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  • Jun 29, 2009, 12:30 PM
    jenniepepsi

    If you are a serious type person, you should be willing to hear his respsonse.

    And as for the rule about waiting for him to call, that's for when you first date. You are already boy friend and girl friend, so that rule doesn't apply any more


    Not to mention he DID call you! And you refused to pick up!
  • Jun 29, 2009, 12:34 PM
    Sweetgirl10

    Wow. I didn't really see it that way. I bet he thinks that I am acting like an immature child. I guess I have to just start acting like a girlfriend. I am so emotionally I just do things on my own and I was crying all last night and saying that it was over between us
  • Jun 29, 2009, 12:37 PM
    jenniepepsi

    I think he does definitely feel your acting mean and immature hon :) I'm glad you see that. *hugs* I suggest you CALL HIM right now, and explain your feelings to him.


    Also, talk to your school counselor or another adult that can help you through your feelings that are obviously interfering with your relationship.
  • Jun 29, 2009, 12:37 PM
    Alty
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Sweetgirl10 View Post
    Wow. i didnt really see it that way. I bet he thinks that i am acting like an immature child. i guess i have to just start acting like a girlfriend. i am so emotionally i just do things on my own and i was crying all last night and saying tht it was over between us

    Of course he thinks you're acting like an immature child, because you are.

    A relationship requires communication. If you're going to play games then expect him to play them back.
  • Jun 29, 2009, 12:39 PM
    Sweetgirl10

    I feel so bad now. I think I will do that before its too late. Thank you I will do that because I have a lot of issues like that that I need some serious help with *hugs*
  • Jun 29, 2009, 12:40 PM
    jenniepepsi

    Good for you hon. I'm glad your thinking this through clearly now. Good luck. Also, PM me and let me know how it goes.
  • Jun 29, 2009, 12:41 PM
    Sweetgirl10
    I guess I just have to make it up to him:(
  • Jun 29, 2009, 12:41 PM
    Sweetgirl10
    Thank you!! I will be sure to do that:)
  • Jun 29, 2009, 12:44 PM
    Romefalls19

    If you want to be serious, then act like an adult. These little petty games are going to cost you. He tried calling, and you ignore it, I call those "mind games" and it's one game I don't play. Stop acting immature and call him.
  • Jun 29, 2009, 05:02 PM
    talaniman

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    You have a lot of adult decisions to make for yourself.
  • Jun 29, 2009, 05:30 PM
    Alty
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by talaniman View Post
    Ask Me Help Desk - Search Results

    You have a lot of adult decisions to make for yourself.

    Wow! Good catch Tal.

    Don't you think you should talk to the man you might have a child with?
  • Jun 29, 2009, 07:57 PM
    Romefalls19
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by talaniman View Post
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    You have a lot of adult decisions to make for yourself.

    And that is why he is an expert, he catches all the back drama
  • Jun 29, 2009, 10:02 PM
    Sweetgirl10
    Thanks a lot everyone!! I really appreciated the feedback:)
  • Jul 7, 2009, 11:56 AM
    Sweetgirl10
    I don't know what else to do anymore
    Threads merged

    Me and my boyfriend have been together for 5 months. Lately, both of us have been acting differently and I don't know whether to try to make this thing work or to just let it go. I really love him and I have opened up to him so many times and I really don't want to let him go because of how much I've given up for him. I have issues with communication skills and so do we. Just recently we have begin talking on the phone instead of textin which was a shocker to me when he first called. Because when the relationship first started all I wanted to do was text and he wanted to tlk but now its switched around and I want to talk just as much as he does. During the last two months we didn't talk at all for 3 weeks and then following that we didn't see each other for a whole month. So when I seen him he still acted the same just like nothing happened and we were happy together. But now its still the same in some ways because he has started to stop calling me again and the last I seen him was last Thursday and it has been 3 days since we talked and I don't want to be the first to speak. Also there has been countless times where I stood him up but I feel really bad about it because I tried to surprise him for the 4th of July but he stood me up and this has made me really upset and not want to talk to him anymore at all. So from all of this, if you were in my position what would you do, or at least advise me to do? Thanks in Advance.. much love
  • Jul 7, 2009, 12:01 PM
    kctiger

    No communication = no relationship.

    Built upon a poor foundation, every house eventually crumbles. This was no different. You two seem like a very young couple to me. I really don't think there is anything to end, as it doesn't seem all that put together anyway.

    If you two can sit down and hash out your problems, then time to let this one go.
  • Jul 7, 2009, 12:04 PM
    Sweetgirl10

    Your right we both are I'm 18 and he's 22
  • Jul 7, 2009, 12:22 PM
    N0help4u

    You both need to stop the back and forth standing each other up and work together.
    I don't know if you had good reason to stand him up but to him it might look like you are playing games or not really that serious about him.
    YOU need to either break up with him or have a talk with him about how you want to make the relationship work and you are going to be more serious about it. Then discuss ways to go about it, what he would like to see improve and how serious he is about things.
  • Jul 7, 2009, 03:13 PM
    makapuu

    It doesn't sound like much of a relationship, other than two people playing games with each other. You break up and get back together as if nothing happened. Truthfully, nothing important has happened anyway. Nothing gained, nothing lost, so what's the big deal? Playing games seems to be the only way to stay in each others' lives and you seem to be enjoying it.

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