Maybe you can start talking to your mom and just bring up that stuff like bfs and gfs and maybe shell change her mind

I don't think 13 is too young to date, if you're going to date casually. That's actually an ideal time to start that sort of thing, since it would let you develop that important one-on-one dynamic that kids usually don't have at that age. Having the chance to pick that up in a low-stress environment like casual dating would be extremely valuable.

However, that's not the way the world works. Kids that age don't date casually. They over-invest themselves emotionally, and end up hurting themselves in a number of ways because they get overwhelmed by so many new things coming up all at once.

Don't worry so much about getting out there and dating. Go out with friends, do the group thing, and maybe even do a little bit of semi-dating within the group. Just have fun, and don't get hung up on the next thing that you could be doing.

Yep! I agree with mosts posts here... 13 is tooooooo young to be worrying about boys. You should be only worrying about school, friends, having regular fun.

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Originally Posted by pinkflower23

Theres a boy i like at school but my mom wont let me date hin, because she thinks i'm too young, and i'm 13. How do i convince her to let me date him?

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Your moms trying to protect you..! Because she loves you... if she didn't love you... she would allow you to go out there and experience things that are too mature for a girl your age...

I do not think you are too young to "date"... maybe you should tell your mom to give you some trust and promise nothing sexual because that you are too young for.

Too bad we can't verify the age of respondents. I'd be willing to bet that all those almost all those who think 13 isn't too young are teens and those who do are adults. :)

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Originally Posted by Nosnosna

I don't think 13 is too young to date, if you're going to date casually. That's actually an ideal time to start that sort of thing, since it would let you develop that important one-on-one dynamic that kids usually don't have at that age. Having the chance to pick that up in a low-stress environment like casual dating would be extremely valuable.

However, that's not the way the world works. Kids that age don't date casually. They over-invest themselves emotionally, and end up hurting themselves in a number of ways because they get overwhelmed by so many new things coming up all at once.

Don't worry so much about getting out there and dating. Go out with friends, do the group thing, and maybe even do a little bit of semi-dating within the group. Just have fun, and don't get hung up on the next thing that you could be doing.

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I agree... very well said... :)

My girlfriend was started in a relationship when she was 13 or 14.
It lasted 13 months and she lost her virginity to him.
She seriously regrets this now, at the age of 18 and has since decided not to have sex until marriage, a decision which I respect.

Conclusion: This commitment at 14 turned out to be a big mistake which she thoroughly regrets.

I know how you feel. I am in high school (freshman) my mother says I can have aboyfriend but I can't go on a date with him, therefore it makes no sense to have a boyfriend. Just tell her how you feel, find away to let her know his true personality. This may help her change her mind. I know that when I let my mother see my crush's myspace that she became more openminded. Once she found the age differnce she changed her mind. Become friends with this boy, have him over with a couple other friends to watch movies or something. Let your mom get to know him and then ask her if you can go to the movies with some friends. Go with him, after all he IS a friend, rite?

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Become friends with this boy, have him over with a couple other friends to watch movies or something. Let your mom get to know him and then ask her if you can go to the movies with some friends. Go with him, after all he IS a friend, rite?

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This is extremely disrespectful of your parents, on the order of asking mom if you can do something right after dad said no. You might think you're outsmarting your parents, but really all you're doing is lying to them, and if they find out about it, you're probably not going to be having any more friends over or going out with friends for quite some time.

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This is extremely disrespectful of your parents, on the order of asking mom if you can do something right after dad said no. You might think you're outsmarting your parents, but really all you're doing is lying to them, and if they find out about it, you're probably not going to be having any more friends over or going out with friends for quite some time.

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HUH?? Where did you get ANY of that from Jaimie02's post?? She asked her mom and she initially said no. Then she showed her mom what the boy was like and gave mom a chance to get to know him so mom was more willing to let them have a relationship. Sounds to me like Jaimie02 handled the situation very well. And she should be complimented.

Please read notes more carefully before responding, especially if you intend to go off on the poster.

13, your now a teenager. Prove to your mom that you can take on more responsibility, and don't be pushy, but talk to her. Many kids have dated as 13, even younger. Sometimes you have to wait, and sometimes when the time is right it will happen. 1st you should become friends with the guy. If you are already maybe you and him can go out together, not really a date, but a little time to hangout. You don't nessiserally have to call it a date. You can have a little hangout time.

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HUH???? Where did you get ANY of that from Jaimie02's post??? She asked her mom and she initially said no. Then she showed her mom what the boy was like and gave mom a chance to get to know him so mom was more willing to let them have a relationship. Sounds to me like Jaimie02 handled the situation very well. And she should be complimented.

Please read notes more carefully before responding, especially if you intend to go off on the poster.

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That's not how I read it at all. I read it as:

Not allowed to date, so establish the person as a friend.
Get permission to go out with friends.
Date said person under the guise of going out with friends.