Ask Me Help Desk - Parents are confusing?

Don't be so hard on yourself TGirl, you are going through growing pains like ALL teens do, like we all here have. Considering where you were and now, you are coming along nicely.

Give yourself some credit and do something NICE for yourself. You earned that at least.

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Originally Posted by talaniman

Don't be so hard on yourself TGirl, you are going through growing pains like ALL teens do, like we all here have. Considering where you were and now, you are coming along nicely.

Give yourself some credit and do something NICE for yourself. You earned that at least.

Thank you its nice to hear. Not that I believe it. I spoke with me da this morning about the whole not wanting to go out having a bit of time first, he wasn't to impressed thinks I've been wasting his time and money going to counselling and just stuffing everyone around as he put it. He said me step mum is sick of me acting all depressed and moping around the house. I so wanted to say something I was so frigging mad but I didn't say anything I just listened I just kept on thinking about all the advice you all have given me, It was not easy I knew he would be upset with me. I don't want to cause anymore trouble or make them mad so I was thinking I could go to the library after school on the three day after school I don't work do me studying their at least ill be out of the house then, I could probably even look for another job so that could take up some more time. I don't know I just need to try harder to be out of the house and make good choices

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Originally Posted by Thinkaboutit

I spoke with me da this morning about the whole not wanting to go out having a bit of time first, he wasn't to impressed thinks I've been wasting his time and money going to counselling and just stuffing everyone around as he put it. He said me step mum is sick of me acting all depressed and moping around the house.

Did he have any suggestions as to what you can do? Or did you ask him about your doing this or that?

Do you act depressed and mopey around the house? Be Little Miss Sunshine?

No matter what you do -- go to the library or get another job or whatever -- it is VITAL that you run this past your dad, partly for his okay but mostly so he and your stepmom will know where you are.

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

Did he have any suggestions as to what you can do? Or did you ask him about your doing this or that?

Do you act depressed and mopey around the house? Be Little Miss Sunshine?

No matter what you do -- go to the library or get another job or whatever -- it is VITAL that you run this past your dad, partly for his okay but mostly so he and your stepmom will know where you are.

No he didn't make any suggestions about what to do. I am very confused they want me to get out of the house more but when I asked before about netball they said no it would interfere with me babysitting for me step mum I cut back me hours at work to be able to babysit when she goes out. I don't think I act depressed I mainly stay in me room out of their way I do me chores I work. I don't even understand what the problem is. I know I'm a problem and have caused them so much stress but to me it seems like I can't do anything right. But your right whatever I do I will ask them first so I have permission and they know where I am.

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Originally Posted by Goodguylove

Ask your parents why they feel the way they do?

Yeah not going to happen after the what me da did today I don't intend to speak to him and will be staying out of the house as much as possible problem solved.

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Originally Posted by Thinkaboutit

Yeah not going to happen after the what me da did today I don't intend to speak to him and will be staying out of the house as much as possible problem solved.

This kind of attitude is why you seem to stay in trouble. You get mad and you don't think things through.

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Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

This kind of attitude is why you seem to stay in trouble. You get mad and you don't think things through.

Yeah I get that now just thought me da taking everything out of me room was a bit much. But what do I know I'm just a kid. Oh well guess its off to school for me see what the day brings.

Sorry hear your family has broken up and that explains some of the comments you made and the behavorial acting out. It's a very confusing time when this happens and sometimes teens might blame themselves but you are not to blame. Your mum keeping in contact is a very positive thing, she loves you and is concerned, maybe if you made a time each week when she could ring you, she wouldn't feel the need to ring so often. Apologising for the stuff you put them through some time would help to improve the relationship but only do it when you are ready and don't get into a going over the past session, and whatever you do, don't do it when you are angry.

You see your parents love covers those things you did, sometimes teens are off the planet for quite a while and sometimes they need a time out of home even so they can get to see things differently. There are some really big mistakes you can make and your parents don't want it to happen to you

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Originally Posted by paraclete

Sorry hear your family has broken up and that explains some of the comments you made and the behavorial acting out. It's a very confusing time when this happens and sometimes teens might blame themselves but you are not to blame. Your mum keeping in contact is a very positive thing, she loves you and is concerned, maybe if you made a time each week when she could ring you, she wouldn't feel the need to ring so often. Apologising for the stuff you put them through some time would help to improve the relationship but only do it when you are ready and don't get into a going over the past session, and whatever you do, don't do it when you are angry.

You see your parents love covers those things you did, sometimes teens are off the planet for quite a while and sometimes they need a time out of home even so they can get to see things differently. There are some really big mistakes you can make and your parents don't want it to happen to you

I don't blame me self for me parents separating me da left us when I was little I couldn't care less he has his new wife and baby and me mum has her boyfriend their all happy. I do miss me mum heaps I don't mind when she rings I haven't seen mum in just over a year makes me upset thinking about it we use to be really close. I have apologised many times for the stupid things I've done I just hate it when me da gets mad and brings it up all the time how disappointed in me he is blah blah blah sick of hearing it I messed up I know but does he have to keep throwing it back in me face. Anyway just makes me feel confused thinking about it all, da and the step mum ain't happy with me spending so much time at their home they took all me stuff out of the room I guess I'll keep them happy and not spend so much time there.