Ask Me Help Desk - Will he ever want to?

Well, you've been acting like a little kid with him. Probably why he calls you that.

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

any more Two words in this instance.

your sure will work should be you're sure will work - you're = you are

Your writing is improving already! Wow!

Well, I have dated many guys and it always worked back during the time of dinosaurs when I was your age. The trick is that you have to do things exactly as I tell you. I am not sure if you can handle that.

Why would can't I be able to? How bad could it possibly be? I suppose it couldn't be as bad J and I never talking again, Right?

Can I share with you a poem that I wrote about a week ago?

I'm not sure you would be strong enough to follow directions exactly. It's easy enough but not your usual way of doing things. It probably wouldn't work because you would forget and go back to your usual way.

But then, like you say, what do you have to lose?

Sure, share away. Then I have to leave to go to bed. I work tomorrow and my electric blanket is calling me.

I focused in on the part where you talked about praying. Prayer works. It doesn't work too well when you ask for something for yourself though. You have to let it go, if only for a while. Think about all the wonderful things you would like him to have and be. Ask that those be given to him. You love him. That's acting like it. Then, forget all about it and do nice things for other friends or family members. When you start thinking about it again, pray for him again.

I'm trying to find my way out of this place I'm in,
The walls are getting thicker,
I'm falling deeper,
It's how I feel about you,
I can't escape it.
I can't explain it.
I can't erace it.
All I know is:
Everyday I try finding a way to get by
Everyday I cry, wondering if we will always be together,
And everyday I wonder why it hurts me so much to love you like I do.
But I try making things better,
I try not to cry,
Days go by and it gets harder,
Because none of it matters,
It's to late to go back.
I'm sorry for any wrong Iv'e done.
I just want you forever
I want things between us to get better.
I think you love me,
I know I love you,
So, Why can't we be happy and forget what all we out each other through?

Sorry, I know I probably didn't type that so well. I'm not good with the poems.

Why do you think that wouldn't work?

The poem is good, but depressing, but then I guess love poetry is often depressing.

Do you think you could follow my directions? I would be very clear. You couldn't do your own thing, only my way. Think about it.

I'm off and headed for bed.

Two friday's ago, he wrote me a note and this is what it said:

I guess I do have sentimental feelings. I just don't show them like you. I felt sad when you told other boys you loved them. And I feel bad about leaving you. You think this is a test, it never was a test. You seem intenet on Tyler. Talk to him or date him, but don't ask me to help you. I won't get in your way, and I won't have any part of it. Leave me out of your life, and I'll leave you out of mine. Wev'e been together for a long time. Lots of lies, empty promises, hurt feelings. If it hasn't worked out yet, it never will.
Good luck with Tyler, I hope it all works out. As for me, I'll wait for a girl who isn't afraid to talk to me in class. Who will always try to be close to me, and isn't afraid to show her feelings. And she has to be sane and honsest. Only then, will I change myself. And if she never comes, then I'll remain alone. But at least I'll never be hurt again.

Unsincerly not yours

P.S. - I will not protect you from other people and their insults

I typed this exactly as he wrote it. If there are any misspelled words or anything, that's how he wrote it too.

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

The poem is good, but depressing, but then I guess love poetry is often depressing.

Do you think you could follow my directions? I would be very clear. You couldn't do your own thing, only my way. Think about it.

I'm off and headed for bed.

It all depends on what it is I guess, but I am too afraid to have to face him tomorrow at school so I'm thinking about staying home.

UPDATE...
Today at school, we did not talk at all. I didn't even look at him. He kept talking to this other girl in a class we have together. He's been talking to her kind of a lot lately. Most of the time they just argue and keep telling each other how much they hate each other but it sounds more like they are just joking around. I don't know whether I should be worried about it or not. I wouldn't be but he's talking to her way too much and he doesn't talk to me at all. Did I mention my mom said, he'll probably come back in a day or 2 and she thinks that he is just playing games again? When he was talking that girl, I wanted to get up and push her out of her desk and just stand on her face and jump around then twist her head off and pick her up by her arms and swing her around in the air and let go and let her go flying through the window or into the wall. As if that isn't bad enough, this morning was so bad. I can't even talk about it though.

Let it be, just let things be. Give yourself some attention, you're the most important person that you should be caring about, not him.

Watch. Now, Wondergirl's no longer going to come here just so I can never get him back.

