Ask Me Help Desk - Is it OK for a 13 year old to date a 16 year old?

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Originally Posted by ilovehimm

Well the him not touching me wasnt a lie because we were at his and like it was just the 2 of us cos his parents were out shopping :) so we were watching a dvd and we started talking about a few rumours thats going around school and he said imnot like that babe i wouldnt touch you that way untill you are old enough then a little while later he said he would do ANYTHING for me so i said would you sleep with me and he said ehmm no cos of the age and im like please babe and i leaned inand kissed him and i kinda took it frm there ;)

You snogged him!! :eek: I don't even know what that means but it sure sounds like you were naughty. :eek::eek: You need to be grounded for the rest of your life or your mom needs to warm your backside. :rolleyes:

I second that justcurious55 and hheath541

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Originally Posted by ilovehimm

I have support from my family :) my boyfriends mum and dad :D they are like my new parents and they are amazing tbh :) and he didn't get what he wanted :/ i got what i wanted :)

You are 13 years old and you wanted sex and a baby? That is really bright.
And his parents are so nice, they are amazing, yeah, they don't want their 16 year old son going to jail for impregnating a 13 year old. You have just done your own parents who did not want you seeing this boy to begin with a this service. You betrayed their trust and now you have new cool parents. I hope all of this is a lie, because if it isn't, I find it really sad.

You keep on thinking he didn't get what he wanted. You are 13, you don't even know what you want, but you best believe he knew what he wanted, but I'll bet he didn't want a 13 year old pregnant girl friend and how long do you think he's going to want you around?
You are not even mature enough to realize that you have done a very reckless thing and have brought an innocent child into this (if this is in fact true). You have no clue the implications here.

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Originally Posted by justcurious55

love,
how is it that less than a week ago you swore there was nothing more than kissing going on and you two were going to wait until you were older and ready for sex. and now today you're pregnant? one part of your story has to be a lie. which is it? if you were a virgin a week ago there is no possible way you could be pregnant and actually know that you are today. now i'm thinking you really must not have had an sex education at all yet. so i'm being entirely serious when i say this, let me explain to you how making babies most commonly goes...

when you have sex, his sperm can live inside your body for up to nearly a week. so you may not conceive the day you have sex. you may not actually conceive until about 5 days later. and then its just a waiting game. some home pregnancy tests claim to be able to give you accurate test results up to 5 days before your missed period. but even with those ones, that still at least a few weeks of waiting and even if the first test is negative, its recommended that you take another one if you actually miss your period. and sometimes even when you've missed your period, you still have to wait another week to take a test. and sometimes there's other reasons why your period is late. so you spend weeks worrying that you're pregnant and being stressed out, which can also make your period late-the stress.

so that's how i know that either you weren't a virgin and lied to us before about there being no sex. or you're lying to us now and you don't know if you're really pregnant or not. or you're lying and still a virgin and there's no way you're pregnant.

and just in case you are pregnant, your father can't just kick you out. if he did, i'd recommend calling child services. although i have to warn you, if it all came to that your boyfriend has a good shot at being arrested for statutory rape because the authorities would have to get involved to help you make sure you and your baby got the proper care and adequate housing (even if its consensual, in the eyes of the law, its a form of rape because you are considered to be too young to consent to it. like it or not, thats the law).

and what does gawjuss mean???? that does not sound like english...

Well I don't think the doctor lies :p I am defo prgnant :S and imnot going to the child services about my dad kicking me out because I didn't want to stay there anyway because now I have and AMAZING family :D and a gawjuss baby in the way :D

And gawjuss means ~ nice looking, beutifull that type of thing :L

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Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

You are 13 years old and you wanted sex and a baby? That is really bright.
And his parents are so nice, they are amazing, yeah, they don't want their 16 year old son going to jail for impregnating a 13 year old. You have just done your own parents who did not want you seeing this boy to begin with a dis service. You betrayed their trust and now you have new cool parents. I hope all of this is a lie, because if it isn't, I find it really sad.

