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  • Jan 20, 2014, 06:52 PM
    chelseyboo142
    Because she mentioned if I got pregnant she would send me of, but also has mentioned she would be the one taking care of him/her.
  • Jan 20, 2014, 06:57 PM
    J_9
    Depending on where you live, it could be considered statutory rape. Meaning he could be prosecuted for raping you whether you consented.

    You mou other is right. She would be the one taking care of the child because you aren't financially, emotionally, or mentally able to at your age.
  • Jan 20, 2014, 07:39 PM
    chelseyboo142
    Well I believe I'll focus on the positive rather than the negative
  • Jan 20, 2014, 07:41 PM
    Alty
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by chelseyboo142 View Post
    Well I believe I'll focus on the positive rather than the negative

    What's the positive?
  • Jan 20, 2014, 07:43 PM
    chelseyboo142
    1)Body bounces back quicker 2) More on a mental wave length with the child
    3) More energy to play with the children
    4) Learning responsibility of your own actions
    5) Learning to put others 1st
    6) Less likely to have time to get into any trouble hanging around with bad influences
  • Jan 20, 2014, 07:55 PM
    Alty
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by chelseyboo142 View Post
    1)Body bounces back quicker 2) More on a mental wave length with the child
    3) More energy to play with the children
    4) Learning responsibility of your own actions
    5) Learning to put others 1st
    6) Less likely to have time to get into any trouble hanging around with bad influences

    1. Wrong. You may get back to your post baby weight faster, but the strain you're putting on your body, a body that isn't ready to have a child, is far more than it is for an adult. So no, you won't bounce back quicker.

    2. Ridiculous. I have yet to meet a teenager that can handle an infant. So you cry all night, don't understand logic, pee and poo in your pants, need 24/7 attention? If not, you're not on the same mental wave length.

    3. LOL! No matter how young you are when you have a child, getting 2 or 3 hours of sleep a night, if you're lucky, will take its toll. No new mother has energy, no matter their age.

    4. A baby shouldn't have to suffer for you to learn a lesson.

    5. Again, a baby shouldn't have to suffer for you to learn that, and sadly it will because of your age.

    6. The time to do that is before you have a baby. Also, you'll whine and cry until someone takes your child so that you can go out and have fun. Or you'll be bitter because you can't do the things normal teens do, and you'll take it out on the child. You're only 14! That's what 14 year olds do.

    So again, what positives?
  • Jan 20, 2014, 07:57 PM
    Homegirl 50
    You are sounding like a 14 year old now. You may have more energy to play with a child but at 15/16 that is not going to be what you're going to want to be doing. What about your education? This will not be a picnic.
  • Jan 20, 2014, 08:07 PM
    chelseyboo142
    At this point I understand I did wrong,but I can't change it now,so yeah I'm going to grow up faster.I WILL take care of my child.yous can say what you want but I'm telling myself I can get through this and I will.you can tell me I'm a bad person you can tell me my life won't be the same.tell me all you want but I'll get through this my dad is watching over me in heaven.and my mom will be supportive.I'll get my education so I can give my child a good life.and no you don't know me as a person my child WILL come before anyone or anything
  • Jan 20, 2014, 08:10 PM
    ScottGem
    What about the answers to my questions?
    Your positives are pipe dreams, grasping at straws to rationalize a bad situation. You may think you will do all those things. And you may, but the odds are against you.
  • Jan 20, 2014, 08:12 PM
    chelseyboo142
    There's nothing else left to do then to think positive.
  • Jan 20, 2014, 08:14 PM
    ScottGem
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by chelseyboo142 View Post
    There's nothing else left to do then to think positive.

    The best positive thought you can have is to NOT be pregnant. You haven't answered our questions to even guess whether you may actually be pregnant.
  • Jan 20, 2014, 08:20 PM
    chelseyboo142
    If I knew any home aide pregnancy tests.
  • Jan 20, 2014, 08:37 PM
    ScottGem
    You go to a drugstore and you will find plenty on the shelves.

    Still waiting for answers.
  • Jan 20, 2014, 09:02 PM
    chelseyboo142
    What answers r you waiting for
  • Jan 20, 2014, 09:09 PM
    Homegirl 50
    Have you actually missed a period?
  • Jan 20, 2014, 09:23 PM
    chelseyboo142
    Have had one when I was n the shot I had no period at all
  • Jan 20, 2014, 09:40 PM
    talaniman
    If you wanted to be positive you would tell your mom and let her guide you through the process of finding out if you are pregnant or not. There's a right way to do things, and you have admitted yours was not, so it's time to do the right thing for yourself. That's where being positive, and learning your lesson should lead you.

    Do the right thing and talk to your mom, as that's what's best for the possible child, even if you are afraid because you can only make a bad scary situation worse. You have to do more than think positive, you have to do positive. If you have the guts to sneak around and have sex to be an adult, have the guts to handle your business like one. Babies are serious business.
  • Jan 20, 2014, 09:51 PM
    chelseyboo142
    I will talk to my mom but as of now,I'm starting to think I have appendicitis:/
  • Jan 20, 2014, 09:55 PM
    Wondergirl
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by chelseyboo142 View Post
    I will talk to my mom but as of now,I'm starting to think I have appendicitis:/

    And, thinking that, you are going to do what?
  • Jan 20, 2014, 09:58 PM
    chelseyboo142
    Go to my doctor and get checked out

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