Ask Me Help Desk - Why is he acting this way if he has a girlfriend? Does he have feelings for me? HELP

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Originally Posted by EddieW3

I can see how this can be very confusing for you. First off it is possible that flirting is just his personality. I personally flirt with everyone i know friends, significant others, guy, girl, siblings, parents, pets, and sometimes even inanimate objects. It might not mean that he likes you like that. You might need to pay attention to how he acts around other people as well. Now if it is just you that he acts like this around then its possible that he feels very comfortable with you. I would say ask him strait up, but if he is anything like me he will probably make a joke out of it. He might not know his own feelings yet and like both you and his gf, in which case he needs to figure out what he wants. It is also possible that he does like you, but is afraid to lose you as a friend. If you like him back then id suggest you either casually bring up, elude to it, or throw it in as a joke and watch his reaction.

I hope this helps.

Leave the guy alone... he has already made it clear how he feels. Don't pursue someone who has made you feel like he has made you feel. He and your friend deserve each other and you need to move on. Good Luck

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Originally Posted by Kitkat22

Leave the guy alone...he has already made it clear how he feels. Don't pursue someone who has made you feel like he has made you feel. He and your friend deserve each other and you need to move on. Good Luck

Kit, there a reason you quoted me ?

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Originally Posted by EddieW3

kit, there a reason you quoted me ?

Nm disregard, I didn't see the other 5 pages... my post was a response to the original question without the updates

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Originally Posted by EddieW3

nm disregard, i didn't see the other 5 pages ... my post was a response to the original question without the updates

You are learning. It takes time but you're doing fine:)

Thanks everyone for the help, sorry I don't know why it keeps reposting all my questions into this thread its annoying me as much as its annoying you so I'm just going to stop I'm over it

Because all of your threads are about the same person, they are pertinent.
You keep asking different questions hoping to get different answers. It's not going to happen.
Leave the guy alone. He's playing you

Keep on posting.. that's why we're here.

Will we get a second chance?

The end of my freshman year of High school and beginning of summer, I was dating this wonderful guy vinny who was a junior. However, he happened to be the older brother of a good friend of mine (sam) who was on my volleyball team. When we first started dating, she said she didn't care. We went on 2 dates, and after that she asked me to end it because it was uncomfortable for her. (she has called him once to have him pick her up and he couldn't because he was taking me out.. that was what changed for her) her friendship means a lot to me and since our families are also close I decided to end things between me and him. In the end, I feel it was the better decision, we are all still friends and stay in touch throughout the years. However, this past weekend I went to sam's graduation party (we both just graduated H.S.) and he was there of course. He hugged me and we talked throughout the party, he sat next to me at dinner, and all those feelings came back but this time even stronger for me. I'm starting to think that maybe I am meant to be with this guy and it was just bad timing the first time. I don't know if he would ask me out again since I ended things before or if he'd even want to, but I don't know how to let him know that I am more than willing to go out with him again in case he does. He's super close with sam and his other sister and I'm afraid that if I do send him something online or text that he would show them and everything would go out of control. I don't know if I'll see him again this summer long enough to bring it up. What do you think I should do?

I think you should go with your gut instinct.

Its not fair to you either that your friend is prohibiting you from seeing this guy. She needs to grow up and let go.

Maybe things will be different now. If you want to go for it, then go for it. Its better to have at least tried instead of living with regret.

I'll doubt he'll show his friends or your friends everything you text to him. That'd be pretty immature if he did.

Give it a try! Text him.. texting goes straight to his personal cell phone. Writing things on the Inet is a little bit more broadcasty...

Good luck you

Your life is yours for you to live it, with whoever you want, no one has the right to dictate who you do or don't spend your time with.

I would be most annoyed if a friend of mine tried to tell me who I could or couldn't associate with, and I would rethink my friendship with her.

My friends wouldn't do this though because they are my friends, and friends just don't impose themselves on each other like that they accept us for who and what we are and they respect our choices too.

Yes send him a text she won't have to see it, its none of her business anyway, she doesn't own you...

Do what feels right for you At ALL times...

Do you think your friend will ask you to stop seeing him again?? Has she gotten over her discomfort?

I would surely ask her, IF this guy pursues you. Until you know for sure say nothing to her.

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I don't know if I'll see him again this summer long enough to bring it up. What do you think I should do?

Maybe this is beyond you if you don't expect him to be around. Best to wait, and find out. I was going to say be bold and see, but that may be a bit forward, and premature. But you said you have stayed in contact with him though.. (See if he will go out with you, and worry about the friends reaction later. I hope you and your friend have grown up a bit since last time, or it's the same crap all over again.)