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You are all being hogwashed by a supposedly l3 year old my dear friends. I think this thread should be closed. I got the gist of this on the fourth page this definitely was not going anywhere.
She knows darn well she has got you all going in circles, and I would not believe a word of it.
She is home from school for the summer and bored, and some of us are retired and also bored. Dinner is in the slow cooker, the laundry is done, the daily crossword puzzle has been successfully completed, and the cats are sleeping. It was good practice in keyboarding.Quote:
Originally Posted by tickle
First this site will not tolerate vulgarity and insults so keep it civil or you comments will be removed. We can only go by what you post so if you post conficting statements we will question it.Quote:
Originally Posted by deadchild
What you don't understand is that we are yelling at you because we care for you. We are worried about you and this child you may have conceived. We worry because you don't have a grasp on reality.Quote:
Originally Posted by deadchild
But lets assume you are right for a moment. Let me answer your questions. First you asked about how to get over your regret at losing your virginity. The answer to that is that you don't. Every boy you get involved with will ring that regret back when you decide to get intimate with them. Or, in the unlikely event that you wait until you are married, you will regret it on your wedding night or when you have to tell your fiancée that you aren't a virgin. Of course this won't be a problem if you have a child. It will be obvious to any boyfriends then. So you just have to live with that regret. You have to not let it consume you and learn to live with it. It won't be easy, but its your only option.
Your second question was "what to do if I am pregnant?" So the first thing you do is get yourself tested to make sure. If you haven't gotten a period since April, you have probably missed your period. Possibly by a couple of weeks so it is a good time to test. You said you have an adult you can confide in who will help you. So have her buy you a test and take it according to the instructions. If you are pregnant, then you need to go see doctor immediately. At your age, your pregnancy needs to be monitored as soon as possible. So that's what you do. And that means that you need to tell your parents ASAP.
If you think that, then you are in lala land. Oh I'm sure they will help. They may even provide enough financial support to get you through while you finish school. But thinking you "just need to love the kid" is a pipe dream. You think you will be able to hang out with your friends while someone else cares for the child? You think you won't have to come home immediately after school to care for your baby? If your family does take over that much care then you won't have a say. In fact, they probably will force you to give up custody of your child and you won't be able to spend much time with the baby.Quote:
Originally Posted by deadchild
And lets talk about boys. Every boy is going to know that you had a baby. So you will never know if they are interested in for you or because they want to get into your pants. And when you become an adult, good luck finding a guy willing to take on a woman with a school age child. They are out there but they are rare.
But the reality is this is what your life will look like from now on. First you are likely to have a difficult pregnancy at your age. So if you are lucky enough to live through it (if you start getting care immediately) and you have a healthy child, then your days will look like this:
You go to school each day (your friends will be a grade ahead of you because you will have missed too much school due to pregnancy). You come home right after school because you will need to help with the care of your child. Most of your friends WILL desert you because you have to care for your baby. So forget about having much fun life. You will probably grow to resent this child for awhile.
After you graduate high school, college will be unlikely because you will have to get a real job to support your child. But without a college education you will be stuck in menial, low level jobs.
Maybe I'm wrong, but I doubt it, the odds are stacked up too much against you. So don't believe my at your peril. But then I don't really believe you. I think, like others, that you are a bored teenager who thinks its fun post such garbage. But for the sake of this possible child, I'm going to treat this like it may be true and that you really are what you say you are.
To add to what ScottGem said, if this is true (which I'm beginning to doubt) it irritates me to think there is a 17 year old creep who raped you and you are brainwashed enough to just let him off the hook.
I am not retired and not bored. That is why I am not retired :) And I don't use a slow cooker, that is really boring, and my animals are just waking up because mom is home, so that means EXCITEMENT and the barbecue goes on.Quote:
Originally Posted by Wondergirl
I was being rhetorical. :)Quote:
Originally Posted by tickle
I wish I was just a bord teen but I isn't I'm a real person and this is a real problem so idc what you say
This is not texting. We type in full words and sentences here. So please translate what you mean by "so idc wat yall say" means.Quote:
Originally Posted by deadchild
Then listen to the advice given. It is given because we care. I hope you read ScottGems last post. It's great one!
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Originally Posted by deadchild
Honestly, I don't care - this is not a thread that inspired me to care.
I've seen this play out a thousand times on AMHD - "I had sex." "I had sex and I'm 13." "I had sex and I'm 13 and I'm pregnant." "I had sex and I'm 13 and I'm pregnant and my cousin is the father."
Are you shocked yet?
I see someone who is either terminally bored or terminally spoiled or terminally a jerk.
Take your pick.
I'm with Judy. I'm only posting because I'm bored, and feel like playing with a troll, which is exactly what this kid is.
If she's not a troll, then she's not only 13, thinks that $4600 will be enough to raise a kid (it won't even be enough to deliver the child), and doesn't want to listen, but, she's had a "hard life", don't they all, but she's also doesn't have the sense God gave a goat, and I mean no disrespect to goats.
This drama has played out hundreds of times in the 4 years I've been here. Frankly, I no longer care. If she's telling the truth, let her figure things out the hard way. It's not like she's willing to listen, she's already shown that.
There are people asking questions that actually want answers, and don't just want to have fun at our expense.
Not falling for it.
What if she's sincere?
If you think she's a troll, then maybe just ignore her. If she's telling the truth, a little help would be in order.
In any case, criticizing her for her actions (already done) is no help at all, and probably makes it all worse.
We have been believing her since she posted this morning. Did you read the entire thread?Quote:
Originally Posted by Athos
Athos, I urge you to read the entire thread. If she's sincere, and wants help, then fine. But since she's posted she's done nothing but add to her sob story, and ignore the advice of people that know what they're talking about.Quote:
Originally Posted by Athos
Every time someone makes a point she can't counter, she adds another layer to her sob story, and then become belligerent.
If she's sincere, she's already gotten the best, and only advice we can offer. So there's nothing left to say.
I'm posting because others are getting upset by this, and I want them to know that there's no reason to. This story likely isn't true, so no one should lose any sleep, or go grey because of it. If it is true, she's already gotten the best advice. So, no matter what, it's a done deal, and frankly, I think this thread should be shut down.
If you read the entire thread you will see that we have helped and advised her.Quote:
Originally Posted by Athos
She does not seem to want the advice she is given.
Ok - you and WG know much more about these things than I do, or ever will. But my point was simply to give her the benefit of the doubt. Give her your best advice, then leave it.
Beating her up, as some have done, doesn't seem to serve any purpose (except to make the beater-upper feel good).
Oh, and yes, I did read the entire thread.
Athos. No one is beating her up. She got good advice. In fact, she got the best advice anyone could give.Quote:
Originally Posted by Athos
If you read the entire thread, instead of taking that advice, she came back posting rude comments, being belligerent, and claiming that she, a 13 year old child, was ready to have a child, with her cousin no less.
All the advice she received, she threw back in our faces.
If her story is true, I feel bad for her, because she's in for a world of hurt. But, I'm only willing to help those that are willing to listen. She isn't. She's a rude little... well, she's not willing to listen. I'll leave it at that.
None of us get paid to do this. We do it because we want to help people. That means that we don't have to put up with people that won't listen, even though they're the ones that asked for advice, but, we also don't have to put up with rudeness, or stories that don't add up.
If you want to waste your time on this poster, and if you read the whole thread, you know it would be a waste of time, then feel free. But don't look down on others because they reached the end of their rope with a belligerent child that's not willing to listen to the advice she asked for.
I have to add. I find it a bit odd that you're coming here telling us to give this poster advice, and not judge, but you have no advice to offer her. You only posted here to judge our posts, which, if you had bothered to read the entire thread, were right on track.
She's a thirteen-year-old.
Let's assume that she's telling the truth. I don't believe it for a minute, but, let's assume that everything she posted is fact.Quote:
Originally Posted by Athos
She was given accurate heart felt advice. She won't listen. Instead of listening, she was rude, belligerent, and worse. The best advice she can receive has already been posted on this thread.
So, if she's telling the truth, what do you suggest? What did we miss? Because there's nothing left to be said. Those that posted gave her their best advice, and it was dead on accurate. She not only ignored that advice, but she stated time and time again that she doesn't care about the advice given, even though that advice could really help her. She doesn't care. She doesn't want to hear it.
She asked, her question was answered, she decided not to listen to that advice. Game over.
Instead of criticizing the people that posted here, why not offer some advice, since you seem to think everyone else messed it up, and didn't help this supposedly 13 year old child that may be pregnant with her cousins baby. If you believe her, then post your words of wisdom, instead of criticizing what others have written.
I haven't been belligerent I have been thinking all day about all of this advice and I find it helpful and I really wish that you people would stop saying that it isn't true because whether you all want to believe it or not I know its true and Athos thanks
As I already said, give her your best advice and then leave it. It's not up to you to force her to take it. Thirteen-year-olds are not adults. The best you can do is give it your best shot, and hope that somehow, someway, it will get through to her. It might take a day or a week or longer until she "gets" it - if she ever does.
She needs understanding and love.
If she is, in fact, a troll, so what? Give it your best, anyway.
I'm done.
If other people want to waste their time, so be it. This thread is on page 7, and the poster has learned nothing, and taken no ones advice. I've fallen for the sob story one too many times, and I won't fall for it again.
Had the poster been respectful, and actually willing to listen, I would have given my advice. I really don't have to though. Others already posted the advice I would have given, and they were ignored, or hit with posts like this;
Nope, not at all rude (sarcasm).Quote:
I have a stepdad dumb***
Athos since you believe this story, and are so ready to stick up for this poster, then give her advice. I think the rest of the posters are done, having dealt with this since this morning. So you're all she has left. Time to post advice and not just criticism to those that put in the time and effort all day and were ignored.
I'm out. Good luck. If this story is true, I wish you the best of luck. You're going to need it.
Nope. You give her your best advice, since you're the one that had an issue with the advice already posted. If you can do better, which you obviously think you can, then go ahead. She's all yours.Quote:
Originally Posted by Athos
I have no issue with "advice already posted". Best I can tell, it was good advice.Quote:
Originally Posted by Alty
Deadchild, you've been given some good advice. It's up to you now to follow through and do something about it.
Good luck and God bless you.
Let me explain something to you (and others). We have been burned several times by members who think its amusing to tell some sob story or try to shock us to see our reactions. This has caused us to be skeptical of such stories. I do not blame the people who have trouble believing your story. But if you want us to believe you then start taking action.Quote:
Originally Posted by deadchild
In my last note I told you to get your adult friend to get you a HPT. Did you do that? Do you understand that, at your age, letting the fetus develop without proper care increases the already significant risks to both you and the child? So, if you story is true, then DO SOMETHING besides just thinking about it.
There are three things you need to do immediately.
1) confirm you are pregnant
2) get care for the child if you are
3) tell your parents that you were raped.
Point 3 needs to be done whether you are pregnant or not.
To Athos, Alty has explained this to you very well. I'm not going to criticize those who have expressed disbelief, because I have trouble believing it. But if you want to help the OP then give her advice, don't criticize others who have let her know that we are not fooled by her. Again, my preference here is to try and get the OP to do the right thing, while at the same time, letting her know that I am erring on the side of caution in the unlikely event the story is true.
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