You keep on thinking he didn't get what he wanted. You are 13, you don't even know what you want, but you best believe he knew what he wanted, but I'll bet he didn't want a 13 year old pregnant girl friend and how long do you think he's going to want you around?
You are not even mature enough to realize that you have done a very reckless thing and have brought an innocent child into this (if this is in fact true). You have no clue the the implications here.

It is all true :D and we will be together forever :D

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Originally Posted by ilovehimm

well i dont think the doctor lies :p i am defo prgnant :S and imnot going to the child services about my dad kicking me out cos tbh i didnt want to stay there anyways cos now i have and AMAZING family :D and a gawjuss baby in the way :D

and gawjuss means ~ nice looking, beutifull that type of thing :L

I thought your parents approved! And it's georgous you twit!
Lord help that poor little baby.:mad:

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Originally Posted by ilovehimm

well i dont think the doctor lies :p i am defo prgnant :S and imnot going to the child services about my dad kicking me out cos tbh i didnt want to stay there anyways cos now i have and AMAZING family :D and a gawjuss baby in the way :D

and gawjuss means ~ nice looking, beutifull that type of thing :L

No, a dr probably wouldn't lie. But you sure are.

Are dr's legally required to report this sort of thing? Since she's only 13 and pregnant, would they have to report statutory rape?

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Originally Posted by ilovehimm

Well the him not touching me wasn't a lie because we were at his and like it was just the 2 of us cos his parents were out shopping :) so we were watching a dvd and we started talking about a few rumours that's going around school and he said im not like that babe i wouldn't touch you that way until you are old enough then a little while later he said he would do ANYTHING for me so i said would you sleep with me and he said hmm no cos of the age and im like please babe and i leaned in and kissed him and i kinda took it from there ;)

Yeah, you just keep telling yourself that! He knew what was going on. And who's idea was it to not use protection? If he was so concerned he would not have gotten you pregnant.
So how are you and this 16 year old going to take care of this baby? You have no HS diploma I'm sure he does not have a job that would pay enough to support you two.
You two are a piece of work, and this poor baby. Who is going to raise that child, or have you even thought that far?

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Originally Posted by Kitkat22

I thought your parents approved! And it's georgous you twit!
Lord help that poor little baby.:mad:

What you mean they aproved? They allowed me to go with them and my mumsok wiv me being pregnant but my dad isn't :confused: and I don't care us young people spell it gawjuss because its cooler because we isn't no dictionary and I don't care how I spell things :P and don't call me a in twit you weirdo :P

And my baby will be fine :D

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Originally Posted by justcurious55

no, a dr probably wouldn't lie. but you sure are.

are dr's legally required to report this sort of thing?? since she's only 13 and pregnant, would they have to report statutory rape?

No he's not going to report it :rolleyes: because he doesn't know the age of the boy so he can't report rape iff he doesn't know the age of the father :rolleyes:

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Originally Posted by ilovehim

it is all true :D and we will be together forever :D

You poor misguided delusional child. You have no clue.
Lets just see how long this boy sits by your pregnant side. You are living in 13 year old la la land.

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Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

Yeah, you just keep telling yourself that! He knew what was going on. And who's idea was it to not use protection? If he was so concerned he would not have gotten you pregnant.
So how are you and this 16 year old going to take care of this baby? You have no HS diploma I'm sure he does not have a job that would pay enough to support you two.
You two are a piece of work, and this poor baby. Who is going to raise that child, or have you even thought that far?

My baby's gran and granpa is going to help us finantually and when we are at school. The father is leaving school after the exams and is going to get a job with his dad because his dad owns his own company :) so my little baby will be fine :D

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Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

You poor misguided delusional child. You have no clue.
Lets just see how long this boy sits by your pregnant side. You are living in 13 year old la la land.

Yeah I'm totally in 13 year old la la land :rolleyes: and he is sitting by my pregnant side right this second :P and we are discussing names and that :L

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Originally Posted by ilovehimm

well i dont think the doctor lies :p i am defo prgnant :S and imnot going to the child services about my dad kicking me out cos tbh i didnt want to stay there anyways cos now i have and AMAZING family :D and a gawjuss baby in the way :D

and gawjuss means ~ nice looking, beutifull that type of thing :L

No, a doctor wouldn't lie, but he wouldn't be able to TELL that you're pregnant this soon.