Should I start talking to his friend? Maybe if I do, I will fall in love with him and forget about J. Then again, that probably won't happen. I could never do that. Its' just that I know it's only a matter of time before he finds someone else. Then I will just be hurt more. But I don't want to hurt him any more. I only want him though and I guess I can't have him. These last couple days, my life has changed so much. I think this is how it feels to know that it's only a matter of time before you end up killing yourself. I know in another year, I WILL be dead. Their's no doubt about it. Maybe even in another week. I just know. I feel like I'm already dead. I can't do anything. All I do is sit and stare, wondering how much longer I will be miserable and when this will all end. Then last night, I can't remember my exact dream but I do know that I was dreaming of him because I woke up thinking to myself 'too bad this dream will never come true.' In that dream it was like everything was how it was before things got bad and when we could talk to each other. I had everything I could ever want and lost it all.

WONDERGIRL, I NEED your help ASAP. The school called my house and told my parents that we broke up for good and that I was going to kill myself. He keeps talking to other people and it's like he already forgot me. It kills me that he could even want this and be okay about it.

I'm here - home from work.

Finally. I need you to help me. Please.

You want to go to email, or talk here?

Someone else might have helpful things to add on this thread.

I'm really tired and I won't be awake much longer but I don't want to go another day like this. I can't stand not talking to him. It's kind of like I want to go up to him and say something but I won't because I won't because I don't know what to say and I know if I tried talking to him he would tell me to leave him alone or something.
When I type, it keeps jumping around all the time, so if there are random words in here that's why.

It doesn't matter to me.

Your sentence structure is MUCH better!

What do you want me to do for you?

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Originally Posted by beth911

I need alot of help with everything thats goin on. Theirs alot and its so long of a story that i dont even know where to begin. We have been together for almost 2 years. I wont say the whole story because its way too long but i will tell you bits and peices. Right now, he thinks i want his friend and i dont. so hes kida ignoring me. I only can talk to him at school and thats it. He wrote a note saying that he feels bad about leaving me but he doesnt wanna be hurt anymore. Their is nothing that anyone can say or do to get me to change my mind.... i already know that no matter what and even if i want to i will not give up on trying to keep us together. Even if I Want to give up on it i wont. I just need some help on trying to get him to understand that i really do love him and i dont want anyone else and i dont want him to be hurt but i wanna stay with him forever. I want him to know that I want things between us to be better than they ever were before and us to try to have fun together and get along better and not be misserable together because we both do love each other and we both dont like hurting each other and going throgh this but some how this is how it is............ i tried writing all this to him in a note but he said that one of his friends took it from him and that he never got it back. I told him to try to call me if he can and he said he would but he never did, then again he really isnt aloud to so maybe thats why..... I tried giving him another note and he said "i'l just lose it" so i ended up keeping it and he never read it. I told him to call me then and that was yesterday. So far he hasnt called. he said he would try though. And when i try to talk to him, he acts like he doesnt know me. I think that since he hasnt read that note he may still think that i want his friend and not him so he may be confused as to why i am talking to him. The day before yesterday, i told him in person that i want him and everything, then we kinda talked for like 10 seconds but then later i went back up to him and he just seemed mad again. This was right before we got out of school that day and then he just kinda walked away from me. The only time he talks to me is when i go up to him and he doesnt really say anything. But he sits next to me in 2 classes and in the 2nd one that we have together, he kept looking at me like he was trying to get my attention and then i kinda looked at him and then looked away and he just said "dont look at me like that"
But i dont know what to do.,. I mean from what i said, do you think if i wait, he will seee im not even talking to his friend and start to come back to me? Should i keep trying to talk or wait a little while before i say more to him? whats the best way to get him to come to me?
And he thinks i want his friend because of something that happened a few weeks ago.... He said he was talking to anoither girl and was going to leave me for her so i lied and said i wanted his friend and then he said he was just joking about her then he said it wasnt a lie and i dont know what to believe their becuase he makes things up sometimes to try to make me mad or see what i would do . but then i noticed him ignoring me so i told him that if he didnt want me to give to his friend because i was mad about eveything he told me about that other girl and when all thart was going on he said he didnt want me anymore so he was going to give to his friend. That all made me mad when i was only thinking about it so i said that to him but only becayse of everything he said to me.

I may have givin u somewhat the wrong idea or not enough info on this because its such along story but i tried to make it short.
but basiccaly i wanna know how i can get him to talk to me

Maybe you should let him be for a while.

