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  • Jul 10, 2009, 11:21 PM
    toddman
    Yea I know
    Like now its like I still want to like this girl but at the same time I don't want to anymore cause its anyoing wating it out, but its hard to stop liking her cuase I really like her. So its hard still no matter what. But still I want to keep the same feelings towad this girl but I don't know how to keep my mind of how much I like her
  • Jul 11, 2009, 06:28 AM
    Homegirl 50

    You either like someone or you don't.
    You can say "I want to like her but only a little bit" It does not work like that.

    You are wanting something you have no right to and you need to grow up and leave it alone.
    The girl has a boy friend, leave her alone. You don't need to tell her you like her, it's not her problem. If you care about her as a friend you will leave her alone.
  • Jul 12, 2009, 09:00 PM
    toddman
    Girls checking me out
    I'm 16 years old turning 17 in a couple of weeks so to start
    Yesterday I was at Wild Waves and I was in line for this one ride( a roller coster)
    I was in line I was was at the front (next one to go) and in the roler coster I saw a girl looking at me, and I saw her pointing at me and telling her friend next to her to look, then as the cart was going she waved at me and all I did was smile them was about to wave back but the cart went of to fast, then after that I didn't see her again, I wish I could have meet up wioth her after me ride ended cuase then I coul dhave actually talked to her and get to know her but no I didn't see her again:(
    This situation helped me ( like I meen it gave me a little more confidence in my like because that was like problay the first girl I have noticed that was kindof checking me out :)
    But the only bad part about this is I couldn't see this girl after the ride was over,
    And like that was probably on the first girls that actually noticed me and I couldn't do anything about it cuase we never meet up after:(
    Has like anyone had anything happen like this, or anyone just want to comment about this please do so
  • Jul 12, 2009, 11:55 PM
    HelpinHere

    Hmm... why don't you try by asking a girl out? Don't wait for the perfect moment, because you have to make it for yourself.

    Make the first move. Don't believe the "girls like ________ type of guys" stereotype, girls like all kinds of guys just like guys like all kinds of girls. There's a great thread going about that by NallaNeedsYou, I suggest you look into it.

    Obviously, you're not undesirable, so go out there and make a name for yourself!
  • Jul 28, 2009, 01:47 AM
    toddman

    Well I finnaly told her, I know everyone here said that I shouldn't tell her but my friend told me I should and then that friend pushed me to tell that girl I like her, so I did
  • Jul 28, 2009, 06:30 AM
    kctiger
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by toddman View Post
    well i finnaly told her, i know everyone here said tht i shouldnt tell her but my freind told me i should and then that friend pushed me to tell that girl i like her, so i did

    Your friend has zero class, and you need to learn to be a man and think for yourself. I hope karma doesn't bite you on the a$$ someday.

    Side Note: I can't tell you how many women I have liked that had/have a boyfriend. Once I learn that they have a boyfriend, I am GONE! Respect that, ALWAYS.
  • Jul 28, 2009, 06:47 AM
    shazamataz

    Indeed kc.

    And what did she say?
  • Jul 28, 2009, 08:24 AM
    Homegirl 50
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by toddman View Post
    well i finally told her, i know everyone here said that i shouldnt tell her but my friend told me i should and then that friend pushed me to tell that girl i like her, so i did

    Own up to your own choice dude. Your friend did not push you to do anything. You did it because it was what you wanted to do and you got some reinforcement from him.
    What you did was wrong and selfish.
    I hope no one pulls that on you when you have someone in your life.
  • Jul 28, 2009, 10:37 AM
    HelpinHere
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by toddman View Post
    well i finnaly told her, i know everyone here said tht i shouldnt tell her but my freind told me i should and then that friend pushed me to tell that girl i like her, so i did

    Well, that was your choice, don't blame your "friend".
    You came here for help. Your friends couldn't help you, and the people here who have all lived through it before told you what the right thing to do was. Instead of listening, you did what you wanted anyway.
    That was your choice.

    Now, the question remains, how did she react?
  • Jul 28, 2009, 01:26 PM
    toddman

    She acted pretty well, like she wasent mad at me for telling her, and she said things won't get akward. She also said that " I kind of see you more as a friend though"
    And she said she was glad that I told her to.
  • Jul 28, 2009, 02:35 PM
    N0help4u

    Be a friend if you try to show any interest like pushy type interest she could end up backing off. Be yourself and she might start liking you back
  • Jul 28, 2009, 06:06 PM
    chuff

    I disagree with you saying it but at the same time I hope you learned a lesson from it. Which begs the question... Did you learn anything from this experience?
  • Aug 16, 2009, 01:04 AM
    toddman
    I don't know I didn't learn a lot from this it just I prob should have like her in the first place or something but the reason I liked her was cause of her personalty is great and she's a great girl :)
    But yea I still can't get over her cause I still like her and that's still cause I can't stop thinking about her cause I don't know why
  • Aug 20, 2009, 08:07 PM
    toddman
    Why do I still like her and how do I get my mind of it
    Everyone whose watching my questions probably already knows about the thing with the one girl that I have liked for such along time now, (she has a boy) and she said like she "kind of thinks of me more as a friend though: (that was when I told her) but yea I still have feeling for her
    Why do I still like her, and like I can't get her out of my mind though and why should I still be thinking about this still even though this happened a few weeks ago
  • Aug 29, 2009, 12:11 PM
    toddman
    How do you get in a relationship
    I know the way you get in a relationship is asking someone out, but I mean like how do you get yourself in to one, cause for one thing I have never been in a relationship cause I don't know how I can get myself a girlfriend
    And I don't know what it is like to have one, so can anyone help me please??
    And one more thing is I can never get one cause like most of the time I like a girl that is already in a relationship.
  • Aug 29, 2009, 12:26 PM
    I wish

    You tell a girl how you feel. If the girl feels the same way, then you take the next step. The next step is to define how you want to proceed forward. Do you want to be exclusive? Do you want to have a casual dating relationship? These are things that you discuss with your significant other. If the other person doesn't feel the same way, then you find someone else.
  • Aug 29, 2009, 12:29 PM
    mudweiser

    How old are you?

    Unfortunately age really plays a part in how you get in relationships.

    If your 13, it's normal, your just growing up, you have a lot of maturing to do.

    If your 29, then you may have some issues you need to work on.

    Sarah
  • Aug 29, 2009, 12:30 PM
    toddman
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by mudweiser View Post
    How old are you?

    Unfortunately age really plays a part in how you get in relationships.

    If your 13, it's normal, your just growing up, you have a lot of maturing to do.

    If your 29, then you may have some issues you need to work on.

    Sarah

    I'm 17 years old
  • Aug 29, 2009, 12:31 PM
    britEl

    You have to continuously build your relationship with the girl that you like to the point in which you both have feelings for each other. You need to make sure they are single before starting a relationship with them.
  • Aug 30, 2009, 11:38 AM
    talaniman

    Have fun with ALL the girls, make friends, and get to know them, and when you find one who is unattached, ask her out. If she says no, ask out another one.

    The thing is to know them, have fun with them, and be comfortable, and confident around them. The best way to do that, I think, is to be friendly, and attentive to them ALL.

    The more you hang out with them as friends, the more fun you'll have.

    Some may not like you, but most will, and you'll be surprised who is attracted to you.

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