Yes, it is excessive, but I'm sure that this was spoken out of anger, and they are watching you to see how to react. If you rebel I'm sure they will stick with their decision. But if you seem like you've learned something from all this, I'm sure they'll lighten the load. Talk to them.

Well I would show my parents, in as many ways as possible that I understood that they want for you to wait.

Sex isn't anything to be taken lightly and you don't have a serious boyfriend. Sex with random boys at your school will still leave you feeling alone. Don't hurry to grow up, you will have plenty of time for it. And when you do decide that you are ready for sex, USE PROTECTION. If your parents are not willing to put you on birth control, carry condoms, because it is even more irresponsible to have sex without being prepared.

You think they are upset because they found out you were having sex, imagine how upset they will be if you turned up pregnant.

Be responsible, but don't hurry to grow up.

I'm definitely not going to rebel. I've learned that being nicer to them (especcially trying to be nicer to my step dad, which is hard) is better for me and for them, so things will be way easier. I've learned, but I'm pretty sure they've stuck with the decision to ground me for a WHILE. It maybe before graduation when I git ungrounded, but not anytime soon.

Oh and my stepdad told me if I was pregnant, he was kicking me out because "he wasnt going to take care of my baby"

It is so hard for children to understand, sometimes its hard for adults to understand as well, we place our disappointments in ourselves and our surroundings on our children. It's not because we are angry with them and it's not because we as parents are perfect. It's because parenting doesn't come with a book of guidelines, we have to do what we think is best when we see our babies growing up. Parents don't want it to happen and children are forcing it to happen too soon.

I know you are angry with the both of them, I know that they are reacting very poorly, but give it sometime and make some better judgements, not because they want you to, but because you know what's right for you.

Yeah, they asked me where they went wrong. I just think they are too strict. They can't expect me to be perfect and when a kid is tempted to do something, even when they know they aren't supposed to, they may do it because of the rebellious thing and they think their parents won't find out. But from now on, I just want to prevent my younger sisters and brothers from having sex before it is the right time, and they are fully ready and mature enuff.

Better to be grounded by your parents, than being knocked over the head, and grounded by life.

You could be pregnant, homeless, and barefoot, hungry, and alone. Do as your told, and pay your penance, and hope you have learned this time, as next time, you may not get caught in time to save your butt!

Someday you will see what they are trying to teach you, and be grateful, and love them for it, but for now do as your told, for your own good.

Sometimes we as parents believe that if we can just lock them up nothing bad will ever happen.

Take some time, cool off, maybe sit down with them again and have a talk with them. If you can sit down and have a mature talk with them, that means not losing your cool. I bet it will mean volumes to your relationship.

Well, the guy seems like a huge , who basically saw you as a hole. I don't know why you wanted to have sex with him that young anyway. But, its not my place to judge.

Now, if you're pregnant, they are completely justified, but they should spend more time thinking about what to do with the baby. Although I am pro-choice, if you want to keep the baby, do so. Don't cop out at the last second. Your parents told you not to have sex to prevent this situation.

If you're not pregnant, I think you should be grounded until you're 18. You have no business having sex that young.

And you're dad also sounds like a , who should be supportive, yet very stern at the same time. The name calling is completely uncalled for. The same goes for your mom.

Grounded till I'm 18- lame and no.
I'm moving before I turn 18, ill be 17 once I graduate.

But I will definitely work on my relationship with my parents!

You're parents are the ones that get to decide if you can move out before you are 18, so I would really really show them you've learned your lesson.

And I would honsestly wait until the dust settles, and have a serious heart-to-heart with your parents.

They told me I could move out once I graduate, and if I really wanted, I could go live with my dad.

But I know, we will have that heart-to-heart eventually.

Where is your Dad? What does he think about all this?

My dad and I used to never get along, he was never there. He is now, and he knows he has to be so I don't end up pregnant, or worse, dead. He lives in the city right by me, and he agrees that I wasn't ready to have sex, and I have my whole life ahead of me. But he said he wudnt have me on lock lyk they have me, because I already did what I did, and grounding me honestly is not going to help

Parents take the steps they see fit to handle the situation at hand, chances are the child isn't going to like it or think that its reasonable.

Although I think your parents may have handled this in the wrong way, and the name calling wasn't necessary, they ARE looking out for your best interests here. They know things that you just don't know at this age.

You've showed them that you have no impulse control, and you were willing to put your health, your future, and possibly even your life at risk, for a few moments of pleasure with a boy you hardly knew.

Babies are real, STD's are real! It is not something to take lightly. You are only 16, and trust me, no matter how much you think you know at your age, you just don't. It's a medical fact that your brain does not even fully develop until you are into your 20's.

You are not ready to be having sex. You haven't got the capability to see around corners, and recognise the consequences of your actions. At this point you are living in the here and now! Two weeks from now seems like a lifetime away from now at your age. You can't see the bigger picture, and why your parents are trying to stop you from having sex.

There are many reasons for that my dear. There are physical reasons, phychological reasons, and emotional reasons, why you are just not ready. You are no longer a virgin, but no longer being a virgin doesn't give you a free pass not to respect yourself or your body any longer.

Your parents might seem like they are just trying to interfere with your life now. Every 16 yr. old feels like this, and you just want your freedom, because in your mind you think you are all grown up, and have the ability to make those choices for yourself, when in fact you honestly just are not.

Hopefully you have dodged the bullet this time, and you are not pregnant, or have an STD. It may not work out so well the next time. Birth control is not 100% effective, and neither are condoms. Condoms break all of the time.

You need to take your focus off having sex, and focus on things that will make you a better person as you grow and mature. I'm willing to bet that you had sex with these boys because you craved the attention. Sure you liked it, but you thought it would make a boy like you more. Well you saw how that worked with the last boy, didn't you? Sex NEVER keeps a boy around... NEVER! It doesn't matter what they tell you... how much they say they like or love you! It just NEVER works that way. Trust me when I say that it never has, and NEVER will.

Concentrate on graduating, and getting a good education. Don't make sex your number one priority!

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I'm basically under a microscope now. Plus my parents know anout most of my other hookups.

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If by *hook-ups* you mean other sexual partners than they are justified.They may have helped you more than you know.Take this time to reflect on why you are allowing boys to treat you with disrespect.Spend this time learning to honor yourself.

To make a long story short (I'm off to deliver babies and work in the nursery tonight), you breached your parents' trust. It's going to take a long time for them to trust you again.

Well... here's my latest post here because I misread something someone else said and wrote a reply. Then re read what they wrote and understood what they said. But now I can't figure out how to delete it, only how to edit it... sorry for the waste of a post :)

Talk to a counselor or therapist about the way your parents treat you. If what you say is true, than they need to learn that you can't just say "NO" and expect you not to do it.

Human nature is when you are cornered, you lash out. Your parents told you not to eat the apple... well we all know how that story ends.

I think counseling seems like the best bet.