Ask Me Help Desk - How can I possibly get her back

You know at first you are upset because you thought your girlfriend believed something someone told her, and now you're saying you are believing something someone told you.
This is what you need to do. Leave her alone until she contacts you. The why, at this point is immaterial. She will either contact you or she won't. It's her choice.

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You know at first you are upset because you thought your girlfriend believed something someone told her, and now you're saying you are believing something someone told you.
This is what you need to do. Leave her alone until she contacts you. The why, at this point is immaterial. She will either contact you or she won't. It's her choice.

That's what I thought at first and then I just had it mixed up in my head because I was just thinking to hard and I don't have to believe what someone said because I for one saw it for myself.. And OK but I would think he would because we have been through so much and I know her and I know she wouldn't be done like that and or throwing everything away just like that... So yeah I'm going to wait.

Good.

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good.

Yeah.. Could she be thinking about me just like I'm thinking about her?

I don't know. She could be.

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I don't know. She could be.

Because when we last talked which was yesterday. She said that she was still crying and still has everything I gave her.

I don't know. I would imagine this whole thing is stressful. And isn't she recovering from surgery? She does not need any of this drama

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I don't know. I would imagine this whole thing is stressful. And isn't she recovering from surgery? She does not need any of this drama

Ya she can't really do much plus she can't be in the sun for a long time due to her health issues.. She's suppose to be at the hospital but she's at her cousins house instead and the nurses don't even know where or know why she not there.

How do you know this?

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How do you know this?

My girlfriend told me. Plus my friend that goes to see my girlfriend asked me why she not there and telling me that the nurses don't even know why she hasn't came back

Well the nurses would not be having a conversation with your friend about her any way. That is not allowed.
You need to just stop listening to things and wait until she contacts you again.
What was wrong with her?

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Well the nurses would not be having a conversation with your friend about her any way. That is not allowed.
You need to just stop listening to things and wait until she contacts you again.
What was wrong with her?

She had a stomach alsure and they took it out of her and plus before, she was passing out a lot and unconscious a lot. She has a lot of health issues and that's why she is suppose to be at the hospital.. and that girl telling my girlfriend things that weren't true didn't help at all and it made her think about it and alexis got into her head.. she doesn't need that drama.. and my girlfriend knows that I didn't say that and I have proof on Facebook that I never told my friend to tell alexis that I don't want her and that she doesn't make me happy and that I have other girls to mess around with.. plus my girlfriend was already upset because she couldn't see me and that caused stuff as well when she told me over the phone that we can never get to see each other and stuff and I even told her that we do and that she needed to be patient about everything going on because she was in the hospital and I understood that she was and I wasn't even mad about that at all. I was there for her time and need and then she said that she thought she was holding me back from everything and friends and I even told her that she wasn't. So she's really stressed about what alexis told her but I told her myself how I felt about her and she is just seeming like she stressed and stuck..

She needs to stop listening to gossip and just concentrate on getting better. Dating and be stressful. She could need a break.
You need to stop thinking about all of this so much. It does you no good either.

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Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

She needs to stop listening to gossip and just concentrate on getting better. Dating and be stressful. She could need a break.
You need to stop thinking about all of this so much. It does you no good either.

OK what you think I could do to not think about it so much?

Do you have friends, a hobby, a job? Stay busy. Stop listening to people who want to talk about her. Tell them you don't want to hear it.
It's summer. Get out and have some fun.. . and don't check her facbook page if she has one.

Yeah but I know she feels down and stuff and probably thinking about me and plus she can't do much of anything in the condition she's in right now and she doesn't have a Facebook..

What does that have to do with your getting out and doing something beside stewing over what she may or may not be doing?
She will be fine.

But I know she's hurting just like I am..

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What does that have to do with your getting out and doing something beside stewing over what she may or may not be doing?
She will be fine.

But I know she's hurting just like I am..

There is nothing you can do for her if she is, but you can get out and not sit around moping. That is if you really want to.