He is usd to getting drunk so I believe he would remmber & that iw wouldn't. He is telligme he remembers it all & that he didn't talk to me about it because he though I didn't remember.. but idid but not all of it and he did, so he said we did stuff but didn't have sex.

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he is usd to getting drunk so i belive he would remmber & that iw wouldnt. he is telligme he remembers it all & that he didnt talk to me about it because he though i didnt remember..but idid but not all of it and he did, so he said we did stuff but didnt have sex.

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What sort of stuff? And listen to Red, she knows what she's talking about.

I know you're terrified. You deserve a hug and a shoulder to cry on right now.

How old is he? Even one drink messes up your head, so I wouldn't trust his memory, plus why would he want to admit anything? Did he ejaculate? If so, where?

I am terrified. And I trust my cousin wouldn't lie to me about something like this. But I'm still nervous.. I know red knows what she's talking talking about. But like fingering that's all

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he is usd to getting drunk so i belive he would remmber & that iw wouldnt. he is telligme he remembers it all & that he didnt talk to me about it because he though i didnt remember..but idid but not all of it and he did, so he said we did stuff but didnt have sex.

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You are scared and young and you trusted him. We all make mistakes and I won't preach at you. Was he the one who started this? Please tell us and let us help and since I don't text at all and can't seem to get the hang of it please use full words and not text speak. How do you feel about all this? Were you attracted to him?

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i am terrified. and i trust my cousin wouldnt lie to me about somthing like this. but im still nervous..i know red knows what shes talking talking about. but like fingering thats all

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Just to be sure, go see a doctor.

No he did not ejaculate

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hes telling me he remembers now & that hes 100 percent sure we didnt have sex. i know it was irresponsble & im extremely dissapointed in myself. so please dont lecture me i already know. i not one of those trashy girls who does that im actually a good kid who made a big mistake.

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Okay, I understand how you are feeling. I want to know if you think you did this voluntarily, why your cousin is doing sexual stuff with you, and how old is your cousin? I know this is hard, and I know you main concern is you being pregnant, but like Red has mentioned, only your doctor can tell you for sure.

Not only pregnancy issues here, STD's are a present danger with doing "other stuff" as well.

We are here, we can help you through this as much as we can online. But this is really concerning me that your cousin took advantage of you while you were drunk. Has he done this sort of thing to you before?

I am not attracted to him at all he is my cousin.

He was a litte drunk too that's why he did the stuff & no it was the first time we drank together

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he is usd to getting drunk so i belive he would remmber & that iw wouldnt. he is telligme he remembers it all & that he didnt talk to me about it because he though i didnt remember..but idid but not all of it and he did, so he said we did stuff but didnt have sex.

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I would be very wary about this,this is your life your talkng about.

again,I would ask you to tell someone,someone you trust,an adult who can help.

I would also advice that you not drink until your old enough to handle it,its NOT cool,and look what happened the last time.

both of you need to understand how serious your actions were,not only were you drinking underage, but both engaging in underage sex ,which not only could result in a baby, but a baby with a disability,I don't know exactly the probability of the disability,but still a baby.

I truly hope your not pregnant,and that you have learned a valuable life lesson.

again I strongly urge you to speak to another adult.

No, I wanted to know if he has done sexual things to you or other family members before. And I am sorry if I have missed this, but how old is he?

I have learned my lesson and I can assure you that I will not do it again. I understand ths is my life I'm talking about & a baby and I'm extremely worried about it. I might talk to my siste abut it

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i am not attracted to him at all he is my cousin.

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I'm going to give you some advice okay? If he would take advantage of you are there younger girls in the family he would do the same? He I think knew what he was doing and I honestly believe he will do it again to someone else.

Please I ask you to talk with your mom. She may know of things about this cousin that she didn't tell you. She is your mom and nothing will make her hate you. She can help you through this. Please, for your peace of mind and ours , talk to her and you may be saving another litlle girl, someone younger than you. Please.

Yes I understand. I am going to do that, I knowi have no other choice and I can't do this on my own

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yes i understand. i am going to do that, i knowi have no other choice and i can't do this on my own

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Promise you will and let us know. You have friends here and we will help you get through this. Mom is your best friend... Hugs:)

I will let you guys know. Thank you so much for all the help, you helped a lot more than youthink. I'm going to take all of your advice, please pray for me and hope I'm not pregnant

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yes i understand. i am going to do that, i knowi have no other choice and i can't do this on my own

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Good girl *hugs*
If there is a planned parenthood in your town, I would still suggest the morning after pill, just to be on the safe side. If your cousin was willing to take advantage of you in a situation where even a stranger shouldn't take advantage of you, then he may not me telling the whole truth about what went on, just to save his own skin. I hope all works out for the best with you.

Okay, I do realize that everyone is thinking that her cousin took advantage of her, but I see this in a different light, and trust me, I'm one to look at all the angles when it deals with molestation.

Correct me if I'm wrong, but isn't he also 15? So two 15 year olds both get drunk, and they both do something stupid. The fact that they're related is wrong, but alcohol makes you do stupid things you otherwise wouldn't do. Most of us have memories of nights like that. ;)

I hate the double standard that since she's a girl, she is automatically the one that was taken advantage of. That's not always the case, and it doesn't seem to be the case here, in my opinion.

Yes there are laws in place that if someone is drunk they cannot consent to sex. But both of them were drunk, so who gets charged?

To the OP. You got drunk, he got drunk, you both did something really stupid that I hope you'll never do again. Now it's time to protect yourself from a possible pregnancy. Don't rely on wishing and hoping that it won't happen, because it can. Now is the time to act. You can't wait a day or two. Talk to an adult, someone that can get you the help you need.

Stay sober and stay smart. :)

You're totally right Alty.