HI,
You said "everyone takes things the wrong way".
Some people do, because they hear what they want to hear, maybe not really listening to what you say.
A girl's "best friend" is someone she can talk with, anytime, about anything. Same goes for boys, too. Many think they like someone, then find out they don't; and start looking somewhere else.
The gossip that goes on between people, eventually becomes less and less, when they find someone they really care about. It will happen for you, so just give it some time.

Hi,
How old are you?
I am 64, married for the first time at 24, divorced after 7 yrs, then remarried now for 29 yrs.
Life is what you make it. It treats you the way you treat it. Your future depends on what you do now.
Make any sense?
Life is as wonderful and fun as you want it to be. Girls come and go as girlfriends, and one day, you will find the one that is just right for you.
I am not scared or afraid of what I say to others. I have a lot of friends, and treat them with respect, caring, love, understanding, and they treat me and my wife the same way. If they don't, then we aren't friends anymore... find new ones. You can please some of the people some of the time, but you can't please everyone all the time... that's a fact, and was stated by, I think, Abe Lincoln.
I don't really think that "life can be perfect"... it's what we make it. It's not what happens to me today, it's all in how I react to it. If I can do something about it, then I do it. If not, then move on to the next issue.
Learning about life takes awhile, with patience, and trying new things. Even some need "attitude adjustments", accepting new ways of doing things, before they get better.

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Loneliness can lead to depression. I understand that perfect is what seems right to you. But sometimes in life we have to compromise in order to make headway. Also, what seems right or perfect for us when young gradually changes with time. True, it's nice to have a good-looking girlfriend. But it's also nice to have one who has a good sense of humor, is patient, kind, trustworthy, and faithful. Sometimes these qualities are possessed by a girl whom you might not meet our physical preferences. At other times the ones that do are in love with themselves. In short, the full package is very rare. That's why a flexible attitude is very important. It provides us with more options.

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What is the true meaning of life?

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We add meaning to our lives by means of deciding and acting upon that decision. In short, we have the power to make life as interesting as boring as we choose to. A medical doctor finds meaning to life in his work. He studied and by studying created his own identity. Animals don't have that choice. For example, a lion is destined to be a lion and cannot choose to be anything else. We humans, however, do have a choice and it is that power to choose that makes us unique.



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From a biblical standpoint the meaning of man's life is to do God's will.

Ecclesiastes 12

13 Now all has been heard;
Here is the conclusion of the matter:
Fear God and keep his commandments,
For this is the whole duty of man.
NIV

Always give a person the benefit of the doubt BUT then again always keep your eyes wide open... don't be silly!

Why is it girls hate guys who are clingy but after dating for awhile are clingy themselves? What exactly do girls really consider clingy and do some misinterrput the saying? Is it a bad thing, and how can one stop?

Also why is it everyone today is in a mood? I went to sleep for about 3 hours woke up and well everyone was mad at something or other and Im apperently an *******. Man I'm lost, and need to find my path back to the big trail.

Easy bud. Things don't always work out the way we want them to, but somehow they seem to workout in a way... Im not sure how or why they do but... whatever. I would say I agree with you on a few things. Girls want a nice, caring guy that is blah blah blah, but they don't... Im going through the SAME THING. Don't worry about people being in "a mood" it happens to the best of us. You can stop by taking a step back and calming down your emotions for a min. You sound like a young guy (high school maybe?). You are doing VERY well though man. Just take things in stride. Don't push to hard, do your own thing for a little and make YOU happy. I don't think you can misinterpret "clingy". If you feel like you need to be around someone to be truly happy, thaen BAM... your clingy. Not a bad thing, everyone goes through it at one point or another, but if you woman is telling you this and you are still together, you have a chance to make it right. Just do your own thing, be your own person, and HAVE FUN!! Be true to her, and honest with what you are doing. You don't NEED anyone, you WANT them. You will do just fine bud, just take a step back (dont be a jerk) just be busy and find things to do. Best of luck to you!

