Maybe you should just have fun and enjoy your teenager years without worrying about having a boyfriend. Honestly, you might better off without one right now.

Just because others are walking around with them does not mean you have too. Your 16 years old and have plenty of future to think about it down the road.

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lol, talaniman. You're right we are all pretty strange. But to some people I know, strange is an understatement. My self confidence is building up by the second but it builds tiny bit by even tinier bit. Which makes it harder on me...

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I can understand that but your confidence will soar when your actively engaged in some fun stuff and make friends with interest similar to yours, both male and female. Relationships (friends or otherwise) don't just happen, they develop over time. Have your fun now.

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Um. Obviously I like turtles, it wouldnt be in my name if I did not. I am very energetic (for my size) but my personality... people think I am very strange. So thats why being myself doesnt work very welll.

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that sounds like one of my best friends (shes 16 too)^_^... shes twice my size and a very hyperactive person. She's a major twilight fan and would beat anyone who disses edward. She doesn't have a boyfriend (because of this thing called the curse) but she wants one. She told me that she's just waiting on the right guy to come around. But it doesn't bring her down that she doesn't have one. Have more confidience in yourself and don't be afraid to show the real you... and bulieve me... you isn't the only one with the weird personality because I have one too ("\(=^_^=)/")

Sounds just like me... except, I don't know how I feel about twilight.

Well, on the twilight thing I mean... you may like something a lot, you know? And everyone thinks your weird just because your obsessed with that one thing. I mean... like I'm obsessed with certain bands like coldplay and the killers... umm? I like a bunch of really weird things too. I'm a very hyperactive person when it comes to some things and people just don't like to be around me. But I can really care less anymore. I don't know why though? I guess I just got over it you know?

Yeah I know exactly what you mean.

Physical appearances matter yes, but to tell u a little secret appearances are not the only thing u see, confidence is a major 'attraction' factor. We men can't resist confident and smart women, and that's a fact. Be more confident about yourself, and that will show up in your looks. :) . You are only 16 now. Give it sometime.

Ok. But the more I say I am confident with myself, the more people bring me down.

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Ok. But the more I say I am confident with myself, the more people bring me down.

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When people put you down it's a form of bullying and may just be because their insecure in themselves. If you react to that by showing them it upsets you they will keep doing it.

So the secret is to not let it bother you , that will show out in your personality and will ooze with confidence. When they see this they won't bother you because they know they can't get a rise out of you.

OK...

Ok, can some body help me?

There is this guy named Ian in my school. I met him through a girl named Sam, who has known Ian since 7th grade...
He is a really nice guy, and my delemma is... I think I am in love with him.

I mean, all signs I suppose are there; I have dreams with him in them, my heart skips twenty million beats whenever he looks at me, I even know when he looks at me when I am not looking at him, because of those beats... I wrote a poem about him... IDK this may just be some creepy crush that I should be ashamed of, but guys, I need your input!!

Those are signs of attraction, not love, but I do admit to be excited for you. Now all you have to do is talk to him, and enjoy the friendship.

Friendship is the best way to start any relationship. This always lets you know if you really want to go further or maybe if you'd just like to kick it and be friends. ALWAYS be yourself. No guy who doesn't appreciate you for you is not worth your time of day. Give it time and relax. There's nothing more disgusting when a girl acts like something else to get attention. You can always manage to see right through it... Do you really want to be like that.

Thanks

We are already friends, if he considers me that... I consider him a friend... IDK...

Ice cream. Ask him out for ice cream.

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Ice cream. Ask him out for ice cream.

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Awwwwwwwww.. That's such a great idea!

I felt bad because today I asked him and Sam to the movies, (you know, as a group) But sam said she couldn't go and spoke for Ian... I tried to talk to him throughout the day but I never saw him :(.

Okay listen I know how you feel I had the same problem but after that I got tired of it and I went up there and wasn't shy and you seem a little desperte that's bad. You should do sports and be active and maybe go on a diet it will help a little more and don't be afraid ask him out it doesn't matter what other people think its your personal life but all I have to say is go get um:D

:Dyou seem despert don't be and go on a diet and be active don't be shy just ask tem out it don't matter what people think just go get um

Is the desperate thing REALLY that noticeable?!

I try not to be desperate, and to tell the truth, I not anymore, because I found the one I like, just haven't figured out a way to get my hold on him.