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  • Feb 9, 2009, 11:32 AM
    kctiger

    Tell them you would like to date both of them, then make a decision. I am sure they would understand.
  • Feb 9, 2009, 11:32 AM
    artlady

    No one can make a choice for you.Clearly,if you were that into your BF of 3mths. You wouldn't be feeling something for the other guy.

    Just remember how you treat people in relationships says a lot about your character and it often comes back around as well.
  • Feb 9, 2009, 11:35 AM
    neverme

    Yep, artlady Karma's a b*tch :D
  • Feb 9, 2009, 07:21 PM
    friend4u178


    You can't control how you feel about someone but you can choose your actions and what you do about it.
    Lose your BF as you obviously don't like him enough to go the long haul with him.

    Then do yourself a favour and give yourself a couple of months break from both of them.

    That way you'll heal any emotional wounds you have , you won't just go with the new guy as a rebound and your old BF won't think you left him for someone else.
  • Nov 26, 2009, 12:36 PM
    xbabycakesxx
    Why am I so bothered about my ex
    I don't think I love him anymore, but why am I so bothered that he wants to get back with his ex, and he says she makes him happy but why does that makes me feel so heartbroken and wan him back. And he thinks I just don't want him to be wiv anyone else but me
  • Nov 26, 2009, 12:45 PM
    talaniman

    Why are you even talking to each other, about his business, if it stirs up old feelings, and confusion?
  • Nov 26, 2009, 01:58 PM
    xbabycakesxx

    Because every time I try leave him alone he always texts me and calls me
  • Nov 26, 2009, 03:13 PM
    Gemini54
    If he's your ex and his activities bother you, then you're not over him yet.

    Time to cut contact - don't answer the texts and remove him from your phone, Facebook, whatever.

    What's the point of being upset with no good reason? He's moved on, now you need to as well.
  • Nov 26, 2009, 03:28 PM
    Devorameira

    Human nature keeps us all wanting what we can't have, but you answered your own question when you said you didn't love him anymore.

    Why let someone you don't even love keep you in turmoil? Let him go back to the ex and make him your ex and move on.

    There's a great guy out there just waiting to meet you - one that will treat you right!

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    A break up is like a broken mirror.
    It is better to leave it broken
    than hurt yourself trying to fix it.
  • Nov 26, 2009, 03:45 PM
    Cat1864
    Since this is his ex that he is getting back with, I am going to guess that he is moving in circles. I think you need to use No Contact as it is meant to be used and not have any contact with him even if he initiates it. You are within your rights to hang up on him.

    Look at it this way, he isn't learning from his previous mistakes. Learn from yours. There is a reason he is an ex.

    Keep yourself busy-mind and body. Give yourself time to heal. After you have discarded all the baggage from the past relationship, when you are ready, you will meet someone new. Just give it time.
  • Nov 26, 2009, 05:18 PM
    I wish

    Don't pick up his calls. Ignore his texts. Don't even read the messages. Have someone else delete the texts for you if you have to.

    Otherwise, change your number so that you don't have to play his mind games anymore.

    I'm guessing you already blocked and deleted him from IM and social networks?
  • Nov 27, 2009, 01:25 AM
    amicon
    Ignore him and don't let him get to you. Concentrate on you and your education and leave him where he belongs,in the past.
  • Nov 27, 2009, 05:58 AM
    talaniman

    Tell him straight up to leave you alone.
  • Nov 27, 2009, 07:51 AM
    xbabycakesxx

    I've told him so many times 2 leave me alone but he never listens
  • Nov 27, 2009, 07:55 AM
    I wish

    Then IGNORE HIM

    If he can't get the message, then don't give him anymore attention.

    Every time you talk to him, he might think that he still has hope because you're giving him attention.

    Block him from everything. Change your number. If he's blocked, he can't communicate.
  • Nov 27, 2009, 07:58 AM
    amicon

    Can you change your mobile phone number? Are you in the same college?
  • Nov 27, 2009, 08:00 AM
    xbabycakesxx

    No not at the same college and we don't live close to each other. So I can't bump into him
  • Nov 27, 2009, 08:10 AM
    talaniman
    Ignore him, and delete his texts, and stop making excuse for him disrespecting your wishes. You should be mad he ignores your wishes, and does what he wants to you. Why are you not mad enough to text him a long cuss out letter, and threaten to call the cops, and send then the texts, if he doesn't leave you alone?

    Why have you not threatened him with telling his mates, and girls at his college, that he is cyber stalking you.

    Why have you just gone along with this guy, and not stood up for your dignity, and self respect??
  • Dec 14, 2009, 07:02 AM
    xbabycakesxx
    This is confusing me
    I like a guy and we've known each other loads and he says he really likes me and wants me. But he's said this before but he got with a girl and then told me he was bi and started seeing this guy. Which really hurt me and I couldn't talk to him for ages. But we got back in contact again and he told me he was engaged to him. Now he's single again because it didn't work out and he's at uni. And tells me I'm amazing and gorgeous and that being at uni has made him realize what he wants. And he wants me now. But I'm scared that he'll just find someone at uni and I'll get hurt again

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  • Dec 14, 2009, 07:16 AM
    amicon
    He let you down before,so why trust him this time around? Confusing is right and I think you're right to fear getting hurt so leave him in the past where he belongs.

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