Nice of advice. Thanks

I guess Iam young but definitely not in high school Im 20 next month. Im not currently with this girl in fact I well long story and that's another issue. I do feel that I need someone there all the time and maybe your right I don't need them I want them. But I get so lonely by myself and I just need more people to hang out with on a regular basis. Man life sucks, but it doesn't. Hey has anyone ever thought of doing something that would totally mess up your life but do it to in the long run save others even though you might die on the way? I don't think I could do it but I do think it would be interesting it's a long story if your interested I may explain

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Originally Posted by wrongful hurtings

Also why is it everyone today is in a mood? I went to sleep for about 3 hours woke up and well everyone was mad at something or other and Im apperently an *******. Man I'm lost, and need to find my path back to the big trail.

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Hello there!
Haven't read everything yet, and people are maybe moody. But MAD at something?
Well, I dddo have to take a closer loo!
Bye noe, and stay well,
Millie:)

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I don't think I could do it but I do think it would be interesting its a long story if your interested I may explain

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Please do!
Millie

Hi, Wrongful,
From your comments, you are 20 yrs old. Are you going to College? Have a job? What do you do all day long?
It's hard to give some suggestions without knowing any kind of daily routine. The best I can say without that information is to meet new people. Getting in a rut can happen, and only YOU can get yourself out of it.
Life is really "just one day at a time", making things happen. Take control, meet some new people, and start enjoying life, instead of letting it take control of you. I do wish you the best.

I work everyday. I guess you could say I started my career I have a good job and its secure and I make more then enough money I work from 7:30 to 4:30 mon-fri and well I love the work environment. I don't go to college one day might but not for years. So bascially all day I work sleep eat and whatever else happens.

I just got out of a serious relationship with my ex girfriend after over 3 years and now well I just need someone to hang out with like someone to care about or someone to be by myside for moral support. I need someone a friend to do something with. I feel empty is it because Im lonely and what would or could I do to solve this and get that empty feeling filled, any ideas. Its been nice lately I have been hanging out with this girl lately she's perfect someone I can hang out with someone I can talk to and someone who's going to be there for me the only problem is she's moving and she's engaged well she might be breaking the engagement off but she's still moving she likes me and I like her but nothing will happen I wish I could just find someone I could be good friends with someone who I can talk to and hang out with... Man Im lonely any ideas?

Easy man, It NATURAL. You were in a pretty long relationship, so its natural for you to feel like things are not right every now and then. Do you not have any friends you can hang out with? If not, then go out and meet some people. Maybe from work or something. Ive been single now for about 7 months and I get lonely now and then, but that's OK. You need to be conforitable alone BEFORE you get together with someone. Are you not the same person that posted the "clingy" thread? If so, this should be an eye opener. Im not trying to put you down or anything, just trying to help you see some things. DO NOT GET INVOLVED WITH SOMEONE THAT IS ENGAGED!! She is not going to leave him for you, and if she does, will you really trust her not to do the same thing to you? Sounds like you LOVE attention from women, heck we all do. You need to calm yourself down a bit. How long have you been out of your relationship? I bet not long enough. It took me about 3 months or so to get comforitble with myself, but I did it, so can you. Also, from my experience, you never find someone when you look. Take it easy and just meet some new people, network. If not, you will be right back where you are now in no time.

I have friends but they were the same ones that my ex girlfriend had so they hang out with her and well you get the picture. About the whole trust thing if she did break up with her fiancé, the answer is yes and I have a logical reason for saying that answer. Here is my explanation, I used to believe that once a cheater always a cheater, until I realized that if I believed that then I would also have to believe that people couldn't change. Well people can change its hard and you have to want to, but it can be done. So with the whole trust thing if something did ever happen I would trust her, because I believe that she doesn't really love this guy because if she did she would never want to lose him or do anything that could possibly lose him. In other words I believe if someone loved someone so much no matter what of there history they wouldn't cheat. And well yea I would trust her I would have no reason not to. Right after she cheated she told him the next time she saw him. So I give her credit for that its not like she tried to hide it from him. I really respect that and because of the quality I could trust her because if something happened she would tell me the next time she saw me so yea.

