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  • Jun 20, 2013, 07:02 PM
    teacherjenn4
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Zandria13 View Post
    I'm going to use protection , and I also DID told him If he didn't have a condom he wasn't going to have sexwith me ! And well can y'all explain the facts a little better ? I feellike you guys are YELLING !

    When you have sex you will not be a virgin anymore, even if he uses a condom. And, you can still get pregnant using a condom. What will your parents say when they find out you are pregnant?
  • Jun 20, 2013, 07:04 PM
    Zandria13
    I don't know about my dad , but my mom already thinks I'm having sex and I'm no so I midswell just do it ! But if I get pregnant my mom will beat the heck out of me !
  • Jun 20, 2013, 07:12 PM
    J_9
    Okay, the facts.

    I got pregnant using the pill AND the condom. Not once but twice. Another member got pregnant the first time she had sex using three forms of birth control. You see, just having a condom does not protect you from getting pregnant. It can still happen.

    If your mom takes you to a doctor he can, and will, tell her if you have had sex.

    Sex does hurt the first time. You will also be sore for several days.

    Let me ask you this. If you do get pregnant, how are you prepared to deal with it?
  • Jun 20, 2013, 07:13 PM
    teacherjenn4
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Zandria13 View Post
    I don't know about my dad , but my mom already thinks I'm having sex and I'm no so I midswell just do it ! But if I get pregnant my mom will beat the heck out of me !

    Then be prepared for getting into trouble. You'll be lucky to have a normal baby at your age, plus you can have a lot of problems being so young. Will you just quit school if you get pregnant? You must be in middle school. How sad!
  • Jun 20, 2013, 07:21 PM
    Zandria13
    I'm through, all I'm doing is asking questions and you guys are acting like I'm NOT A VIRGIN which I am ! I haven't have sex YET ! When my mom take me to the doctor I'll juss ask them all this stuff and continue looking on the internet at least THEYwont JUDGE someone who still is a VIRGIN and haven't let a boy stick his penid in her ! I understand y'all helping but you guys say the meanest things ! :(, to a girl who STILL IS A VIRGIN!!
  • Jun 20, 2013, 07:23 PM
    odinn7
    They are telling you that once you let him do this to you, you will not be a virgin... is that really so hard to understand?

    And I see nobody saying anything mean here but I do see you not understanding what is being said... or at least pretending to not understand.

    And you are too young to be having sex... keep telling him no.
  • Jun 20, 2013, 07:25 PM
    Wondergirl
    No one is being mean. They are telling you the truth.

    Please continue to be a virgin.
  • Jun 20, 2013, 07:26 PM
    J_9
    We have never been mean to you. We are telling you the truth.

    Why are you so angry with the truth?
  • Jun 20, 2013, 07:27 PM
    Zandria13
    Okay , explain things BETTER ! Getting mad at me ? NOT going to help I'm still a virgin so I can care less I'm going to just go to the doctor whenever my mom take me or talk to my dads girlfriend .
  • Jun 20, 2013, 07:30 PM
    J_9
    We are not getting mad at you. You are getting mad at us.

    How can we explain things any better? We've already have explained as good as we can.
  • Jun 20, 2013, 07:33 PM
    Zandria13
    Well , thank you very much !
  • Jun 20, 2013, 07:33 PM
    odinn7
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    Explain things better?

    This is getting silly now.
  • Jun 21, 2013, 03:10 AM
    ScottGem
    We aren't getting mad at you. We care about you and are trying to help you. You came on here telling us you are scared because your boyfriend is pressuring you to have sex. You tell us you are worried about how it will feel and how your mother will react. You tell us you are worried that a doctor can tell whether you have had sex. So we have answered all those questions. We have told you it will hurt the first time. We have told you a doctor can tell. How better can we explain that?

    We have also told you that no form of birth control is 100% effective so any time you have sexual intercourse you risk getting pregnant. We have also told you that getting pregnant at your age can mean serious health problems.

    You tell us you are scared, well you should be. You should be scared because you are thinking about doing something adult when you are only a child. We want to protect you from making a very big mistake that you can't take back. Once you lose your virginity its gone. If you get pregnant your life can be ruined. Wait until you are older and more emotionally prepared to deal with this.

    Being scared is a warning sign. If you are scared about something then don't do it.

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