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Originally Posted by Parallelism

20 yearolds don't hangout with 16 yearolds just to be friends.

He obviously wants sex and if you can't see it, you're blind.

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While the odds favor you, please don't make sweeping generalizations like that. There are things about this 20 yr old that make me believe he is socally backward and may really not be after sex. There are also actually guys who were raised properly and are gentleman who would not take advantage of a girl. Yes, they do exist.

Girls should be very cautious about an age gap like this, but its not a given that the guy is after sex from a younger, impressionable girl.

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Originally Posted by ScottGem

While the odds favor you, please don't make sweeping generalizations like that. There are things about this 20 yr old that make me believe he is socally backward and may really not be after sex. There are also actually guys who were raised properly and are gentleman who would not take advantage of a girl. Yes, they do exist.

Girls should be very cautious about an age gap like this, but its not a given that the guy is after sex from a younger, impressionable girl.

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20 year old MEN should be have 16 yearold FRIENDS. Even worse, he will be 21 when she's 16. Even if he does not want sex, he should not be around you.

If he does have sex with you or rapes you (which is a high possibility) then he gets a rape charge if you tell people. Drop the relationship, its not healthy or either of you two.

I'm going to say this again. You are making generalizations that are just not accurate. While I agree that the odds are that a 20 yr old having a relationship with 16 yr old is not healthy. But that doesn't mean EVERY relationship is. And since 16 is the age of consent in most areas, rape charges are much less likely.

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Originally Posted by Parallelism

20 year old MEN should be have 16 yearold FRIENDS. even worse, he will be 21 when she's 16. Even if he does not want sex, he should not be around you.

If he does have sex with you or rapes you (which is a high possibility) then he gets a rape charge if you tell people. Drop the relationship, its not healthy or either of you two.

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It does seem suspicious that a much older guy is going out with a much younger girl. But we don't know what this guy's intentions are so we can't make assumptions. What we should be saying is "proceed with caution". Be careful. If he asks you to do anything that makes you uncomfortable, just refuse. If he likes you back, then he will respect your decisions.