Ahhhh...
He's really sad, what do I say now?
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Ahhhh...
He's really sad, what do I say now?
He said he's sorry and he said he shouldn't have done that
Honey think about all the times you were sad and he didn't care... hes sad now but how about once this blows over and he gets mad again and starts putting you down again... do you think he says aww she's sad let me stop..? No!
Only you know in your heart if you want to give him another chance... and if he's worthy of it...
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Okay so he's being sweet!
Soooo?? Did you forgive him?
Should I?
It is up to you. You told him how you feel he said sorry, not it is up to you whether you give him another chanch or not. This might be a difffulcult time for you but you need to remember that these are decisions that you need to make and again I would like to say good luck.
Just give me a yes or no... please?
It is not a yes or no answer. You need to make that choice for yourself.
You always forgive him... to forgive someone is a beautiful thing but that doesn't mean you have to be with him... forgive him all you want just don't take the abuse anymore
I'm sorry I didn't mean to say that you always forgive him... disregard the 1st you
Honestly? If I where you I would talk to him about it and if he doesn't stop then I would dump him. No boyfriend should treat their girlfriend this way, and visa versa. If he doesn't appreciate you then tell him to go stick his abusive mouth up where the cows don't moo (weird but true) If your boyfriend started like this when you both started going out, then I would have dumped him then and there. If I where you, I would just leave him. There's no point in being with someone who treats you like total @&!*... so think about it and if he treats you the same way the next day tell him to p(*s off coz' you can't be bothered with someone as crude and selfish and abusive as him. And if you are going to dump him, use a stern and hard voice, so that he know's that you mean it. But it's totally up to you I suppose.
Oky so now he broke up with me and I'm begging him to get back togeather? What the h*ll is wrong with me?
OK, sorry but I've had enough of going from one thread to another that you started Rachael, to get to know you and try to help.
DROP THE BOY NOW.. and find the real you, after you dump all the trash that has cluttered your life so far. And PLEASE don't get impatient.. and read this to the end. OK?
You have taken us from one problem to another as if in a CHAT ROOM... this is not a chat room. We do take questions very serious and really want to help.
It would seem that for some reason, you are sending pieces of a puzzle, piece by piece, and then expect us to come up with something that you 'desperately need immediate help' for in each thread.
Honey, you have some serious problems that need immediate attention, I don't deny that, but you are going about it the wrong way. It's not going to be easy for you, or anyone else in your life right now because nothing in your life has been easy.
It's unfortunate that you had to practically raise yourself. You did not get a chance to have a normal childhood therefore it's not easy for you to 'act' like a normal 12 year old.
Unfortunately, this is not something that can be 'fixed' piece by piece on the internet. This will take real people, some real hard time dedicated to helping you deal with your past and get you to a better future.
You need someone to be there for you when you get mad and cry, vent your anger, your fears, and your hopes. You've got so much bottle up inside that it will not give you room to move on right now. Please, please get some help from a councilor right now. Each day you wait, the angrier you will get - to the point of no return - and that's is not what you want.
If you can take that step to talk to someone and work with them, you'll see the difference it will make.
Stay with us and let us know how you feel, at any time, but promise that you'll get that help you desperately need, OK...
Lots and lots of HUGS!
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I wish I could be punished nobody punishes me! I want to know that someone cares and doesn't want me to be like this.. but no one tells me so I guess... yeah.
Your advice is great and I'm going to take.
Honey, you are punishing yourself enough as it is, don't you think..
Wishing that you had caring parents that helped set boundaries for you is too late. You will have to set your own boundaries, but should not blame yourself or punish yourself if a few things go wrong.
Even if you had someone that would be willing to discipline you right now, you'd rebel.
Getting even with others because they did not know better is also not a solution.
Find some things you would like to do in your life and start over with a lot of help.
Again good luck dear, and keep us posted.
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Okay thanks.. I will kepp you posted...
Trust me I will..
Lol..
He's a worthless jerk. Dump him like a hot potato. You shouldn't allow anyone to treat you like this.
Yeah I know...
But like he's addicting...
I don't know whyyyyyyyy...
He comforts me when I need him and holds me close saying everythings going to be okay.. that's all I really want but I always end up heart borken.. like my signature says..
"all i wanted was a hug, but i ended up heart broken"
I don't know anymore..
The reason you feel that way is because you do not get the kind of love and attention that you need in your life from the people who are supposed to give it.
However, and listen to me and HEAR me. You do not deserve to be called names. You are not a whore, you are not a bad person, you do not deserve to be treated badly by someone. Not now. Not ever.
I understand that he apologizes and is sweet AFTER he calls you these horrible names. However, if he was really a good guy he would NEVER call you those names to begin with. EVER. A good guy would love you. He would be supportive all of the time, love you all the time, never make you cry and ALWAYS make you feel good. Not some of the time.