Some time apart could really help him realize:

a) You're not interested in anyone else, especially not his friend.

b) How much he misses you, if that's the case, which I think it will be.

If you're always available to him, he won't realize what he would be missing out on!

Hope this helps some.

Please check out my question, "What move should I make? Or should I even make one?"
:)

Tell me what I have to do to get J back.

How do you usually act when you are around him? -- facial expression, eye contact, speaking or not speaking, general attitude and behavior?

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

Your sentence structure is MUCH better!!

What do you want me to do for you?

I don't even really have to think anymore. I just type it all out better.

I bet you're typing better in hopes that I will tell you the way to get him back.

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How do you usually act when you are around him? -- facial expression, eye contact, speaking or not speaking, general attitude and behavior?

Well, you know how we aren't aloud to speak to each other? Now, Iv'e began to be a little afraid of talking to him. I usually don't say much and as for now, I'm afraid to even look at him. Normally all I do is say the same things over and over... "don't forget to call me." '' Try to call me if you can." That kind of stuff. ( sorry I messed this whole sentence up. ) Because he said that he doesn't want to talk to me, I have been avoiding him all together. Before, I talked to him a little but not a lot and mainly only because I have no idea what to say to him and I always have to be so careful with what I say so that he doesn't get mad. I used to practically stare at him all hour, but not these last few days. Facial expression I would guess is just kind of plain, I can't think of any other way of describing it. As far as how I act around him, I don't really know.

Do you still help him with homework?

Are you close to getting your license?

I was in my basement on Thursday and my dads room is down there. He keeps a loaded pistol near his bed. I thought about shooting myself. The only thing that stopped me was thinking, ' what if I do it and then 5 minutes later J calls and says that he was joking about this whole thing and wants to be with me?' So, I kept waiting. He never called until Sunday, only to tell me that he didn't want anything to do with me. I don't know how I haven't been crying. I mean, I have been every now and then but not as much as I used to and I hurt more this time.

Why doesn't he want to have anything to do with you? I know all of what you said earlier. Now, tell me in five words or less.

Beth,
My advise to you is let this situation make you a stronger person, because you seem to me a bit needy. NO MAN LIKES NEEDY. Know if this guy truly has feelings for you he will search you out when he's ready. You sound young and it's important to move on when someone lets you go. I always said to myself when some guy hurt me, my, " Mr. Right, " wouldn't let me go so easily. The guy sounds like he used jealousy as an excuse to break it off with you. So sorry for being blunt but it's best to look else where.

A true man wouldn't care what his friends say. He would hug, kiss and hold hands with his girl right in front without embarrassment.

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Do you still help him with homework?

Are you close to getting your license?

Two friday's ago when he wrote me that note that I posted earlier in this thread, I still copied down some notes for him in one of our classes. I gave that to him that Monday. Then I believe it was on that Tuesday or wendsday, I went up to him and told him that basically the note that his other friend took said that I don't want anyone else. He said "If thats what it said then you won't mind doing this" and he showed me his homework for another class. I didn't do it though. I was so happy he was talking to me though. Then the next day he avoided me again. Then Sunday he called and said he didn't like me anymore and he had other plans, which he wouldn't say.

I think that I am supposed to retake my driving test over Christmas break.

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Why doesn't he want to have anything to do with you? I know all of what you said earlier. Now, tell me in five words or less.

I don't know. I tried asking him but he wouldn't really say. He just kept saying that he had to go every time I would ask him.

Did you flunk one already? If so, what did you mess up on?

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Did you flunk one already? If so, what did you mess up on?

What do you mean? Sorry, I'm really slow today and I'm having trouble thinking and understanding. I think it's because the whole last week, Iv'e only gotten a few hours of sleep each night and I have so much on my mind.

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Did you flunk one already? If so, what did you mess up on?

Sorry. Driving test.

I need to ask you 1 thing. This girl at my school, said she would talk to him for me if I wanted her to. Should I have her talk to him or not? What should she say?

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Sorry. Driving test.

Oh. Sorry, I forgot I even talked about that. Lol. Yeah, I failed it because of the parellel parking. I had no Idea what I was doing.

No, it's up to you, not her.

The written part was a joke. One of the questions was something like:
When you get to a stop sign do you
A) All of the above.
B) Ignore it.
C) Stop.
D) Speed up.