You said you had sex the day after you started this thread, which would be on the 20th. It is not the 23rd. Even if you went to the doctor today, it would still be too early to know if you're pregnant. A blood test wouldn't show anything, because you're body hasn't had a chance to create enough of the pregnancy hormone for a test to pick it up. An ultrasound wouldn't show anything because the egg either hasn't implanted yet, or JUST implanted, and would be the size of a grain of sand.

It's IMPOSSIBLE for you to know if you're pregnant if you really did have sex only 3 days ago.

So he will be a dropout. Will probably have to work for his dad for the rest of his life because he won't be able to get a job anyplace else. And what are you going to do with your life?

It will be interesting to see how this turns out in a few months.

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Originally Posted by hheath541

no, a doctor wouldn't lie, but he wouldn't be able to TELL that you're pregnant this soon.

you said you had sex the day after you started this thread, which would be on the 20th. it is not the 23rd. even if you went to the doctor today, it would still be too early to know if you're pregnant. a blood test wouldn't show anything, because you're body hasn't had a chance to create enough of the pregnancy hormone for a test to pick it up. an ultrasound wouldn't show anything because the egg either hasn't implanted yet, or JUST implanted, and would be the size of a grain of sand.

it's IMPOSSIBLE for you to know if you're pregnant if you really did have sex only 3 days ago.

Mate I posted this a week ago and trust me I am actual prgnant :P

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Originally Posted by hheath541

no, a doctor wouldn't lie, but he wouldn't be able to TELL that you're pregnant this soon.

you said you had sex the day after you started this thread, which would be on the 20th. it is not the 23rd. even if you went to the doctor today, it would still be too early to know if you're pregnant. a blood test wouldn't show anything, because you're body hasn't had a chance to create enough of the pregnancy hormone for a test to pick it up. an ultrasound wouldn't show anything because the egg either hasn't implanted yet, or JUST implanted, and would be the size of a grain of sand.

it's IMPOSSIBLE for you to know if you're pregnant if you really did have sex only 3 days ago.

I think this girl is lying.

After labor starts she will want to pull his snoggler around his head.
Then Mom and Dad will end up raising the child. The sixteen year old will either be on welfare or working at a fast food joint. The thirteen year old will be home watching soap operas and eating. She won't be too gawguss then.:mad:

So you are thinking up names? Don't name that poor baby after either of you.Dumb and Dumber.

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Originally Posted by ilovehimm

mate i posted this a week ago and trust me i am actual prgnant :P

No, the forum records the date and time of every post. Your FIRST post in this thread happened on April 19th. That means, if you had sex the next day, it happened on April 20th. Since today is April 23rd, then you had sex 3 days ago.

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Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

So he will be a dropout. Will probably have to work for his dad for the rest of his life because he won't be able to get a job anyplace else. And what are you going to do with your life?

It will be interesting to see how this turns out in a few months.

No actually he has already been on a collage corse with the school to do plumming and once he is 18 he will still work with his dad but he will go and do a few more years in collage and then his dads friend who is a plumber is going to give him a job :D and I am going to stay at school till I am 16 then leave then I am going to do one of those courses you can do at home and imgoing to learn to become a teacher :D

There is no way any parent in their right mind would be OK with their 13 year old getting pregnant or the parents of a 16 year old boy being thrilled with his 13 year old pregnant girl friend.
I'm not believing any of this.

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Originally Posted by hheath541

no, the forum records the date and time of every post. your FIRST post in this thread happened on April 19th. that means, if you had sex the next day, it happened on April 20th. since today is April 23rd, then you had sex 3 days ago.

Nb :D

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Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

There is no way any parent in their right mind would be OK with their 13 year old getting pregnant or the parents of a 16 year old boy being thrilled with his 13 year old pregnant girl friend.
I'm not believing any of this.

