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  • Aug 11, 2008, 08:25 PM
    ylaira
    Jamie Lynn 16 when got pregnant. Spears's family could have charged the Bf statutory rape because they have more money than the guy for sure but they didn't. Maybe they will if the guy is 37.
  • Aug 11, 2008, 08:31 PM
    N0help4u
    You are asking a lot of what if's based on a bunch of different scenerio's who knows what Spears parents would have done if he was 37 but SOME states the hospital will notify the law if a pregnant minor's baby's dad is over the legal age to be with her.
  • Aug 12, 2008, 05:55 AM
    ScottGem
    Ylaira,
    Lets look at some of the examples you cite. In the case of Celine Dion, he was her mentor. The question is did they start a romantic relationship until she was of age? In the case of Jamie Lynn Spears, the boy could have been prosecuted, maybe her parents decided not to for a variety of reasons, but he is a lot closer in age.

    That, in the vast majority of cases, a 38 yr old would be interested in a 17 yr old for only one thing, sex. Sure they may be exceptions, but they are rare. Are you willing to take the chance in this case? Would you allow your daughter to have such a relationship? I know I wouldn't allow my daughter to do it.

    Encouraging or just condoning such a relationship on the possibility it might work out is plain wrong.
  • Aug 12, 2008, 06:00 AM
    N0help4u
    ... and according to your logic ylaira then what is to stop a 58 year old guy from being with a 17 year old? You might as well not have any laws other than for minors (say age 15) can not be with anybody sexually and anything else is fair game.
  • Aug 12, 2008, 06:28 AM
    liz28
    I believe the only reason she thinks it's okay because she is having a online relationship with a guy 29 years older then her. So this may be the reason she accepts it more.
  • Aug 12, 2008, 06:32 AM
    ScottGem
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by liz28
    I believe the only reason she thinks it's okay because she is having a online relationship with a guy 29 years older then her. So this may be the reason she accepts it more.

    Ylaira is? Well that explains it.
  • Aug 12, 2008, 06:34 AM
    N0help4u
    Yep
    https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...ng-222493.html

    https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...re-223969.html

    Also she is from another country and doesn't understand the way it is in the USA.
  • Aug 12, 2008, 02:04 PM
    ylaira
    Believe me I understand every posts here and I see I am alone. If Im the mother, It would be much acceptable for me too to see my daughter dating someone close to her age. If its my 15 year old daughter dating 36 yr old man, we'll have "Martial Law" until she'll be 17. Just my point is, this girl is 17. In months time, she'll be 18.

    Will the ill feelings will go away when her daughter reached 18? Probably not. The truth is, people here we're against the age gap ywhile she's barely adult NOT BECAUSE she's "still have more months to be 18". Its crucial time to prepare her daughter on what's life out there. If the daughter will be used sex alone, the daughter should sense that on her own. Parents were biased. They will insists on what they think is right while children think " I'll see it on my own mom." As for the risk, men on the same age even 20's, 30's, 40's or 50's, you will encounter sex maniacs thats why proper training for decision making on her daughter's part is a must.

    Again, Im not advocating it, I just showing the other side of things. It's a worldwide culture that partners should be IDEALLY CLOSE in age. Even my friends and family's forehead wrinkles when I tell them my bf is 20+ yrs older than I am. I feel bad but that's their opinion.....and its alright. Just too bad for affected parties like her daughter and her bf.
  • Aug 18, 2008, 12:31 AM
    hiyaparis
    Honestly you can't stop love nomatter the age.

    But if she was my daughter she'd be in a hot mess with me and her father.

    Personally for me age does mater.3 or 5 that's OK but more than that? Nah it isint going down like that
  • Aug 18, 2008, 01:01 AM
    iAMfromHuntersBar
    I know that this thread is no longer really about the OPs question, but did no-one else heed NeedKarma's post (#3) and have a look at some of her other posts?

    I smell a troll!
  • Aug 18, 2008, 01:06 AM
    ChihuahuaMomma
    Is this the same 17 year old with the 19 year old boyfriend that is pregnant? She is saying that someone was using her profile, a friend. And that she stopped it... Who really knowS?
  • Aug 18, 2008, 05:14 AM
    liz28
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by ylaira
    Believe me I understand every posts here and I see I am alone. If Im the mother, It would be much acceptable for me too to see my daughter dating someone close to her age. If its my 15 year old daughter dating 36 yr old man, we'll have "Martial Law" until she'll be 17.

    Why you would even allow or consider a 15 year old to date a 36 year old is beyond me. How can you think that you can opposed "martial law" is also beyond me. Do you really think or believe a 36 year wants to date a 15 year old because they have something in common. He done lived most of his life while hers is just beginning. Also, unless you plan on following them every second, do you really think that they won't be having sex, and if so, will it real matter since you have already allowed your daughter to be place in this situation. I'll never allowed this.
  • Aug 23, 2008, 06:59 AM
    FullOfSecrets
    Maybe he's paying her? Or she's forced to date that guy? Does she knows that you know about this?. if shi doesn't pretend they you'r makign up a story about a tteen dating and old 30 yr's old.. and ask her if it's right?. and stuffs make up smth.
  • Aug 24, 2008, 02:41 AM
    biatchzzz
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by amy321
    I need help with this. I found out that my 17 year old went out with a 38 year old. Can't that man get in trouble for that? I dont think she should date someone that old. Do you think it is right for someone that age to date someone that old? Can people date someone that old when you are that age? Is it right or wrong? :confused:

    It sounds wrong but he can't get into trouble cause she is over the age of 16
    Try to talk to him and tell him to leave her alone.

    Good luck
  • Aug 24, 2008, 02:44 AM
    ChihuahuaMomma
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by biatchzzz
    it sounds wrong but he can't get into trouble cause she is over the age of 16
    try to talk to him and tell him to leave her alone.

    good luck

    Actually no, this depends on where she lives.
  • Aug 24, 2008, 08:38 AM
    subho123
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by amy321
    I need help with this. I found out that my 17 year old went out with a 38 year old. Can't that man get in trouble for that? I dont think she should date someone that old. Do you think it is right for someone that age to date someone that old? Can people date someone that old when you are that age? Is it right or wrong? :confused:

    While age is no doubt a factor for apprehended relationship, but much will depend upon your daughter. If she is willing to have relationship with the man, none can stop this.

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