HI,
Be thankful you are having issues with adjusting from losing a girlfriend; not a Divorce!
Calm down some, date other girls. Dating someone who is engaged is only adding more confusion. Meet some new girls.
After my first 7 yrs of marriage ended in Divorce, it took about a year to be ready for some "serious" dating again.
Give yourself some time, maybe a few months. Many of us like living with, or having someone. If it doesn't work out, then find someone else.
Best wishes.

Perfectly normal to feel the way you do. Just got to keep your chin up, stay busy and give yourself some time to get over your ex.

Soon you will find yourself again and find doing things on your own as an individual is not so bad. Once you are content with yourself and your life a special girl will come knocking when you least expect it.

At the moment you are just rebounding - give yourself some time, concetrate on keeping busy (your fav hobby etc) and things will get better.

I can't add a lot to the very good advice already given except to be patient and have fun!:cool: :)

Get a dog. ;)

Really. The unconditional love of a pet, and the time and effort required to take care of "another living creature" does a lot for a person. It helps with healing your soul, and filling the void of "need".

I guess it doesn't have to be a dog. A cat or bird or even fish can help you do the same thing.

For a single guy though, I think a dog is best because walking your dog in the park is an awesome way to meet women!

Staying at home, feeling lonely and lost will only lead to depression. Go out and meet new people, find a new club or social gathering and start new.

A pet is not a bad idea, but if you travel, make sure the neighbor that takes care of it is of the opposite sex and a likely candidate, it might get to be more than that of a pet-sitter. Most single people who watch you pets will get to learn about you and how you keep you 'home' while taking care of them, and just might surprise you with a warm welcome.

Good luck,and keep us posted.

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Ok I posted about how me and my ex broke up after three years. Then I posted about how I was kind of hooking up with this girl who had a fianece, I know I shouldn't have. Now she moved away and well I'm all alone I need to make friends and take life slow but I need friends sooner then later because being alone sucks any ideas of ways to meet new people or to get the balls to start talking to random people without them thinking I'm a creep? Need help.

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Wrongful Hurtings

It sounds like you need time for yourself to re-discovery your inner self. Being alone should not equal lonliness, company is great but it should not be your source of fullfillment. Instead of going and making friends, I would suggest you take that time and do things that will be beneficial to your spirit and in this process you will make genuine friends. Do something you love, go and join a gym, or yoga classes, become coach, etc. whatever it is that gets you into your comfurt zone and helps you re-connect and discovery your inner self!

I'm told that a lot its not that I want someone seriours or anything I just want someone to hang out with doing things with, it is no fun by yourself and considently that reply is what every girl has told me but not every guy in fact I don't think a guy had said that at all. HMmmmmm

Hi dude, you need some friends huh? I don't know how old you are but get a hobby or two and your bound to meet new people, instead of sitting around looking jump in with both feet and partisapate. Go to a gym, or volunteer for a good cause. The list is endless if you really think about it, so just because your alone is no reason to be lonely!:cool: :eek:

You do sound very lonely.
But searching for girlfriends is not your answer.
How old are you?
Im sure you're old enough to go out, get a hobby like the others said above, and take life as it comes, sometimes when u search for something or someone it never happens.
TC

I'm not searching for a girlfriend just friends and I'm not sure of any hobbies to take part in any other ideas

I need a miracle... god will you help me. I need to find myself and not be so lonely well its just a cry for help, really means nothing just feeling well empty inside I guess. I need some friends

You have got to listen... DO SOMETHING... go join a gym, volunteer somewhere,anything, it will get you in tune with yourself and help you meet people at the same time. Don't be a baby.. ive got news for you, your not the only person volunerble too lonliness.. we all fall in at some time or another. But it is only with our own will and strength that we can pull ourselves out of it. Go OUT and find yourself and in the process you will meet many wonderful people! Don't feel sorry for yourself... it isn't going to help you.

Wrongful hurtings, I understand that you've recently posted a similar message. If you are lonely you should avoid isolating yourself. Think about what is best for you. Do not wait for other people to visit you or speak to you. Try to talk to people you meet in public or in breaks at work. Also, find groups of people where you hold a common interest. For example you can join activities that you are genuinely interested in and enjoy - societies or sports. Feeling lonely is normal, it will pass.

