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  • Jul 24, 2009, 03:06 PM
    ANB428
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Chey5782 View Post
    Great, you guys are going to make me cry. I hope the OP sees that shes not alone in this situation, if she IS in that situation.

    Sidenote. have you guys seen that show on MTV, 16 and pregnant? What the?!?

    Yes, I actually watched the season finale last night. I think that they should make a show about single teen mothers who have to do it all by themselves with no man, because in reality most of the fathers disappear and the mother's are stuck doing all the work and having their parents help them. It isn't always a happy ending. But, I am also proud of the young couple who gave their child up for adoption. They were very brave and had a lot of strength and courage. I would NEVER be that courageous and selfless to give my child up for adoption. They actually gave that child a chance at having a better life than they had. I was crying pretty much the whole episode.
  • Jul 24, 2009, 03:07 PM
    ANB428
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by jenniepepsi View Post
    oh im so glad you got out of that! i totally understand about never seeing her again nor paying anything. same here. its not that i want his money. i want him to take responsibility for BOTH of our irrisponsibility (having sex before we were ready)

    I totally understand where you are coming from. My daughter's father has another three year old and two month old with a girl that just turned 18. And he is in and out of jail on drugs screwing around with other chicks. It is so sad.
  • Jul 24, 2009, 03:16 PM
    redhed35

    I see by your other posts that you are trying to gain weight.
    Normally pregnancy causes weight gain.
    I would avoid any weight gain shakes etc until you have seen a obgyn.
  • Jul 24, 2009, 06:34 PM
    tene08
    Thank you all so much for your suggestions and comments. The whole story is about two months ago I had sex with my boyfriend with a condom on but the thing is that I am late for my periods (2 weeks today). I usually don't get my period the same time but this time its extra late and some times I have weird food cravings, headaches and belly pains. I have not bought a pregnancy test as yet but I will asap. The reason I asked the question is because telling my parents I'm pregnant is horrifying to me, I'm totally scared of what they will do and their reactions and also my friends and family. I have not even told them I have a boyfriend because I'm scared so just image telling about pregnancy. Can anyone help me with this problem too?

    And also about gain weight, I am trying to put on some pounds because I don't like my size its not because of pregnancy.

    Once again I want to thank everyone for their support and kindness. (By the way I'm 17 going on 18 in october)
  • Jul 24, 2009, 09:20 PM
    ANB428

    Well, you need to get a hpt and take it. You have had many suggestions about how to approach the situation if you are pregnant.

    On the other hand, if you are not pregnant, I would recommend that you go to the closest Planned Parenthood (of you are in the US, it may be called something else in another country) or your OBGYN and get on birth control. You can do this without your parent's consent. You also need to be getting tested if you are being sexually active.

    Good luck with everything. Please keep us informed on what your status is, whether you are pregnant or not, and if you are, what happened when you told your parents.
  • Jul 25, 2009, 01:25 AM
    Chey5782
    You know there ISN'T a Planned Parenthood out here. The closest big city is Fort Smith and apparently they didn't have the money to stay open (or that is what I was told when I asked a friend) They have a great support center SIMILAR that is privatized and actually quite awesome. But they are Pro-life. Things like that are strange to me.

    Back to the topic, if you take the home test and it doesn't make you feel comfortable you should be able to go to the free clinic and they will give you a test for free and confidentially. Condoms aren't 100% effective, if you wind up not being pregnant I hope that you can find the courage to get a birth control that will help you feel more secure.

    I know it's not greatly comforting, but good luck. You don't have to feel alone, and you SHOULD be able to talk to your parents. I usually just tell my mom I need her to support me or I am not going to include her any more when she gets the naggy mom thing going on. Relationships take effort, but that's what the love is about.
  • Aug 3, 2009, 09:54 AM
    tene08

    I took a pregnancy test and it said that I'm not pregnant. I'm still worried because my periods is still not here and Friday will be one month late. What should I do?
  • Aug 3, 2009, 09:56 AM
    JudyKayTee
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by tene08 View Post
    I took a pregnancy test and it said that I'm not pregnant. I'm still worried because my periods is still not here and Friday will be one month late. What should I do?


    I would go back to my Doctor - anything about my body that is different, changed, I always get checked out.

    Was that a backwards sentence? Well, you know what I mean.

    I'd see a Doctor. Make sure everything is OK and put your mind at ease.

    And then come back and let us know all is well.
  • Aug 4, 2009, 02:41 AM
    dirty harry
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by mudweiser View Post
    Hi.

    Well for one it's not easy.

    The best way to do it is when you are all sitting down. Is the father of your baby present? If so, I would suggest that he do this too with you.

    Telling them isn't even half the battle. Good luck to you. Expect looks of disappointment, maybe even anger or yelling--- when this happens, please do not yell back, if anything stay quiet and zip your lip. Keep in mind your parents still see you as their baby--- you will soon learn this.

    Keep us posted!

    Sarah

    Could not agree more
  • Aug 15, 2009, 03:23 PM
    ima_mommy15

    I'm 15 and I just found out I was pregnant its not that hard its not much they can say its already said and done they can't make you give your baby away or kill it
  • Aug 15, 2009, 04:58 PM
    tene08
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by ima_mommy15 View Post
    im 15 and i just found out i was pregnant its not that hard its not much they can say its already said and done they can't make yu give your baby away or kill it

    Its easier to say than do. I am still not sure if I am pregnant any way.

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