You're cutting yourself, so desperate to have a boyfriend that you asked how to get one online. Your mom is fed up with you, because you're not being a good kid.Quote:
Originally Posted by bubblegumxox
How is that not a sad situation?
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You're cutting yourself, so desperate to have a boyfriend that you asked how to get one online. Your mom is fed up with you, because you're not being a good kid.Quote:
Originally Posted by bubblegumxox
How is that not a sad situation?
Im not desperate I think its easier to take advice off a stranger than someone I knowQuote:
Originally Posted by Alty
My mom isn't fed up of me I'm working my way back up to her level of respect
I cut myself because it's a bad habit and I'm getting help sooo I don't think it's a sad situation... what's sad is someone judging yo when they only know what you've done NOT what you've been through
What have you been through?Quote:
Originally Posted by bubblegumxox
A lot I'm not going to say everything but ilk say a few things...Quote:
Originally Posted by Wondergirl
I was sexually abused as a child
I watched my dad die in front of me
I have been beaten by an ex step dad
I have lost some of my siblings
I have been bullied in school
And it goes on but I'm not going to say anymore
Have you reported the abuse and beatings and bullying? Gotten counseling for any of this?Quote:
Originally Posted by bubblegumxox
Yes and yes like I said before I'm getting help in everything and I'm getting betterQuote:
Originally Posted by Wondergirl
I was not judging you. I was saying all of these questions you are asking, all of these concerns you have is a sad situation. If all of these things you just mentioned has happened, it is a sad situation.
But its not really like all of these things happened for a reason.Quote:
Originally Posted by Homegirl 50
Nothing is an accident
And all those things that happened aren't that sad it kind of shows my true colours... A little scared little who can't say to someone "No"
I find all of these things happening in the life of a 13 year old sad, then coupled with this need you have to have a boyfriend to kiss you in the rain and all the other post of yours, show a lonely young girl. I find that sad. Not in a judging way, but as a mom, a 13 year old life should not have that much grief.
Huh?Quote:
Originally Posted by bubblegumxox
Double huh?Quote:
Nothing is an accident
Triple huh?Quote:
And all those things that happened aren't that sad it kind of shows my true colours... A little scared little who can't say to someone "No"
Please explain all that.
I was molested from the age of 5 to around 12 by my cousin.Quote:
Originally Posted by bubblegumxox
I was raped at 18.
I watched both my parents die in front of me, 6 months apart.
I was beaten by multiple idiot boyfriends, have a lovely scar on my forehead from a guy that bashed my head into the windshield of his car because I wouldn't have sex with him. When my head broke his windshield he was so angry that he beat me up some more He was a prince compared to some of the others.
I never had siblings. When my parents dies, I was on my own.
I was bullied at school.
I used sex as a way to numb myself from feeling all the things I went through, in other words, I let guys use and abuse me, because I thought I deserved it for "allowing" myself to be molested and raped.
There's more... but like you, I won't post it.
In other words, I've been there, done that. Now you're doing it.
When you first asked how to get a boyfriend, my initial reaction was "this girl needs a boyfriend, just like you needed one". The thing is, I never needed one. I wanted one because I was afraid to be alone, and I wanted someone to show me that I was better than what others had treated me like. Sadly most of them showed me the opposite.
Is that why you want to be kissed in the rain? You're looking for romance, hoping it's better than what you've already been through.
You need therapy. You need help. You do not need a boyfriend, and you shouldn't have one until you have yourself figured out.
What you want doesn't exist, because it's not about any guy. No guy, no kiss in the rain, none of that will fill the void. None of that will help. You need to fix you! You need help.
Omfg I'm getting help like and its okay nowQuote:
Originally Posted by Alty
A lad I like asked me ou so I won't need anymore answers
And its terrible what happened to you it is but I'm not trying to get a boyfriend because it takes the pain away from what I've been true like I have felt what love feels like everyone has no matter what age and I get that feeling when I'm with this lad
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Originally Posted by bubblegumxox
No, it's not okay now - you cut yourself and you're proud of your scars, so proud that you brag about them. https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/mental...es-689162.html
I can't imagine any "lad" wanting to get involved with you on any level.
