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  • Sep 24, 2012, 07:19 AM
    JudyKayTee
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Bubzybabygirl45 View Post
    If i did commit suicide the world would be a better place. Even one of the comments said I was deluded I shouldn't be in this world.


    You fit one of my favorite phrases - passive/aggressive.

    So that I have this straight - your options in life are: commit suicide OR have a baby, right?

    It is relatively amusing that you are here, in AMHD, giving advice, telling people how to solve their problems, deal with issues, and then over here with suicide threats.
  • Sep 24, 2012, 07:20 AM
    Bubzybabygirl45
    I was getting counselling I stopped going 2 weeks ago. I am not going to try and get pregnant I meant if it happens I won't be upset. I know I need help that's why I came here I have been bullied everyday of my life since I was 3 . Having a baby would prove myself I'm worth something.
  • Sep 24, 2012, 07:21 AM
    Bubzybabygirl45
    NO. Those aren't my two options I NEVER said that.
  • Sep 24, 2012, 07:24 AM
    Curlyben
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Bubzybabygirl45 View Post
    Having a baby would prove myself I'm worth something.

    Far from it.
    A baby at your age would prove something completely different,
    And unrepeatable in decent company.

    As I said earlier talk to your FATHER about this and see what he says.
  • Sep 24, 2012, 07:25 AM
    joypulv
    I was deluded yesterday, thinking I was going to insulate my attic myself at age 65 with bad knees and no standing room up there (I crawled around for 5 minutes and gave up). Being 'deluded' doesn't mean crazy, although of course some crazy people are delusional.

    It is just not mature thinking to believe that a baby will solve your grief. I assume that you didn't get the love a child should get and that is why you are suicidal. Girls who get pregnant to find the love they lack end up frustrated and angry that the baby needs, needs, needs, and doesn't give, give, give. Yes, the baby is dependent on your breast and holding and diaper changing. AND that total dependency turns into crying and being irritable and later getting out of hand when his needs aren't instantly met, and then you really will go crazy. It takes a LOT of strength to be a mother. You need many years just to gather what you weren't given by your parent or parents.
  • Sep 24, 2012, 07:25 AM
    JudyKayTee
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Bubzybabygirl45 View Post
    I was getting counselling I stopped going 2 weeks ago. I am not going to try and get pregnant I meant if it happens I won't be upset. I know I need help that's why I came here I have been bullied everyday of my life since I was 3 . Having a baby would prove myself I'm worth something.


    I'm not going to argue with you - you apparently have some need for attention, even from on-line strangers, so I'll agree with you. Apparently your mind is made up and nothing is going to change it.

    Any particular reason why you are being bullied and have been since age 3? I realize you cut - is that part of the problem. Hopefully you can stop that when you're pregnant. If not it will be interesting to see if the authorities step in and take your child because you are mentally unsound. If you feel worthless now, wait until you lose custody of your child.

    Isn't today a school day? Why are you on line?

    Oh, the boyfriend who is going to provide financial support for you and your baby - because the odds you will finish school are slim to none to it's a lifetime job for him - how old is he and what does he do for a living?
  • Sep 24, 2012, 07:27 AM
    J_9
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Bubzybabygirl45 View Post
    Having a baby would prove myself I'm worth something.

    Wrong. Having a baby at your age would prove you are immature and ignorant.

    You can't raise a baby at your age, your boyfriend will leave you... I promise that. You won't finish your education... etc. Should I go on?
  • Sep 24, 2012, 07:30 AM
    Curlyben
    To summarize

    Quote:

    Hi I'm 12 and I am wondering is it okay to have sex at 12?
    - NO !

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