One more con to add to CM's list; He's apparently been left back in school if he's older but in the same grade.

I have to ask, where are your parent's in this? Do they know you are "dating" or hanging out with boys like this? At 12 you should not be one on one dating yet. Hanging out in groups is OK.

But you notice the swift and universal response that this guy is a loser and you should stay away from him.

Just tell him you are no longer interested in him. If he asks why, tell him you aren't interested in anyone who uses drugs.

Well there's things I do like about him, he's really funny, and he's fun to be around, and he never leaves me out, and I think he really does care a lot about me. But I don't know. I think he kind of likes other girls too.

Are you ready to not be a virgin, I am asking because you are the next target on his list.

How to break up with him? Easy, tell your mom and dad that you're dating at 12 and that the guy your dating does drugs and drinks.

I'm sure they'll make it very plain to him that he's not to see you again!

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well theres things i do like about him, hes really funny, and hes fun to be around, and he never leaves me out, and i think he really does care a lot about me. but idk. i think he kinda likes other girls too.

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I really don't care what his nice qualities are. His bad qualities outweigh them. Most predators seem very nice until they take advantage of you.

I know a lot of guy that drink, do drug and have a lot of girl friends. They attract girls like a magnet.

Do you want to be girl friend #4 or 14 that hopes he has time to spend with you because most often he is either spending the weekend looking for some drugs or hanging out with some other girl?

Do you want to worry about him trying to pressure you into sex and then if you do give in you regret it when you realize the REAL full impact of his lifestyle?

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Originally Posted by N0help4u

I know a lot of guy that drink, do drug and have a lot of girl friends. They attract girls like a magnet.

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And those girls have issues... but that's for another thread. :)

We are kind of going through the same thing,

Well I'm 13 going on 14 in a month
And thheres this guy who I was with for about 3 weeks he's 14 going on 15

Anyway he smokes weed everyday and drinks occasionally

I broke up with him because when we were together we weren't talkative at all , and it felt awkward

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Originally Posted by funsized818

we are kind of going through the same thing,

well im 13 going on 14 in a month
and thheres this guy who i was with for about 3 weeks hes 14 going on 15

anyways he smokes weed everyday and drinks ocassionally

i broke up with him because when we were together we werent talkative at all , and it felt awkward

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Ohh my gossh. Thanks! Its like. I do like him. But he can't remember anything. And I don't really have anyone else to chit chat with. But I don't know.

You are twelve years old. Stay away, stay far away. That is the absolute best thing you can do!

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ohh my gossh. thanks! its like. i do like him. but he can't remember anything. and i dont really have anyone else to chit chat with. but idk.

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He can't remember anything and he is still so young.
I know so many guys that drink and smoke weed and many do other drugs they will not admit to. They are in their 40's and they are in denial that they have a problem and claim they only drink a six pack and smoke 'a' joint. I swear they only have about 10% of a functioning brain.
If he already can't remember anything at his age he most likely will only have a fourth of those brain cells left by age 40. I have to constantly remind many of my friends where they were going and what they were doing. They only know how to go do their home repair or landscaping work and chill with their beer and dope. Most of them have under the table jobs where they drink and do their dope while working.

YOU CAN DO BETTER

EXPECT BETTER

There will be a lot more guys that will come along. You do not have to date the first one that asks you out.

This might be hard for you to see... but the decision that you make now will start a pattern that will carry on in the future. Do not date someone that is not worthy of you. Have high standards for yourself. You should date guys that are smart, honest, polite, trustworthy and drug free.

A good guideline would be this: If he does things that you wouldn't want your parents to find out about, then he is not the guy for you.

excon agrees: Uhhhh... What was this thread about??

Ahhh... ONE joint too many EX? :D

Okaaay I seriously need to know how to break up with him? I mean he hasn't texted me at all todaaay. And maybe you should just leavee?

Ooops. Sorry I mean maybe I should just drop ittt?

Tell him you have been thinking about it and you don't feel you are ready for a boyfriend and you don't want your parents getting upset with you.

Okay, well it seems like you like him and I know it can be hard, but you should really stay away from him. Especially if he is into the drugs and sex that you don't want to do. Because most likely he will try to get you to do it too. Also if you already have doubts about trusting him, that is not what a relationship should be about. Good Luck

Okaaay, so I've heard that I'm annoying because I act clingy (obsessed with that person or something). In otherwords I lost a friend, and some people have gave me a comment like "obsessed much?" and I really don't thaat much, but I'm losing friends, and I'm not really obsessed. I'm just happy to see them, like talking to them, etc. and I need help. How can I stop acting "obsessed? I don't try to. Or make them think I'm not so much of a clingy person?

What types of things do you do that make people feel you are obsessed?

What makes them say you are obsessed with losing your friend?

Do you talk on and on on the same subjects?
Do you ask others what's up with them and let them talk?
How do you act toward others that would make them say you are clingy?

So heeey, this guy I like we went out for 4 months, then broke up 4 months ago. He went out with another girl 2 weeks ago and broke up with her but he still likes her. But schools out and they won't see each other. Now I go to church with him so ill see him. But we had a very strong relationship and when he broke up with me, (because I didn't believe he loved me, I asked a guy to rub me over a text message who was his best friend) and he got the girl he likes involved. Now we were talking today about everything and I just miss the way it use to be. We had so much fun. And I don't think either of us know what to do. But is there any things you guys can think of that we could talk about to make this better? We both loved each other a lot we just both said a lot we dindt mean after the break up. I need help all around any answers I would loveee.