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  • Mar 12, 2010, 08:34 PM
    MadisonKnudsen
    I'm confused about this guy
    Me and this guy have a thing and today we had a assembly and everything was going good I was leening back on him and we were flirting and he was texting this girl on my phone that hates me but I don't know what they were talking about and I don't know what she was telling him and then later on he kind of moved to make me get off but I don't know why and then he was going to ask me something, I think he was going to ask me out but he changed his mind, and when he doesn't like flirt with me or talk to me I always think he's mad at me any advice?
  • Mar 13, 2010, 09:05 AM
    s_cianci

    How about a little forthright and direct communication with him? Ask him directly the questions you've posed to us here. If he doesn't want to talk or gives you the runaround then you'll have all the answers you need.
  • Mar 13, 2010, 09:57 AM
    jaime90

    Wow. You need to stop analyzing these things. There is nothing to figure out really, when you take this at face value. He told this girl that he hates you. You were obviously annoying him by leaning on him (why would you lean on a guy that you aren't involved with? That's a little much.) And by the way your entire post sounds, I'm sure he wasn't 'flirting' as much as you thought he was. He then got up to get away from you. When he returned, what would make you think he wanted to ask you out? That would be my LAST thought. If anything I think he would ask you to get off his back. On top of that, you aren't ready for a relationship with anyone, just from the content of your last sentence... You think he's mad at you when he pays you no attention. What would this look like in a relationship? YOU stirring up drama when he decides to go hangout with a friend? You clinging to him every moment of the day? You demanding that he pay you more attention? Girl, you are not girlfriend material. You're already showing needieness, anxiety, and are portraying yourself as a naggy flirt, and you don't even have a boyfriend... these are deadly sins of dating.
  • Mar 13, 2010, 10:00 AM
    I wish
    How old are you?

    Why all the mind games?

    Why not be direct and upfront?

    You shouldn't have to worry about his interactions with other people, just worry about your own interaction with him.
  • Mar 13, 2010, 12:18 PM
    talaniman

    She is 14. And her threads were merged.
  • Mar 13, 2010, 03:01 PM
    jaime90

    Thanks Tal.

    You are too young to be in a relationship. Obviously, both of your posts screamed "immaturity." And for the love of God, you need to leave this young man alone, and forget about "making him" like you. Do you want to make a man like you, or do you want a man to like you by his own free-will? Forget about a relationship with him. FORGET IT. He is ignoring you for a reason. He clearly is not interested. That's my advice to you: Leave him be. Let it rest. Lay off.
  • Mar 17, 2010, 07:52 AM
    Lanichu

    Ignoring a guy or flirting with him is NOT the answer. He could take this as a sign that you are not interested in him. Some people like hard to get, but most people like to just be told.

    If you like him, you should tell him... Even if it is scary! What's the worse thing that could happen? He'll say no. If he makes fun of you for it, then he's a jerk and you deserve better!

    Take this for example, there was a guy I was crushing on in high school and I was so scared to tell him... But on graduation, I told him I liked him and he told me I got courage and even gave me a hug! :]

    Now I regret not telling him sooner. If you don't tell someone you like them, then you'll be wondering 'What if' all the time!
  • Nov 20, 2010, 09:07 AM
    Dobrev
    If you like the guy, you should tell him, because if you don't then you're going to feel like you're carrying a burden on your shoulder. I told a guy recently that I like him, although he ignored and didn't respond to my text, I don't regret it because I know where I stand with him. His loss! At the end of the day guys will always come back, whether you did go out or they rejected you, they always come running back, so what have you got to lose? Be confident and upfront, guys love it.

    If you want something you go out there and get it.

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