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Originally Posted by Someonee

Losing someone who was a big part of ur life isnt that easy

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No one said it would be easy.

I have to ask, did you cut yourself because she broke you up or before that? Are you seeing someone because of your depression? Have you talked with her about why she doesn't want you to date?

The way I see it, a 14 yr old that believes she is so in love with a boy that she can't live without him, is seriously troubled and needs professional help.

The only good thing I see in your posts is that you want to regain your mum's trust. But you fail to understand that, to do so, you have to stop the bad behavior that lost that trust in the first place. Ans where is this boy in this? Does he know about you cutting your wrists? If he cares about you, he would tell you to stop as well and work towards getting better.

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Originally Posted by ScottGem

No one said it would be easy.

I have to ask, did you cut yourself because she broke you up or before that? Are you seeing someone because of your
depression? Have you talked with her about why she doesn't want you to date?

no ,after it happened bec I dk how to work this out. Yes. No she's just against the idea of dating early.

The way I see it, a 14 yr old that believes she is so in love with a boy that she can't live without him, is seriously troubled and needs professional help.

The only good thing I see in your posts is that you want to regain your mum's trust. But you fail to understand that, to do so, you have to stop the bad behavior that lost that trust in the first place. Ans where is this boy in this? Does he know about you cutting your wrists? If he cares about you, he would tell you to stop as well and work towards getting better.

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No ,after it happened because I dk how to work this out. Yes. No she's just against the idea of dating early.

I told him once or twice but ge actually gets mad at me and tries to stop me,so I don't always tell him about it

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Originally Posted by Someonee

I told him once or twice but ge actually gets mad at me and tries to stop me,so I dont always tell him about it

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And what does cutting accomplish besides disrespecting your boyfriend (and yourself) and upsetting him?

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

And what does cutting accomplish besides disrespecting your boyfriend (and yourself) and upsetting him?

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Nth up till now but,if it succeeded ,it would accomplish a lot

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Nth up till now but,if it succeeded ,it would accomplish a lot

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Like what?

So you think your mom will change her mind about your boyfriend when she finds out you are cutting?

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Originally Posted by N0help4u

So you think your mom will change her mind about your bf when she finds out you are cutting?

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No,I think I'd die if I cut them deeply?

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

Like what?

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Like dying?

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Originally Posted by Someonee

No,I think I'd die if I cut them deeply?

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You would PERMANENTLY leave your boyfriend alone, without any hope to be with you in the future? And your mum -- how would she feel if you died?

It obvious your definition of dating is different than your moms and it scares her. Lying and going behind her back scares her too. If she knew you were cutting then she would really be scared. You need to know its not a matter of trust right now, as NO PARENT trusts their 14 year old completely. We parents know that no matter how smart you may be that there are things beyond your control that can harm, hurt, and cause trouble, so she follows you to protect you, out of love and concern. That's her job.

What I would do is talk about the dating thing and while you obey her, she may still let you have him as friend. But under her rules. But you better get with the fact she knows you are up to something devious and against her wishes because parents are smarter than 14 year olds and know when something is up.

Do this the right way, and you may get better results and don't have to lie, sneak, and cut, or be depressed because you can't have what you want right now. You will NEVER have trust doing what you are doing and that's for sure.

You want trust, then you have to be completely honest.

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

You would PERMANENTLY leave your boyfriend alone, without any hope to be with you in the future? And your mum -- how would she feel if you died??

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If I didn't and she found out,I'd be leaving him too.

Your immaturity is coming through. You are nowhere near ready for dating. You are manipulating your mother and boyfriend with your life. What you are doing is stinking thinking.
Obey your mom and get some counseling. When she sees you are serious about being good and getting some help, she will begin to trust you in time.

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Originally Posted by Someonee

If I didnt and she found out,I'd be leaving him too.

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But not permanently. I'm sure you and your mum could work out something so you could call him and spend time with him.