogus too!

You still see each other, but have NEW boundaries between you. Actually they are the same boundaries you both should have had before! It's a challenging adjustment to make but a healthy one for you both as you figure out how to OBEY the rules, and date later.

Looks like you both have to find a healthy way to deal with your LUST for each other. Of course you don't see the wisdom of your dad's thinking, because you are wrapped up in intense feelings (LUST) for each other.

More will be revealed later if you stick to your dad's program. Time to live up to your own USERNAME, and Think about it!

After reading these 48 responses, I get the feeling that this young lady is playing games for her entertainment. Yep keep them busy. Four questions in the "Questions" post. It seems that when you guys give her sound advice, she does not follow it. Always a way to come back with a new situation question. She needs to stop playing game on here. I know a few of you will strongly disagree with what I have said, but those are my feelings. Wonder what the next question will be?

If your dad is going to reconsider in a few months, tell the boy that. If he can't wait a few months, and respect your dads orders, then he's not the right guy for you anyway.