Not trying to be mean here, but you are clingy... From ALL of you threads I have read they SCREAM "I need someone to make me feel important". What you need is to get comforitable with #1... psssssssssssssst that means YOURSELF! You should be happy with yourself, and if you ever want someone to RESPECT you, that is what it is going to take. You are sooooooo young and have a TON to learn. You have some acceptance issues with yourself and need to solve them before you get into another relationship. PERIOD!

HI,
I do remember reading some of your other posts.
Have you "gotten out", to be with others?
New friends can be found anywhere; such as Church, Food Stores, volunteer for hospital work, nursing homes, library, etc.
I do agree with other answers about "get out" and be with people.
SMILE, SMILE, SMILE, will show you like yourself and others will like you, too.
Talk about others, not yourself, when you meet someone. LIsten to them, and they will like you for it. Best of luck.

You need to think more highly about yourself, boost your self-confidence and get out there and meet people.
Moping at home on your own is not going to help u find people and nor will god. If you truly believe in God - God will help you only if u believe and you have the strength to help yourself.
Be strong and get out there, and be confident and independent NOT clingy and that puts anyone male or female off.
Good luck

How old are you?
If you have posted your age before, I am sorry, I forgot.
You really need to get out, meet people, make friends.
Ever thought of volunteering at a hospital, nursing home, library, or such?
SMILE, then Smile more. It shows you like yourself, and will make friends. When you talk with someone, talk about THEM, not you.
You can make more friends in a month listening to them, than in a year with them listening to you.
If you are not sure about any hobbies, then find some! You have to take some steps, if you want to turn your life around. No one can do it for you.

Ok well interestings threads however I used to be fine doing things by myself and Im OK now I go out and go for walks on the beach etc. but I still feel like I just need a best friend not necssary a girl and not necessary a girlfriend just a good friend that's all Im looking for I can and don't mind doing things by myself but I like to do things not always alone and well I lost my friends because me and my ex had the same ones and they took her side so now Im friendless I think people are getting the wrong message that Im trying to portray

I still think the advice in the former posts is very good.
You describe your activities, you "keep your head above the water"- it's not easy to lose all your friends.
But, every post advised you to join activities where you'll have a chance to meet people, and make new friends.
I have no idea where you live, it might be a small place where you'll meet the people who used to be your friends.
It might not be an easy situation, but there will be other people around as well.
Try to get involved in a great variety of activities, and I also think that volunteering (among other things) will improve your feeling:doing something for others, helping others, will make you feel great about yourself
Good luck,
Millie
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Listen to everyone and join something... and as far as you losing friends.. I always like the saying "you can't loose something you never had" I hope I am not being harsh... but listen to all the posts, where all saying the same thing!

When nothing changes, it usually means we do the same thing over and over expecting different results. Its really another way to be a victim of yourself, as strange as that sounds, which is NOT really a victim at all. Please visit a critically ill children's ward soon, for your sake. I would be interested in what you learned.

Why is that. Girls are attracted to jerks I know why but don't understand it. Also why is it a girl will jump on a emotion but if they think about it and know what they want they stall and maybe not take any actions. I have another question, this is for girls. Do you just do something because its easy like for instance you like this guy but don't want to be with him forever sorry you love him and already agreed to marry him but you change your mind would you leave or stay with him just because its easier, if so WHY?

People want what they can't have. My guess is that you are coming across a bit too strong buddy. Girls like the jerks, but they never marry them. Im not sure how old you are, but maybe you need to go for some older women. I have come to realize that girls 21 and younger are INSANE (sorry ladies, but you are)... ok guys too. I am 24 now and won't go younger than 22 PERIOD. You need to calm yourself down a bit and start liking yourself again. As for question #2... I have no idea what you are talking about... sorry.

Everybody is an individual you can't judge like that.
Yes teenage girls may fall for jerks and jack the lads you know, I did when I was 17, but hey that was surely short lived. But then again are teenage boys nice? NO.
Its all the growing up phase. Thinking you're an adult will in actual fact your just a kid, really.
Im 27 and I don't look back on my teenage years and say I won't go under that than because life is all an experience and you learn from your own mistakes.