What have I been telling you all this time Dolly? I want you to LOVE YOU. You are lovable. Will you please recognize that within yourself. You deserve healthy love not this dysfunctional nonsense that is going on now. I know its hard because its all you have ever been shown in your life.
Right now on all of these boards we are all showing how someone who cares should act. We want to watch out for your well being and make sure you feel happy and feel good. That is what care and love is about.
Yeah your right... there's so many guys that like me that says he treats me like $h!t and they would treat me way better...
But I turn them down because I try to work things out with chase but my heart can't take it anymore my heart broke so many times before and its not long before it completely breaks off and I have a meltdown..
It just feels good to have someone there beside me holding me telling me wonderful things but unfortunately my heart breaks... unno?
I know honey. It's a tough situation. Where you are in your life right now you need those reassurances but I'm certain someone who will always make you happy will give you that as well. You have to stop thinking that only Chase can give that to you.
Look at all of us here. We don't even know you and all of us want the best for you and want things to be okay for you. I tell you all the time I wish I could reach through the computer and just hug you until all those bad feelings are gone.
You really need some positive grown up influences in your life.
Volunteering - Volunteer work and volunteer programs with Big Brothers Big Sisters.
This is the link for Big Brothers/Big Sisters. Please look into this. I want so much for you to have an adult in your life who can really give you a hug and tell you its going to be okay.
Thanks I will look into it!
Scrue that loose the guyy!
Maybe you should break up with him if you think he isn't treating you right. Why would you want a boyfriend if he calls you slut and and all that.
He is a bad boyfriend. These types of guys grow up, get married, and abuse their spouses. You deserve better than this guy treats you. It's not okay for a guy to treat a woman that way, and it's wrong. I would personally leave the guy if I were you.Quote:
Originally Posted by XxXscarsXxX
Thanks guys. You so I broke up with him aand I found out hat he was cheating on me all along and so I said screw you I don't need this and I hung up... ( then cried). Hehe
Good for you Dolly! You don't need someone to be mean to you and then be cheating on you on top of it! Oh honey! Remember not all guys are like this jerk.
There's my girl! Good job dumping the loser!
Believe me, when you find a real keeper, you'll know it! {{HUGS from Me to YOU}}
I'm sorry to hear that he was cheating on you, but the good thing is that you don't have a negative, abusive person in your life. It's someone else's problem.Quote:
Originally Posted by XxXscarsXxX
The best revenge a woman can have on another woman cheating with her boyfriend, is to let the other person have the guy.:D
No he is not treating you right. He is treating you like a piece of crap. And when he's thruough with you he will do you like a piece of crap and flush you away.
Don't really mean to be so crude. But get rid of him. And try and make better choices in the future.
SCARS.. you are still a teenager and should not even be thinking of a steady relationship, let alone a relationship with someone who puts you down.Quote:
Originally Posted by XxXscarsXxX
Be serious and work on yourself- develop a healthier attitude toward yourself - and only then can you expect others to treat you with respect. It's hard for people to do if you don't respect yourself.
You have far too much on your plate: breakdown, cutting, school, parents, etc. Plus, a cousin who raped you... Believe me, all this adds up to the torment that you are going through right now in your life and until you get this worked out, you will constantly wonder who you are and who you think people want you to be.
Again, how can you expect other to treat you with love if you don't treat yourself better first. The right guy could come along and you would not know it because you don't 'expect' anyone to love you and care.
The first step must be made by you... So, love yourself first! The only one you should 'try to make happy' is YOURSELF!
http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/36/36_22_19.gifDo you like what you see? If not, then get the help you deserve!
You have just as much right to be happy as anyone else in this world - but it takes work.
Lots of Hugs!
OKAY GUYS THANX FOR THE ADVICE! IT REALLY HELPED ME OUT ALOT! BUT I BROKE UP WITH HIM SO ITS OVER...
SHEEZ THANK GOD YOU BROKE UP WITH THIS LOSER !
It makes my blood boil listening to stories like this, I can't stand seeing someone mistreated like that, he sounds like the kind of person that would give "empty" apologies, and I'm sorry those kept you going for so long, grrr, I want to punch him in the nose!
Srry about my temper ! :-0
No he does not treat u right
Well first of all how old are you and he deffinitly shouldn't be saying that what are you thinking no guy should treat sumone like that
:rolleyes: ;) hey honey I no what your going through and yes its so hard because uria stuck between the man you won't to love and the man you have its hard I no but you do need to talk to him and tell him that he has a choose he can get help and straighten up or your gone and if he truly does love you he will straighten and become a loving person again [/FONT
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