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  • Jul 24, 2009, 03:43 PM
    DrJ
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by shelbybelle13 View Post
    well as a matter of fact my dad built the church so i go everyday we have it..and i'm allowed to date i already have plenty of times i just dnt know what 2 do...

    Going to church doesn't make you a good person any more than standing in a garage makes you a car.

    Bottom line... you're 13. Enjoy it. It doesn't last very long and when it's gone, you will miss it. This boy is 16 and obviously after different things. At that age, they are likely all going to be. That time will come soon enough. Don't rush it. Find a boyfriend that you can experience being 13 with.

    And don't worry about this kid in some other town... how fun could that be? School will start soon enough and I am sure you will find plenty of boys your age there that even live close to you.

    Hopefully, you will come to see that life isn't about looking cool. Don't take that the wrong way... I still know people older than I am that still do that. But just learn how to make the best of it for yourself and enjoy it.

    That's it... I'm done. :D
  • Jul 24, 2009, 04:06 PM
    N0help4u

    What ever happened to innocent childhood
    At her age I was more upset
    That I wasn't allowed a Barbie doll
    Nylons, make up or earrings,
    The other kids were allowed to go a block further away than I was.
    Street lights coming on meant time to go in the house
    That I was never picked for a team in gym until last.
    If the girl in front of me was going to pick on me
    Or the boy behind me was going to be mean
    If my mom was going to let me have a quarter to go to buy an ice cream cone
    And father knew best
  • Jul 24, 2009, 04:44 PM
    kml_in_cali

    When I was 13/14 I dated older guys like you. At the time I was convinced that they really liked/loved me, that there was no way they were one of "those guys" that were just trying to get some, blah blah blah.

    Some of them did turn out to be horny teenage boys (what a surprise) that only wanted action. The other one's were genuinely good guys, but they weren't right for me because of the age difference.
    NO MATTER how mature you are at 13, you don't have the same amount of life experience as a 16 years old. While you two might genuinely like each other, it WILL create conflict farther on.
    I would go for the 13 year old IF he's a good guy AND you genuinely like him. Make sure not to go for him though if you only became interested after you heard he likes you!
    I've done that, too. Trust me, it never works and you just end up hurting the guy when you realize that you didn't like him, but only the attention that he gave you. Stay away from that trap.

    Bottom line is, dating a sixteen year old probably isn't a good idea. Dating a thirteen year old might be OK.
    But don't forget that being single is PERFECT in and of itself
  • Jul 24, 2009, 05:00 PM
    jenniepepsi

    Got to spread the rep nohelp. But Yes definitely!

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