Originally Posted by
Lovebug08
Maybe I'm a couple days late but here's my two cents:
I agree with templelane;
It's good to keep yourself busy while you're young. All the stories kids have to tell, is because they either Lie, or they actually did the stuff.
I'm 17 now, and I lost my virginity when I was 14. I was pressured into having sex by a guy that I was "Dating", and we talked and talked and talked about it. Until I "agreed". About 3days after we had sex, was the last time I saw that boy. I also found out, he was having sex with 2 other girls and "dating" them as well through out the period we were together. I was looking for love in all the wrong places as to say.
I spent a good period of my time after that seeing guys, going on dates with a couple guys, but never really devoting myself to any of them. I had stories to tell about work, school, going to state competitions, sports, and family stuff.
After ridding myself of most of the sex freak horndog guys that were attracted to me [mind I was 14 with a nice rack and passed as 17/18 all day] I found one that I really wanted to love, and wanted to be loved.
When I was a sophmore, and started hanging out with my friends there was one friend that I just kinda.. crushed on secretively. We went rounds. arguments, late night hang outs, drinking binges.. We did it all. We both wanted love... And we both wanted to give love.. But that line of chemistry just WASNT there, the infatuation was but the love was not.
I was a tote bag for him to carry around it seems. Mike was his name, Mike had a job, and a nice car, and we hung out a lot. He met my parents, but never introduced me to his. Mike and I are still mutual friends after having sex, but... We never actually loved each other. He wanted love and so did I.... And Coincidently,
While I was still being pulled around by Mike [it was going no where, no dedication, neither of us were going to settle we just weren't right], I was at work one day.
There was a boy I crushed on at my old high school, and man is he cute! Anyways, that boy and I have been dating since I had just turned 16. We have been sexually active since day one of our relationship, another slight mistake, BUT, we both got tested before sleeping together, and both witnessed it. We were both pretty shady at first, and we "grew on each other".
I am 17, and I am now pregnant... If my "baby daddy" was any other guy I dated, I can guarentee I would be single right now. Recently, Chris, my boyfriend, has come clean and admitted, when we first started dating, he was "in it for a piece of ".
When we're young, and just want to be loved, we make foolish mistakes. And we can believe with everything that it's all real, and no one understands us.
But honestly, LISTEN TO YOUR MOTHER. I neglected my mom in much of my teenage years, I heard what she said, but never listened. And in all honesty, the quote "mothers know best"... is the damn truth.
You probably shouldn't continue the relationship with this boy, if it hasn't already ended. He's admitted to having sex with the other girl(s) to be honest enough to nearly connect. He wants you to trust him enough to get his noodle wet. And, my best advice is to save yourself the agony of Loss, and tell him to get lost. Or, ask him to just be friends. Some guys will be your friend, some won't. I met one of my best friends that way, and he's wanting to be my baby's godfather. We never slept together, though he tried, and he talked about it... But we always remained friends.
Right now, you are still young. You shouldnt worry about being loved, you have a family to love you [believe it or not... and trust me I was a teenage rebellious kid too] Work on building friendships.. I imagine you're either in highschool now, or will be soon... You'll meet some of your best friends in the next couple years. And you'll learn who you can trust and who not to trust.
Also, its okay to ask people for advice. Being young maybe neiter you or your friends know what to do! And you may always have a friend who says "go on and do it".... I had one.. And she's a crack whore now, but, She is still my friend, I just wouldn't drink after her if someone paid me to.
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Anyways, I typed you more of an essay than anything.
Hopefully you find some useful information and can relate my past with your present. STAY BUSY!!
