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  • Aug 6, 2007, 12:08 PM
    ScottGem
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by babz888
    well am 15 and am dating a 29 year old...i luv him n wudnt change him for the world!!! i fink if yous r happy together...go for it...xOx:)

    I strongly suggest you get counseling. The only thing a 29 year old wants from a 15 year old is sex. And if you are having sex with him he's going to jail! Where are your parents in this?

    This creep is exploiting you! I know you won't believe me, but I guarantee it. You will find out to your detriment in the not too distant future.
  • Aug 9, 2007, 12:46 PM
    Confused_On_Color
    It's illegal unless you are having intercorse with out the girls parents consent. If you have their consent to date her then no it is completely legal
  • Aug 9, 2007, 12:55 PM
    Ash123
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by babz888
    well am 15 and am dating a 29 year old...i luv him n wudnt change him for the world!!! i fink if yous r happy together...go for it...xOx:)

    Your boyfriend is breaking the law, but I know it is a HOT and fun affair... but be careful.
    I know he's a great guy but the law is not so sure... what does he do for a living if I may ask?
  • Aug 9, 2007, 02:59 PM
    talaniman
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Lowtax4eva
    It's also worth mentionning this is a post originally from March, so whatever happened already happened. They probably dated and broke up by now.

    Or some one put his smart A$$ in jail.:eek:
  • Aug 9, 2007, 04:31 PM
    babz888
    No we've been dating for about a year now... I lied about my age for about the 1st 6 months because I bad and went clubbin and he happened to be in that club... I told him I was 19... we dated and I started to really like him and then I decided to tell him... he was angry and unhappy at the start but he z he loved me and if my mum was OK with it he like to carry on the way we were.. my mum was upset when I told her but agreed.. she z she would only do it to make me happy... xOx p.s... dnt c y his should b in jail... and I don't need conselling.. ive had it.. thnkx for the advice anyway.
  • Aug 9, 2007, 04:53 PM
    ScottGem
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by babz888
    No we've been dating for about a year now...i lied about my age for about the 1st 6 months because i bad and went clubbin and he happened to be in that club ...i told him i was 19 ...we dated and i started to really like him and then i decided to tell him...he was angry and unhappy at the start but he z he loved me and if my mum was ok with it he like to carry on the way we were.. my mum was upset when i told her but agreed ..she z she would only do it to make me happy... xOx p.s ...dnt c y his should b in jail...and i dont need conselling..ive had it..thnkx for the advice anyway.

    OK, that does change the situation somewhat. At least he makes him less of an exploiter. But if you are having sex, then he stands a good chance of going to jail. Whether your parents consent or not, in many states statutory rape laws don't take consent into account. An adult have sex with an minor means jail, period. If ANYONE reports this to the police, he's in big trouble.

    And I would try a different counselor. Obviously the one you worked with didn't help.
  • Aug 9, 2007, 04:54 PM
    ScottGem
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Confused_On_Color
    It's illegal unless you are having intercorse with out the girls parents consent. If you have their consent to date her then no it is completely legal


    Huh? Its illegal IF you are having sex whether the parents consent or not. If not illegal to just date.
  • Aug 9, 2007, 05:00 PM
    babz888
    Well I live in the uk... not legal to have sex until your 16... everyone no's we're dating and everyone seems to be happy with us being together because we seem to be making each other happy. I think I may be pregnant to him atm but haven't taken a test to comfirm it. We're in love.
    I was depressed for a while when I was 13.. have been seeing a counselor ever since, actually been seeing 2. both of them said it was a bad idea,when I 1st told them then they both seen a change for the worst in me again as they both told me I had to end it.. I don't think they mind me dating him now.. think they o I am in love... he won't go to jail, I'll simply say I lied about my age... I have fake i.d and could easily prove he didn't no. xox

    Ash123... hes a postman :)
  • Aug 9, 2007, 05:42 PM
    ScottGem
    Well I don't know about the laws in the UK, but if you are pregnant he could very well be going to jail. May not matter if you lied. In many places just the fact of having sex with a minor may land him in jail.

    Frankly, I don't think you are in love, you are in love with the idea of being in love. Someone treats you like an adult and cares for you and that makes you feel better. But as soon as you told him, he should have distanced himself from you.
  • Aug 10, 2007, 04:01 AM
    babz888
    He didn't distance himself from me and I'm 100% sure I'm in love :) he won't go to jail :) x
  • Aug 10, 2007, 05:15 AM
    talaniman
    So sad your life is built around lies and deceit, and to keep it, you must keep lying and decieving people. Doesn't sound like a healthy way to live, and it sure ain't love.
  • Aug 10, 2007, 05:29 AM
    babz888
    Well it was like that... its not anymore... he knows what age I am now so hardly built round lies and deciet... it was only abit of fun at the start of the relationship until we started getting close... I feel in love with him... we're in love... no1's goina change that...
  • Aug 10, 2007, 06:57 AM
    ScottGem
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by babz888
    he didnt distance himself from me and i'm 100% sure im in love :) he wont go to jail :) x

    You don't know that he won't. It may not be up to you. The fact is he had sex with an underage minor. Whether it was consensual, whether he believed she was legal may not matter. I wopuld suggest he consult a solicitor immediately.

    Quote:

    Originally Posted by babz888
    well it was like that...its not anymore...he knows wht age i am now so hardly built round lies and deciet....it was only abit of fun at the start of the relationship until we started gettin close...i feel in love with him...we're in love...no1's goina change that...

    The relationship still started with deceit. This means there may always be an element of doubt in his mind about your honesty. Again, you may think you are in love. You may actually be in love. But given your age and history, I would venture to say that its more likely you are just infatuated and while no person may change that, I suspect time will.
  • Aug 10, 2007, 07:18 AM
    babz888
    It won't... I no it won't and so does he... we're getting married nxt year when I'm 16. I don't care what anyone says we're both determined... just because you may have doubts if a girl lied to you don't mean he will... I had my reasons and he noes that. Xox
  • Aug 10, 2007, 09:39 AM
    Ash123
    My guess: divorce by 25. But I hope I'm wrong.
  • Aug 10, 2007, 09:40 AM
    babz888
    I hope you are to lol... I doubt it though :) x
  • Aug 10, 2007, 10:25 AM
    nicespringgirl
    Is that your pic? U look much older than 13... U look older than I am, guess how old I am?
  • Aug 10, 2007, 10:26 AM
    babz888
    Lol you look about 19 :):) and your v.pretty.. I am 15 and yes that's me in the picture xOx
  • Aug 10, 2007, 10:30 AM
    nicespringgirl
    LOL, thank you!nah, I am older than that:D
  • Aug 10, 2007, 10:30 AM
    babz888
    Lol how old are you? :)

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