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  • Jun 25, 2010, 07:41 PM
    Kitkat22
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Homegirl 50 View Post
    Nicely put.
    Have to spread some rep.






    If you tell his girlfriend, you're doing it out of spite. That never brings anything to you except revenge and believe me it comes back.. Let her find out the way you did.
  • Jun 27, 2010, 07:42 PM
    positiveparent

    I agree Don't tell his girlfriend that's plain spiteful, she will no doubt find out herself in time, but its not your place to tell her.

    She wouldn't Thank You for telling her anyway, you would probably end up being classed as a trouble maker and do you really want that on top of everything else.

    Walk away and keep your pride by saying nothing.
  • Jun 27, 2010, 07:53 PM
    Kitkat22
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by positiveparent View Post
    I agree Dont tell his girlfriend thats plain spiteful, she will no doubt find out herself in time, but its not your place to tell her.

    She wouldnt Thank You for telling her anyway, you would probably end up being classed as a trouble maker and do you really want that on top of everything else.

    Walk away and keep your pride by saying nothing.

    She'll find out soon enough.
  • Jun 28, 2010, 03:14 PM
    positiveparent
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by positiveparent View Post


    I agree Dont
    tell his girlfriend thats plain spiteful, she will no doubt find out herself in time, but its not your place to tell her.

    She wouldnt Thank You for telling her anyway, you would probably end up being classed as a trouble maker and do you really want that on top of everything else.

    Walk away and keep your pride by saying nothing
    .

    To OP please Read again, closely , youll see I didnt say you told the G/F
    Please Re Read my comments in above again, It says Dont not that you have!!!
  • Jun 28, 2010, 03:16 PM
    Kitkat22

    Okay then.. Is he coming back to you?
  • Jun 29, 2010, 02:57 PM
    redhead1992

    No he's working it out with her. They're fixing whatever... I'm trying to let go. Its just really hard. I deleted his number but drunk texted him still because I have the number memorized. I don't know what I can do.
  • Jun 29, 2010, 03:03 PM
    Kitkat22
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by redhead1992 View Post
    no hes working it out with her. theyre fixing whatever... im trying to let go. its just really hard. i deleted his number but drunk texted him still bc i have the number memorized. idk what i can do.




    Just let it go. I'm sorry you're hurting. There's nothing you can do. If he's trying to work it out with her, then he must have feelings for her.
    I hope you feel better and you will... Guys like him are a dime a dozen.
    Feel sorry for the girlfriend, she's the one who's probably going to be cheated on all the time.
  • Jun 29, 2010, 03:03 PM
    Homegirl 50

    Stop getting drunk and doing stupid things. Are you trying to break them up and then say you didn't mean to because you were drunk?
    You knew this guy for what a week?
    He is with his girl friend, move on.

    What did you do with your time before you met him, do you have a job, friends?
    Stay busy, this will pass.
  • Jun 29, 2010, 03:08 PM
    Kitkat22

    You can do it and drinking has never solved anything. Get yourself together and chalk this one up to one Giant mistake.
  • Jul 1, 2010, 10:20 AM
    redhead1992

    No I'm not trying to get drunk break them up and blame it on that. It was one time, doesn't happen often. He says he wants to see me again so we can talk about things...
  • Jul 1, 2010, 11:14 AM
    Kitkat22
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by redhead1992 View Post
    no im not trying to get drunk break them up and blame it on that. it was one time, doesnt happen often. he says he wants to see me again so we can talk about things...

    Are you going to see him?
  • Jul 1, 2010, 01:20 PM
    Homegirl 50
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by redhead1992 View Post
    no im not trying to get drunk break them up and blame it on that. it was one time, doesnt happen often. he says he wants to see me again so we can talk about things...

    What kind of things do you have to talk about?
    He has a girl friend. He went back to her. You guys have nothing to talk about as long as he has a girl friend.
  • Jul 1, 2010, 01:43 PM
    Kitkat22
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Homegirl 50 View Post
    What kind of things do you have to talk about?
    He has a girl friend. He went back to her. You guys have nothing to talk about as long as he has a girl friend.



    If you two do start a relationship you will always wonder if he'll do the same thing to you.

    He's a major player and you need to leave him alone.
  • Jul 1, 2010, 01:58 PM
    asking

    This feels like true love and the disappointment hurts and is humiliating, but it's not true love. It's his ability to bowl people over with sentiment and exaggerated statements. When a person who is UNavailable makes grand romantic statements, it's all heartache if you don't walk away. Be strong or he will break your heart even more.
  • Jul 1, 2010, 02:01 PM
    Kitkat22

    I agree with "Asking"... You would never be able to trust him and you'll get your heart broken again.
  • Jul 2, 2010, 04:28 PM
    redhead1992
    I don't know what he wants to talk about but we're supposed to go to lunch. I'm NOT going to get into a relationship with him. I know better. But do you have any tips for me to better understand his body language to tell if he's sincere with things he says?
  • Jul 2, 2010, 05:05 PM
    Homegirl 50

    You should not be even going to lunch with him. That is asking for trouble.
    His asking you to lunch speaks volumes.
    He knows you have feelings for him and he's going to work them. Any thing else, he could tell you in a text.
  • Jul 2, 2010, 05:23 PM
    Kitkat22

    He wants to see if you still have feelings for him. I wouldn't meet him for lunch or anything. He is a player.
  • Jul 3, 2010, 08:11 AM
    positiveparent
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by redhead1992 View Post
    idk what he wants to talk about but we're supposed to go to lunch. im NOT going to get into a relationship with him. i know better. but do you have any tips for me to better understand his body language to tell if hes sincere with things he says?

    Don't meet him, don't have anything to do with him, he's trouble and you don't need that, let him and all thoughts of him go, he's a user, and for your own self respect Don't let him use you. Drop him, and move on. You've wasted too much time on him as it is. You deserve better but whilst you're hung up on him you won't find it.

    As for Body language, if he doesn't hold eye contact, rubs his ear, or his nose, or chin, it usually indicates something being said is untruthful.
  • Jul 3, 2010, 08:24 AM
    redhed35
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by redhead1992 View Post
    idk what he wants to talk about but we're supposed to go to lunch. im NOT going to get into a relationship with him. i know better. but do you have any tips for me to better understand his body language to tell if hes sincere with things he says?


    The only thing you need to know about this guy is that he could'nt commit to a chicken sandwich,his body language? The only thing he wants to do with his body is to see what its like next to yours.

    This guy has become something to you,and no matter the advice you get,I believe you won't walk away until he has completely broken your heart.

    Its one way to learn a lesson,not the way I would advice though.

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