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  • Jul 25, 2008, 06:40 PM
    marriaget
    ^^^^^^^okayyy people. Haha. Wowwww.
    uhm first of all, I don't really know his age, all I know is he's going to be a junior.
    He might be like 16 turning 17, and I'm 12, turning 13.
    I hope he's 15, haha. For now, I'm going to get to know hi, to try and see the type of guy he is. I will give him the benefit of the doubt. I'm just going to try and see if it works.
    I like/love toluca_86's answer ha. It made me feel better. Don't get me wrong, I understand all you others too. I'm going to be careful... and see. (:
  • Jul 25, 2008, 07:07 PM
    Toluca_86
    ScottGem: There are guys at any age who will pray on girls/women at any age. There are also guys at any age who will be respectful towards girls/women of any age. Unfortunately there is no easy way to automatically tell the "good" from the "bad", either. Age is not a safety device, either way.

    The problem is, in my views and my experience as a woman, that by scaring girls you are not necessarily empowering them to make their own decisions and be assertive/stand up for what's best for themselves in the future. You can't just go through life expecting to be taken advantage of; you have to know you deserve more and can expect more in order to demand more. And ultimately, a girl/woman has to take care of herself...

    Also, most everyone makes some decisions they regret at some point, and has some bad things happen to them at some point - I think this is true for women who have relationships with men in particular -and most of us learn, and grow, and survive. Sometimes you know you should have seen it coming, but a lot of times there was no way you could have known what would happen. Like I said before, every time you make a decision in life you're taking a risk -this is inevitable.
  • Jul 25, 2008, 07:13 PM
    marriaget
    ^^^^ thank you (:

    I'm pretty sure I'm not an idiot, I'm going to get to know this guy. If I feel something isn't right or he's the type that wants sex and only sex etc, of course it's a "no,no."

    My first impression of him is that he's nice, and funny. He's in my Kung-fu class.
    I just want things to be good, and I'd love to be happy.

    I just broke up with some total moron. I know it's funny because I'm 12 almost 13, and adults would think "pshh, what does she know? She's 5! ha".
    Anyway, he is extremely stupid, he's become worse. He's a liar, and an .
    He's just amazing. I deleted him on Myspace, and blocked him on AIM.
    It's just hard for me... I don't know why, I'm sort of jealous that he likes the girls that like him. The weird thing is that, I don't like him! I don't know, I'm a weirdo.

    I'm going to try out this 16-17 yr old, hopefully things will work out nicely. (:

    thanks, Toluca_86. (:
  • Jul 25, 2008, 07:15 PM
    marriaget
    (he's a liar and an a$$hole)
  • Jul 25, 2008, 07:16 PM
    marriaget
    My ex, from 2 months ago lol. It's almost been 2 months... but we've been talking throughout the whole thing. I always went back trying to fix things went he treated me like sh*t. -_-

    *sigh*

    So yeah, let's seeeeeee.
  • Jul 25, 2008, 07:43 PM
    talaniman
    Are you just looking for love after a failed relationship, it happens, and I understand feelings for an older guy.

    As a dad though with daughters and nieces, no way a 12/13/14 year old gets to date a 17 year old and a word to the wise, when dad does find out he will have hell to pay so if you care that much, be friends and wait on anything else... just for his sake. If your mature as you say then understand how a parent may feel, and don't do anything to put HIM, or yourself in danger.

    You will have many strong, and intense feelings in your life, and learning to control them now, will help you cope with the crazy world we live in, so pay attentions to yourself, and make sure you know where those feelings may lead, before you act on them.
  • Jul 25, 2008, 07:45 PM
    marriaget
    aw thanks =] I'll definetely check it out. (:
  • Jul 25, 2008, 07:48 PM
    hjpan
    Why worry about relationships? What's the rush?

    I just don't understand that. If you're doing it to show off, then stop.

    If you really love him and willing to die (right now) for him, would you do it?

    Ask him the same questions too.
  • Jul 25, 2008, 07:51 PM
    marriaget
    ^^ by the way, I see your picture, and I'm guessing you're in the army. My sis is too.
    She came back from Iraq like a month and a half ago. (:
  • Jul 25, 2008, 07:55 PM
    hjpan
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by marriaget
    ^^ btw, I see your picture, and I'm guessing you're in the army. My sis is too.
    She came back from Iraq like a month and a half ago. (:

    I'm going in the Army next year or so.

    I tasted the life as a marine for four days. It was my high school ROTC program.
  • Jul 25, 2008, 08:05 PM
    marriaget
    Oh all right. (:
    My sis was going to be a marine, but she switched to the normal Army. (:
    Be careful! Boot camp is horrible -_-
  • Jul 25, 2008, 08:43 PM
    BigS
    Marriaget, the more you post the more intelligent you seem. What kind of hobbies do you like, if you have none find one. You have all the answers to the questions you have asked. You are right no father would want his daughter in this relationship at that age. As a mother you wouldn't want it either. Please have fun and great memories; go to the movies with your friends; talk to boys; laugh with and at them; talk about them; learn from them. Teenagers have raging hormones and many males focus and dream about the female body and what they can do with it. I honestly think you do have a good head on your shoulder. I trust you. When the time comes where the flesh becomes weak and you feel like you can't trust yourself... remember this; you marriaget, can handle a challenge and it is so easy to do the wrong thing. Do me a favor and take the hard right instead of that easy wrong.
    " Remember many teenage boys are "young dumb and (full of) want some.
  • Jul 25, 2008, 09:00 PM
    countrychick3
    Why isn't it OK age is just a number people do not fall in love with your age they fall in love with you because of who you are if you them I say go ahead!! :p
  • Jul 25, 2008, 09:00 PM
    N0help4u
    Yeah and what do you call falling in love?
  • Jul 25, 2008, 09:16 PM
    hjpan
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by marriaget
    Oh alright. (:
    My sis was going to be a marine, but she switched to the normal Army. (:
    Be careful! Boot camp is horrible -_-

    Army is not as tough as Marine Corps but it takes a lot of strength, guts, stamina to go through training.
  • Jul 25, 2008, 09:16 PM
    talaniman
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by countrychick3
    why isnt it ok age is just a number people do not fall in love with your age they fall in love with you because of who u are if you them i say go ahead!!!!!!!!!!!!!!:p

    Its only a number as you say but then again you live under my roof I will let you know if your numbers are okay, and if you can go for it. DIG! Now go to your room before you pizz me off!! :mad:
  • Jul 25, 2008, 09:43 PM
    marriaget
    hahaha, uhm country girl, you are wrong. In my opinion.
    hjpan Well, I don't know... ask my sis... she's the one in there.. I'm just watchen TV... I have nooo clue about the army. :/
    BigS-thanks (: I know I'm definitely mature for my age, and probably pretty intelligent for my age too.
    <br>
    I love just going out, having fun... I love traveling.
    I went to Ice Land, and it was great.
    I mean going to places with beaches and night clubs for vacation is great, but I prefer going to places people normally don't visit, with great tourist atraction.
    Beautiful mountains, and valley's catch my eye, and the ocean etc. (:
    I take kung-fu lessons, and that boy is in my class.

    Yes, I'll try to do those things. Boys will be boys sometimes.. ya know? =]
  • Jul 25, 2008, 09:44 PM
    marriaget
    Haha ut-uh... country got daddy pist! :O (talaniman)
  • Jul 25, 2008, 09:53 PM
    Andrew916
    It might be OK later on. I'm 17 and I would feel just plain wrong if I was going out with a 17 year old. I would ask why he can't get a girl his own age. I would feel like I'm using you if I was in his situation
  • