Ok. I'm going to just chime in here for a second.

First off, Nuke, with all do respect, you are a kid yourself. What do you know about life?

You're advice is... well, not very good advice to the OP, who clearly is reaching out because she is nervous about her situation.

To Jessica. ANY boy who says "Let's F**k" or " I want to F**k you" gets no respect from me. Period.

You two are too young to be playing house.

Personally and honestly, I would get rid of this jerk.

Sex should be about two people who are in love AND who can take on the responsibility of a child.

Are you ready to be a Mommy? I highly doubt it.

There is nothing wrong with waiting.

I lost my virginity when I was 25 years old to my Husband. I made him wait ONE year before "that night".

During that whole time, he was respectful of my wishes.

I had told him when we first started dating "If you love me, you will wait. If you don't, *pointing to the door* then there's the door"

Take control of this situation and demand that he wait until you are good and ready.

One other thing I want to add, it that I was using protection and it broke and I got pregnant.

Not all protection is 100%.

That being said, go out with your girlfriends, go to the mall, to the movies, and enjoy school.

Make him understand that you two are not ready. If he doesn't, then stick Daddy on him.

Good Luck.

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Yes, she has been with him for 4 years, but that doesn't make her ready. She's still only 16, and that's the whole point.

You said it yourself, she's still a girl, a kid. How can anyone expect a kid to make a decision like this?

I find this the most helpful of all thanks for your help and no I am not ready to be a mommy I'm ganna wait and if he don't like that he can leave

Good for you jessica! No one on here wants to see a young girl like yourself posting up in 9 months time. Have fun while you can and get to the complicated stuff in a few years. :)

"i find this the most helpful of all thanks for your help and no i am not ready to be a mommy im ganna wait and if he dont like that he can leave"

GOOD FOR YOU! And if he does decide to through away a long term relationship over this, then he wasn't worth keeping anyway.

I agree! Things sure have changed. There's nothing wrong with waiting.

I know this is a little late, but I've been gone and this post really gets to me.

Everyone who sees no problem with this are those who have no understanding of responsibility and consequences. Completely outing the consequences because something feels good, doesn't make it right.

The thing to take away from here is that the last thing anyone wants is a kid raising a kid. Period.

"Embrace teen sex"
You are out of your mind. Let's embrace teen drinking, and teen smoking too... hey it feels good right??

"I'm 2 yrs older so I know what the OP is going through"
You too are nuts. Age is not a coupling factor. Just because you're within the same age group doesn't make you know anymore. Sure, you went to high school and some things are similar, but you have no idea what kind of lifestyle, parents, school, boyfriend the OP has. How can you know anything about what the OP is going through? Oh, the sex decision? Just because you faced that decision once entitles you to spread bad judgement based on pleasure with no understanding or caring of the consequences? I don't think so!

Each situation differs and should be handled with the utmost caution. What worked for you DOES NOT mean it will work for her. Error on the side of caution!