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Originally Posted by JudyKayTee

It's her house. She gets to be the bully.

Somehow I think you brought this on yourself.

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What do you mean? And how can I tell her how I feel. I've already told her how I feel but she just said that everyone doesn't like me anyway.

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Originally Posted by malinic100

What do you mean? And how can i tell her how I feel. I've already told her how I feel but she just said that everyone doesn't like me anyway.

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I mean it sounds like you behaved like a spoiled brat. You were invited to a sleepover with no follow up, you wanted to call and invite yourself, your mother told you not to do that, you kept asking, you and your sister got into an argument. I don't think that's terribly complicated.

Maybe if you would stop crying, sit down and behave like an adult she'd be more understanding.

If this is true - and I doubt it ("I was really sorry but she just kept on saying I could cry all I want and it's too late and nobody likes me and that the family hates me anyway") call CPS and report the abuse. If you're lucky you'll be put in foster care and won't have to deal with any more bullying.

I can't imagine all of this chaos over a missed sleepover.

The response, "everyone doesn't like [you] anyway" seems odd when your statement is "I think you bullying me, and that makes me unhappy."

This appears to be teen-age angst in a world full of serious problems.

Here's a thought - get a job. Find somewhere to volunteer. Assist a neighbor. Go and help at the local library. Do something for someone else and it will take your mind off you.

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Originally Posted by JudyKayTee

I mean it sounds like you behaved like a spoiled brat. You were invited to a sleepover with no follow up, you wanted to call and invite yourself, your mother told you not to do that, you kept asking, you and your sister got into an argument. I don't think that's terribly complicated.

Maybe if you would stop crying, sit down and behave like an adult she'd be more understanding.

If this is true - and I doubt it ("I was really sorry but she just kept on saying I could cry all I want and it's too late and nobody likes me and that the family hates me anyway") call CPS and report the abuse. If you're lucky you'll be put in foster care and won't have to deal with any more bullying.

I can't imagine all of this chaos over a missed sleepover.

The response, "everyone doesn't like [you] anyway" seems odd when your statement is "I think you bullying me, and that makes me unhappy."

This appears to be teen-age angst in a world full of serious problems.

Here's a thought - get a job. Find somewhere to volunteer. Assist a neighbor. Go and help at the local library. Do something for someone else and it will take your mind off of you.

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I want to correct a few things. They said I could come, and I wanted to call and ask when I should be there. And I would never want to go in foster care I just want to sort it out. And this has been happening a lot, but if I reported anything, my mom would kill me.

And as for a job, I'm only 12 and I've tried but there's nothing I can do. And it's hard to do things with friends because my mom will never let me go so much. Maybe like once a week... I guess school is coming but still.


Thanks for your help

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Originally Posted by malinic100

I want to correct a few things. They said I could come, and I wanted to call and ask when I should be there. And I would never want to go in foster care I just want to sort it out. And this has been happening a lot, but if I reported anything, my mom would kill me.

And as for a job, I'm only 12 and I've tried but there's nothing I can do. And it's hard to do things with friends because my mom will never let me go so much. Maybe like once a week... I guess school is coming but still.


Thanks for your help

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You can volunteer - have you looked into volunteering?

Again, your mom would "kill" you? Why don't you stop being so over the top and tell us what's going on?

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Originally Posted by JudyKayTee

You can volunteer - have you looked into volunteering?

Again, your mom would "kill" you? Why don't you stop being so over the top and tell us what's going on?

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One time my brother called 912 because my mom was being mean to him in a way he thought was dangerous, so he tried to freak her out by calling 912 instead of 911. So the police still came and they both got really mad at my brother. I don't think it's necessary to report her, I just want to find a way to talk to her in which she will actually listen. And I could volunteer but I'd have to have an adult with me. My older sister couldn't even volunteer until 15 around here. Plus she'd have to drive me here. But I will try to be more mature. It's just hard when they don't notice at all.

Then stop crying, stop overreacting, stop fighting with your sister, act like you can handle responsibility, sit down and talk to her.

This makes no sense to me: "Today I was invited to my friends house for a sleepover, and they hadn't called to say I could come ..."

You were invited but were waiting for an invitation? I'm sure your mother sees the same things I'm seeing.

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Originally Posted by JudyKayTee

Then stop crying, stop overreacting, stop fighting with your sister, act like you can handle responsibility, sit down and talk to her.

This makes no sense to me: "Today I was invited to my friends house for a sleepover, and they hadn't called to say I could come ..."

You were invited but were waiting for an invitation? I'm sure your mother sees the same things I'm seeing.

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I will try to talk to her. And they said I could come, but I just wanted to know what TIME I should've been there.

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Originally Posted by malinic100

I will try to talk to her. And they said I could come, but I just wanted to know what TIME I should've been there.

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This has turned into a chat site - I'm gone.

Awwwhh you are so cute :) please don't be sad . When we are teen we always think that everybody hates us and nobody loves us . Just because we are teens and no one can understand what we are feeling. But rememeber she is your mom she still loves you and if she is forbiding you from something just listen to her :) and u can be calm and nice and ask her again about something :)

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Originally Posted by KomalShahid

awwwhh you are so cute :) please dont be sad . when we are teen we always think that everybody hates us and nobody loves us . just because we are teens and no one can understand what we are feeling. but rememeber she is your mom she still loves you and if she is forbiding you from something just listen to her :) and u can be calm and nice and ask her again about something :)

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What do you think about this thread is "cute"?

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Originally Posted by JudyKayTee

What do you think about this thread is "cute"?

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Yes honestly this is not cute but thanks for being supportive. I didn't get to go but I talked to my mom. The only thing that still bugs me is that she still said that I am having bad behavior. So then I said I know and I'm sorry, and she didn't know but I was actually trying to change and be better, and that it wasn't just me who should be changing. But she just said I wasn't trying and I was the only one who needed to change, which isn't true at all. Earlier this year she admitted she should stop with all her anger!

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Yes honestly this is not cute but thanks for being supportive. I didn't get to go but I talked to my mom. The only thing that still bugs me is that she still said that I am having bad behavior. So then I said I know and I'm sorry, and she didn't know but I was actually trying to change and be better, and that it wasn't just me who should be changing. But she just said I wasn't trying and I was the only one who needed to change, which isn't true at all. Earlier this year she admitted she should stop with all her anger!

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I guess the only thing you can do is continue to display changed behavior, your ability and attempts to change.

Actions do speak louder than words.

In re-reading this your mother sounds overwhelmed. Is she a single parent?

If you stop the childish and bad behavior, your mom won't have any reason to be angry any more.

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Originally Posted by JudyKayTee

I guess the only thing you can do is continue to display changed behavior, your ability and attempts to change.

Actions do speak louder than words.

In re-reading this your mother sounds overwhelmed. Is she a single parent?

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No, but she's sort of always been like this

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Originally Posted by malinic100

No, but she's sorta always been like this

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Where's your father in all of this? If my mother was upset with me my father always made sure I knew he wasn't happy with me either.

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Originally Posted by JudyKayTee

Where's your father in all of this? If my mother was upset with me my father always made sure I knew he wasn't happy with me either.

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Well he's at work and he usually stays out of it. My dads usually the only one who is nice to me when my mom is like that