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I don't know. What? What:confused:

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Second base

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Sorry I thought they were both 16.

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Don't be sorry I was just asking because there have been a lot of young / old dating questions lately. So had to ask.

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Oh that's a line from abbott& costello... you are way to young to remember the great "Who's on First". Sorry I got off subject. Sorry to op.

Doesn't look like the OP has been back yet, OP if you do come back please let us know how things are, we want to help you with this...

Hey guys,
Everything isn't back to normal but it has been getting better. (by the way he is 16 also). I talked to my cousin and my grandmother about it and they have made me feel better and that nothing was my fault. I haven't talked to him, and I haven't been getting any calls as of recently. Thank you for all the advice. I told him that I'm focused on school. Hopefully he is getting the message and he won't be calling anytime soon. The last time we talked he tried to make me believe that "you are the only one for me. I wanna marry you. I can't stand to see you with anyone else and nobody can treat you how i did. All I did was love you and you dont wanna love me back." PLAYERRRRR! I don't believe a word he says, its mostly him trying to get in my pants STILL. But although he was my first love and I still love him, I recognize that it is time that I move on.

Thanks again, (I'll Keep posting)

Good for you. You are a smart girl, and I'm glad you see he is a player. One thing we will all advise is that you don't talk to him at all. Don't respond to his calls, e-mails, etc. Your focus on school is exactly where it should be. Good luck.

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Good for you. You are a smart girl, and I'm glad you see he is a player. One thing we will all advise is that you don't talk to him at all. Don't respond to his calls, e-mails, etc. Your focus on school is exactly where it should be. Good luck.

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Right JLo got to spread the rep. The guy probably thinks he's another Johnny Depp:cool:

I agree with what everyone else has posted, I am just wondering though, why do you still love him? You have broken up 13 times, he scares you and he WANTS A BABY! You should be thinking about whether you are letting him mess you up like this. Definitely take the advice that is given to you and get away from him ASAP. Things could get a lot worse between you very quickly.

Sorry, didn't read the post you put on. Well done, sorry again =)

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Right JLo gotta spread the rep. The guy probably thinks he's another Johnny Depp:cool:

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When he is Johnny Drip.
You are doing the right thing. Concentrate on school and keeping away from him. No contact at all would be best.

Although I am focusing on school, I am afraid that what has happened will affect how I feel about other guys I let into my life later. I don't want to be afraid. So what do you advise I do when I get to this point? Or do you think that eventually I will let things go? And do you think that I should forgive him anytime(not soon)?

I would not even think about forgiving him unless 3 or 4 years from now you find that he has made a complete change, like becoming a priest or close to something like that.

After you meet some more well adjusted "normal " guys your age you most likely will lose any fear you have.
If not talk to a counselor or another professional. But I think you will be OK.

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Although I am focusing on school, I am afraid that what has happened will affect how I feel about other guys I let into my life later. I don't want to be afraid. So what do you advise I do when I get to this point? Or do you think that eventually I will let things go? And do you think that I should forgive him anytime(not soon)?

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I do think you will eventually let things go. Don't even think about him or worry about forgiving him. Take your time to get to know guys in the future before becoming too close. You are so young. You have lots of years and experiences in front of you before you are even ready to get serious with someone. Concentrate on school and developing yourself, having fun, making friends, etc.

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I do think you will eventually let things go. Don't even think about him or worry about forgiving him. Take your time to get to know guys in the future before becoming too close. You are so young. You have lots of years and experiences in front of you before you are even ready to get serious with someone. Concentrate on school and developing yourself, having fun, making friends, etc.

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I agree.. think of your education first and the other things will follow... Good Luck.

He has been trying to get my attention and I recently saw him at a party. I don't want to care but I do. And today it didn't help at all when my frinde told me that he was trying to get with her while he is still trying to talk to me and sugar me up. I always end up getting hurt. And I don't understand why I get hurt so much even though I don't want him around. Its love isn't it?

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He has been trying to get my attention and I recently saw him at a party. I dont wanna care but I do. And today it didnt help at all when my frinde told me that he was trying to get with her while he is still trying to talk to me and sugar me up. I always end up getting hurt. And i dont understand why i get hurt so much even though i dont wnat him around. Its love isnt it?

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Tell hime to leave you alone and if he keeps it up tell him you'll tell the girlfriend.:eek:

There is still a part of you that wants to believe him. He's not sincere. He's just saying whatever he thinks will convince you to give him another chance, but he's already shown he doesn't deserve that chance.

You get hurt because you are young, hopeful, and inexperienced. You will meet nicer guys and you'll eventually understand that he wasn't a good boyfriend. Read this thread over a couple of times to remind you of how you were feeling and all the advice you were given. You might even read some other threads to see what type of heartbreak a guy like this can cause. You were with him for a year and a half - that's a long time, especially at 16. It will take time not to hurt and to understand that he isn't right for you. Avoid him as much as possible.

No OP its not love its a kind of dependence, because he used to bully you and make you feel scared, he played with your emotions, and sad as it seems you began to like how he treated you, you mistook his bullying controlling ways as him showing he cared about you, and you now think thats love its not honestly, and youll realise that in time, for now give him a wide berth and if he gets a 1000 girlfriends, wish them luck and you sail off into the sunset smiling, cos you know what hes like and you got away. Good Luck honey and keep strong, you know youre worth more. Take Care.

It is not love. You need to stay away still'

He wants to regain the control he once had.

Do not let him. Keep ignoring him until he goes away

Don't let him pull you back. He's a player.