Can I ask what do you want?

How do you want to live your life?

In fear of being caught?

Blackmailed?

Ask yourself what are the pros and cons of the situation.

You're an adult and I understand your culture dictates a lot of what you do,respect for your parents is paramount at any age.

Again I ask.. what do YOU want for YOUR life?

I just want my brother in law to giv me sometime... and to leave me alone... thats what will make me happy... I would love to tell my parents eventually... right now my boyfriends not comfortable with that.. so I don't want to say anything yet...
If my brother-in-law doesn't keep doing what he does... everything would me fine...

It's your life, not your boyfriends
Start letting these men in your life know you have a backbone.

Tell your parents and get the brother in law off your back and if the boyfriend doesn't like it, he'll get over it.

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Originally Posted by iwantmylifeback

if my brother-in-law doesnt keep doing what he does...everything would me fine...

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What happens if you are out with your boyfriend and someone who knows your family sees you and asks you parents about the 'boy' their daughter is seeing? Congratulations will probably not be accepted gracefully.

Parents who have one child that disrespected their values and traditions tend to be more vigilant with the others. They haven't caught you yet, but I have a feeling you are probably going to be in the not too distant future. Do you want them to catch you (leaving the brother-in-law of it for the moment)?