You are me... doesn't that sound strange. I waas a cutter too... about 20 years ago. You are NOT alone. I had suicide dreams and fantasies and was always cutting myself when I would get agitated or angry or upset. Years later I realized that for ME cutting was a way to show myself (and everyone else - even though I never really showed anyone) that NO ONE could hurt me as much as I could hurt myself. I am now 35 years old with two teenagers of my own. Those years in high school were the most difficult of my life. I was a mess and I felt very displaced I lived with various family members which just made it harder. I am sure that is a lot like living with one parent then the other. Do either of your parents spend time with you? Do you spend most of your time alone? I wish I could reach through the computer and put my arms around you. I remember being afraid all the time. On edge and not really comfortable in my own skin. Mostly like I just didn't belong.
I had a family member finally take me to counsellor. I was so mad that they took me there... several weeks went by that I didn't say a word. Just sat there mad as heck that I was there. I had to go 3 times a week after school. I was uncomfortable and ashamed and I WAS NOT going to talk to this guy.
Guess what... I did. Now I can look back and see what he did for me. He really helped me make it through all of that.
I'm here for you.

Well, my mom spends time with me, she tries to be there when I play soccer and when I am doing school stuff. My dad spends time with me when I'm doing sporty stuff, he likes sports and music. When I'm with my friends I feel a little left out like no body talks to me, or they feel weird talking to me. I had my birthday party resently and even then I felt like I had to talk to people. They didn't want to talk to me. It was weird. Although my oldest and dearest friend loves to talk to me, so yay

There is somebody who can help you on this web sit its me. Listen I can tell you first of all why you have these urges to gut yourself it not you it is this sprit inside of you that urges you to cut yourself the spirit of demons works in all of us to do bad thing everyday. Iam a christian and this world is not base on the world its but on a spiritual realm that is why people are giving you stupid answers because only a christian person can help you right now
How I can help you but you have to take me seriously and believe what I'm telling you is true and I guarantee you you will stop cutting yourself and live a happy life. Believe that jesus christ is the creator of the heavens and the earth, he is the only person who can make stop cutting yourself. Surrender your life the jesus and pray repent of your sins and ask for forgiveness and then pray and ask jesus to help you change your life he sees your present situation and the reason why he hasent helped you yet is because you haven't came to him and ask him for your help. Pray and repent first and they pray everyday for the lord to change you and you' ll see with each passing day your life change before your very eyes it going to take time and maybe not but each day the urges of you wanting to cut yourself with begin to disappear. Get on your knees and your will never be the same

I no how you fell all you have to do is keep your mind off it. Try hanging out with friends more or even getting into sports you just need to stay busy that's what helped my sis.

I had the same problem, and I went to a therapist for it. One really useful suggestion she gave me was that whenever I felt like cutting to press ice onto my wrist instead. It hurts, but its not as harmful. From that, go to just scraping your wrist lightly with your fingerful and keep on getting less and less painful until you eventually stop. Also, make a sort of 'emergency kit' that includes an iPod, chocolate, running shoes, books/magazines, a journal... etc... things that you can do instead of cutting. Going jogging really helps me, as does writing in a journal.

Hope this helps!
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Thanks for every thing, I've stopped and I have no more urges, seriously! I'm happy and I'm loving life the only bummer that's happened lately is that I got a C in english but it's now at a B so YAY!

Congrats Pheeb!! That is really great news.

Now, the B is GREAT, but don't forget that a C is not bad either. Remember that C means Continue!

Keep it up girl!!

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Congrats Pheeb!!!!!!! That is really great news.

Now, the B is GREAT, but don't forget that a C is not bad either. Remember that C means Continue!!

Keep it up girl!!!

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I am curious now... what does D mean in the J_9 dictionary?

J_9,

I honestly don't think asking her why she cuts is going to do any good because I don't think they know. But I suspect she is fed up moving from house to house and would rather stay put. I was in a position like that, and I ended up feeling like a nomad. Kids need stability and she can't be getting that with all the moving around. Just my thoughts.

Rose, it is just a way to get her to open up and begin talking. No, they don't know why, and I understand that, but you have to open the lines of communication. This is how a lot of psychology works and I am sure you know that. But I can't condemn her, nor can I applaud her for her actions, I can only make her begin to think. This is called open-ended questions. It opens for an answer that is neither a yes or a no.

Let's see here and I am NOT quoting this thread...

Psychologist: Why did you cut today?
Client: I had a bad day, I got a speeding ticket?
Psychologist: Well, what could you have done instead of cutting?

See, how that works. That is why I was asking


Wizz, D stands for Darn Good Try!!

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Wizz, D stands for Darn Good Try!!

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Although I haven't got a D, it's good to know I have something to fall back on...

Pheebs,

Congrats on not cutting yourself! I am sure you feel great. Are your friends getting any better? Have you thought more on talking to a school counselor? These urges may come back.. so I hope that if they do you feel like you could go to somebody.

One thing I remember about being your age was the awkwardness.. not knowing where to fit in.. with friends and what not. Plus you have the stress at home. At your age most teens are trying to figure out who they are in this world... they are trying to figure out who they are... etc Just keep your head up. You seem like a great person and I hate to hear that your not happy.
Tamikiwhoever.. umm possessed? I am not going to go into that conversation here... but no Pheeb your not possessed... Hrrmph

Msicmaker said it best here.. she really can relate with you and it was great to hear that she came through it fine. I hope you take her advice to heart.

Take Care!

You HAVE to tell someone.believe me,I would know.I used to self harm,but then my mum found out and made me see someone.I thought exactly what you thought at first- I didn't want to see anyone,I thought id feel very uncomfortable.and I know its hard to control,but you MUST stop or at least try to get help.I was self harming for quite a while before someone found out-and I am so glad they did because I never self harmed again.
If you get help,believe me,it will be the best thing you will ever do.it could save your life.
Please get help.

See a doctor you can have a mental disorder that makes your mind want to hurt your body I think I have it and one of my friends exboyfriends has it if it gets really bad you should see a doctor so you don't do too much danmage

Its because you have heard about this from other people doing it. You are not getting what you are ultimately seeking... i.e. attention from parents or friends, being ignored at school? It is a way of showing yourself how much you hate yourself and proving it to the world... and therefore trying desperatly to get some attention. If there are underlying problems with your parents, you need to tell them to let it off your chest, even scream at them, you will feel lighter and more happy. If you can't speak to your parents, go to your school councillor.

I know, believe me, where you are coming from.

Say in front of the mirror 'im beautiful' over and over again until you stop thinking it is bull and you start to believe it, this will reprogram your negative thought patterns.

People care for you I'm sure. Please try the mirror exercise. I know you will absolutely hate doing it, but keep at it.