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  • Aug 2, 2014, 08:13 AM
    Homegirl 50
    You have a baby and you are worried if your 1 year old boy friend of less than a month is cheating.
    Grow up girl. Take care of your son and leave the boys alone. You are so busy thinking about yourself and having a boyfriend, you are making silly choices.
    You are not mature enough for any of this.
  • Aug 2, 2014, 08:32 AM
    talaniman
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by QueenLiz View Post
    NEVER call me Princess! Also, if he is cheating on me, to paraphrase Jay-Z "He got 99 problems and i'm about to be one"

    It's QUEEN, not princess, right?

    Worry about YOUR problems and forget the wine bearing friend with benefits that you don't even know if he cheated or not. All that love talk doesn't mean it's him and you forever, or if he takes it that way. A few posts ago he wasn't that kind of guy. I told you all things can change really fast, especially 16 year olds FEELINGS, and understanding.

    You'll learn, by listening, or the hard way, attitude, or NOT! Amazing how fast you cop one.
  • Aug 2, 2014, 08:56 AM
    ScottGem
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by QueenLiz View Post
    I think the relationship is over, you were all right, I shouldn't have said "I love you" so fast.

    I really hate to say I told you so, but the two of you are 16! How long is it going to take for you to understand. You let one boy in your pants and now you have a child that is dependent on you. When the father of your child left, you jumped right in with another boy who only wanted you because you were easy. Then you went back to a long term friend who became the love of your life. Can't you see the pattern here? When are you going to realize that we are adults with experience. We have gone through what you are going through or we have seen others go through it. We are trying to help you avoid all the pitfalls, but you ask for that help and then ignore the advice.

    I told you before Priority 1 is your son, priority 2 is getting an education and a job. Once you are working on those 2 priorities and have them in hand, THEN you can look at priority 3; a relationship.
  • Aug 2, 2014, 09:25 AM
    QueenLiz
    It's times like this I wish I was lesbian
  • Aug 2, 2014, 09:59 AM
    talaniman
    Relationships are complicated for EVERYBODY, gay, lesbian, straight, young, old... EVERYBODY. :D

    So is LIFE.. :)

    Life is 1% what happens and 99% how you react to it./Charles Swindoll

    Or something like that!
  • Aug 2, 2014, 05:08 PM
    Homegirl 50
    A relationship is a relationship. Bad decisions are made in all kinds.
  • Aug 2, 2014, 06:34 PM
    ScottGem
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by QueenLiz View Post
    It's times like this I wish I was lesbian

    The only change that being a lesbian would have made is you wouldn't have gotten pregnant.
  • Aug 2, 2014, 06:56 PM
    J_9
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by QueenLiz View Post
    It's times like this I wish I was lesbian

    That really shows your immaturity.

    On the plus side, you wouldn't have a baby if you were a lesbian.
  • Aug 4, 2014, 05:02 AM
    QueenLiz
    UPDATE: He came round to my house to apologize and he confessed that after he stormed out he did have sex with her, but he said it didn't mean anything. I dumped him anyway. Now that I have broken up with him, my son is the only thing that matters, but now I have no one to help me take care of my baby while my sister is gone. I need my sister home ASAP.
  • Aug 4, 2014, 05:07 AM
    smoothy
    Its your baby.. time you step up and take care of it... there are a LOT of single moms out there that do that without help. It's a hell of a lot of work, but they manage to do it. Like I said... your days as a teenage kid are forever history... now you are a teeange mom... and have mom responsibilities.
  • Aug 4, 2014, 05:18 AM
    J_9
    Time to wake up and smell the roses. You are a mother now. Plenty of single mothers take care of their babies with no help at all. Now it's your turn. You chose to play grown up games that had grown up consequences. Time to face the music.
  • Aug 4, 2014, 05:26 AM
    talaniman
    Learning to take care of your own child will be good for you, AND your baby.

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