Alty put it very clearly - you enjoy the attention and you are very transparent. If we can see it, "lads" can see it.
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Originally Posted by bubblegumxox
No, I don't think you do know this.
You need some serious, professional help.
I think if all your threads were combined it would add some background to this story.
https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/mental...es-689162.html
https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/childr...-689185-2.html
I think you have a lot going on in your life. You don't need a boyfriend. The drama that could comes with that complicates your life even more.
Them I enjoy what attentionQuote:
Originally Posted by JudyKayTee
My life isn't complicatedQuote:
Originally Posted by Homegirl 50
Let me see:Quote:
Originally Posted by bubblegumxox
1. school
2. family
3. counseling for being sexually abused as a child, watching your dad die in front of you, being beaten by an ex step dad, losing siblings, being bullied in school, and it goes on but you're not going to say any more
4. cutting deep enough to leave scars
5. wanting a boyfriend
6. wishing for a romance like in the movies
7. dealing with a new boyfriend and keeping him interested
8. wanting to find ways for your mom to be proud of you after you disappointed her terribly by doing something bad
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Originally Posted by bubblegumxox
In the event this is a question and not a statement you enjoy the attention cutting gets you - starting with how proud you are of your scars.
Anyone interested in "being" your boyfriend is going to run for the hills when he sees your scars and realizes you have, at best, issues.
You left out disappointing her mother. Oh, and kissing in the rain.Quote:
Originally Posted by Wondergirl
And she doesn't need any more (or anymore) answers - "A lad I like asked me ou so I won't need anymore answers"
I wasn't finished yet -- had to check back so I used the right words -- see my previous post. You are too speedy! I didn't realize someone was lurking! My point about romance like in the movies was the kissing-in-the-rain scene.Quote:
Originally Posted by JudyKayTee
Okay so I see where you're coming fromQuote:
Originally Posted by Wondergirl
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Originally Posted by Wondergirl
- And that's why we're partners.
Judy, Judy, Judy!! I was typing as fast as I can! I'll have to finish before I post, I guess, and not go back to add more.Quote:
Originally Posted by JudyKayTee
I disappointed my mother by trusting her with my secrets and what do u mean lurking?Quote:
Originally Posted by Wondergirl
Judy is my favorite lurker. She was lurking and watching me.Quote:
Originally Posted by bubblegumxox
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Originally Posted by bubblegumxox
Lurk | Define Lurk at Dictionary.com
Oh... Em so are you calling me the lurker?. I'm kind of confused nowQuote:
Originally Posted by JudyKayTee
No, she is not. She is giving you the definition.Quote:
Originally Posted by bubblegumxox
Are you always this paranoid?
No she said "someone is a lurker" or something so I was just wonderingQuote:
Originally Posted by Wondergirl
I said that about lurking. It was a joke between Judy and me. .Quote:
Originally Posted by bubblegumxox
Stop texting -- last warning. I've been cleaning up your English and am tired of it.
Em OK then sorry... Em what's wrong with my English I'm 13 and not the smartest one so... What's a mod?Quote:
Originally Posted by Wondergirl
Thank you for typing in full words and sentences!Quote:
Originally Posted by bubblegumxox
At your age, you should be very good with spelling and writing, even if you aren't the best student in class. I know that; I was a teacher.
A mod is a moderator who is like a site mom or dad, someone who keeps order and watches members' behavior and language--and then takes action, if necessary.
Oh I get what a mod is now thanks and I can't spell good because I have a problem... Something begging with d that I can't spellQuote:
Originally Posted by Wondergirl
Sorry beginningQuote:
Originally Posted by bubblegumxox
Your spelling is perfectly fine when you make an effort to do it and not be lazy. Of course, I could complain about your lack of punctuation...Quote:
Originally Posted by bubblegumxox
Haha sorry but does my punctuation really matter?Quote:
Originally Posted by Wondergirl
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Originally Posted by bubblegumxox
Apparently it does. It does make you look - uneducated, even for 13.
Okay but I'm not good at punctuationQuote:
Originally Posted by JudyKayTee
Oh, you will be, you will be. :DQuote:
Originally Posted by bubblegumxox
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