Don't believe it then because I know its true :rolleyes: and my mums disapointed but she isn't trying to make me have an abortion like my dad is because I don't believe in abortions :( and his parents are actual fine wiv it ;)

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I give up. Talking to a troll is more frustrating than trying to talk to a wall. This little kid thinks she can convince us all that she had sex and less than a week later confirmed that she is pregnant. And then she seems to think we're all too dumb to look at the post dates to do the math ourselves and see that its entirely impossible.

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Originally Posted by ilovehimm

no actually he has already been on a collage corse with the school to do plumming and once he is 18 he will still work with his dad but he will go and do a few more years in collage and then his dads friend who is a plumber is going to give him a job :D and i am going to stay at school till i am 16 then leave then i am going to do one of those courses you can do at home and imgoing to learn to become a teacher :D

Yeah OK. Who is going to take care of this child?
You are going to quit school at 16 and take home courses to become a teacher? Yeah right!

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Originally Posted by ilovehimm

nb :D

What does that even mean?

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Originally Posted by justcurious55

i give up. talking to a troll is more frustrating than trying to talk to a wall. this little kid thinks she can convince us all that she had sex and less than a week later confirmed that she is pregnant. and then she seems to think we're all too dumb to look at the post dates to do the math ourselves and see that its entirely impossible.

Yeah, there is no way she could be pregnant.
I find stuff like this irritating because there are real people out there with real problems and then you have trolls with nothing better to do.:rolleyes:

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Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

Yeah, there is no way she could be pregnant.
I find stuff like this irritating because there are real people out there with real problems and then you have trolls with nothing better to do.:rolleyes:

I isn't a troll I am a real person and this is a real problem :(

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Originally Posted by ilovehimm

what ever mate :cool:

Teacher... I wouldn't let you teach a cockroach! You are lying and you have been since you began this whole charade. Knock it off and get a life! I'd say you're either 10 or you're a nut!

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Originally Posted by ilovehim

it means no bother :D
omg are use like all american or sumit :p cos yes are all as stupid as them :L

We are mature adults who know how to construct a sentence and spell words. Novel idea huh?

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Originally Posted by ilovehimm

i aint a troll i am a real person and this is a real problem :(

If you have this all figured out, and you obviously do not care about what any of us have to say, why on Earth are you still posting?

And also, if you have this all figured out, how is this a problem?

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Originally Posted by ilovehimm

it means no bother :D
omg are use like all american or sumit :p cos yes are all as stupid as them :L

Have you ever actually met or talked to an american?

And no, we're not stupid, we just speak in complete words and do our best to spell them correctly. Your refusal to do so accomplish nothing but to make us irritated.

She is starved for attention.
She is two days pregnant by a sixteen year old boy and she's bored.

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Originally Posted by ilovehimm

oh well i must be a nut :p;):cool: and i am going to become a teacher and raise my baby up to have a good life :D and i aint no lier :mad:

WHOA... Must have hit a nerve:cool:

She isn't no lier Kit!
This is 13 year old girl who seduced (so she says) a sixteen year old boy and is now two days pregnant is going to raise her baby and have a good life, because the boy's parents are going to take care of them.

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Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

She aint no lier Kit!
This 13 year old girl who seduced (so she says) a sixteen year old boy and is now two days pregnant is going to raise her baby and have a good life, because the boy's parents are going to take care of them.

Oh yeah.. :).HG. I also believe they will live happily ever after... Isn't it romantic? :rolleyes:

Oh that we all could be that lucky!:)

I thought you couldn't find out if you were pregnant within a few days? Doesn't it take a couple of weeks for the body to even register that there is something in there?

If I were her parents, and all of this were true.. I'd turn the boyfriend in for sexual assult, take her down to the clinic and be the end of it. No 13 year old child should have to carry a baby. That's wrong on the parents side AND the girls part.

Ignorant child... She's goig to more than likely drop out of school and become a welfare mama.. or whatever system is over in England that takes care of the dead beats.

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