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Originally Posted by tickle

You really want something offensive. Don't come here with this crap, if you know what I mean. We are all volunteers here. We help people with issues that are FAR more important then yours.

If you truly want help stop shooting everyone down who offers it, otherwise get on with your young life, on a bus, with all of your friends.

This is an international site, so anyone in the whole wide world who are on our site can answer you any way they want, unless it involves some really bad language, then it gets deleted.

Grow up, get a life, get a job and get cleaner friends is my advise, clare.

Is your name part of your birth date, 2000. That means that you are, what, 14

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Thanks, this really didn't make me feel better at all. This situation was really upsetting me, and now its just a lot worse. Sorry to come to you with my "crap" you didn't have to answer it. I shot down two people, that doesn't count for everyone. I actually received some helpful words.

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Originally Posted by joypulv

My advice wasn't at all offensive. You just didn't like it. Big difference.
My warning is based on many long years of experience with just this sort of situation.
It is clear that you are young. When you say something like 'to me friendship involves putting someone else's feeling above yours,' you aren't recognizing all the complexities that go into 'telling' on someone.
Teens who do what you want to do don't usually have noble intentions at all. They either have some little resentment going on about one of the people, or they want one of them for themselves. Whatever the reason, the result is causing a breakup that might be going along just fine. Congratulations!

I don't really care anymore, since you are so easily 'offended.' One of my least favorite words.

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Your advice was insenstive, calling my intentions unobel is actually offending. Your years of experience still couldn't tell me what's going on inside my head.

To hear I was just "stirring the witch's cauldron" was the hurtful part when I honestly just wanted to help a friend.

Are you helping a friend by acting on a "he said, she said" story that upset you? Good intentions are little substitute for facts, and not just FEELINGS.

Those words weren't meant to hurt or offend - I don't even know you. They were meant as a warning, because presumably you haven't told yet.
As for insensitive, perhaps you are too sensitive, especially when asking total strangers for advice.
Some day you will realize that spreading stories second hand are what is hurtful. Nothing 'helpful' to your friend at all.
Everyone will be hurt.
You could lose a lot of friends as a result.
Your choice, of course. I'm curious to know how it goes if you do.

"Your advice was insenstive, calling my intentions unobel (sic) is actually offending. Your years of experience still couldn't tell me what's going on inside my head. "

And no one ever will. It's your head. Undies are a bit twisted up Eh!