It can also be OK at some point to allow yourself to not forget about her. Our minds are always working and playing around with memories good or bad. You can't make yourself go numb can you? So you might as well take this relationship that lives in your head, by way of memories and appreciate them for what they are worth. She was a lovely lady in your life that you loved. It's OK to feel that way. Let yourself grieve the relationship... let yourself own these memories in a positive light even if it didn't have the ending you wanted. It's all good in the end because you have the capasity to move on... it's a choice. It's also really really good to talk about your feelings like you are... it's like "purging". At some point you will have to tuck this drama away, say to yourself that you trust yourself enough to know you can handle this and starting looking at other girls. She won't be the last love of your young life... unless you MAKE her be. Just don't do that to yourself... you have to give yourself permission at some point to move on. You can't change the outcome and life goes on. I think you're doing great and I can't wait to hear all about the next girl you're crushing on, if we're lucky enough to be a part of that. <3 peace :)

Hey guys, just updating. So far I've been able to block the pain out by getting REALLY busy. But I'm on holiday now and I've got nothing to do. All those times I was busy was because of school, and now I'm finding myself looking forward to the end of the day so it'll be one less day left till school starts again XD

Don't get me wrong, I do hang out with my friends from time to time, but most days I'm at home playing games that get boring too fast. Regarding the ex, I've had no contact whatsoever and I'm not planning to. It just feels like I'll go back into that blackhole when I see her again. So yeah...

Just really bored right now lol. Kind of weird huh, wanting the holidays to end so I could go back to school. Doesn't help either that one of my very good friends also left the country for their holiday.

And I'm also kind of infatuated with somebody. I know its wrong, since I haven't completely gotten over my ex, but I find myself WANTING to talk to her, then I subconsciously decided to walk around school with the intention of bumping into her. This started happening about 2 weeks ago when school was still on. Is it wrong that I follow my heart? Cause I keep telling myself I should stop but sometimes I just can't help it and talking to them feels great. Need some advice from the pros here

I am thinking if your crushing on a new girl then that's great. Let her know if you want her to know. If anything she could end up a great friend. You will never know until you take that chance.

Its great hearing your doing well for the most part. If your bored there are many threads here you can read. Maybe even the relationship threads could help you out. Reading and answering could keep you strong also seeing your not alone in this.

Personally I think it's awesome if you think you might like a new girl. Nothing wrong with that, in fact it might be just what the doctor ordered lol :)

Greetings once again all. I have some news.

I have officially passed 2 months of consistent NC and recently received an email from the ex asking how I've been.

Best response?
I don't feel like replying actually, as I know I'm still not completely over her and am afraid of peeling the scabs. But I also don't want to come off as a snob.

And about the crush, she is turning out to be quite a good friend :) (not romantically tho)

Wonderful news on your progress. That's just what it is, progress. You keep that NC and let her just wonder. Its no longer her business. When your 100% over her then if your interested in responding that's when its time. But even then you take the chance at those scabs as you call it. Keep your distance. You sound up beat and happy.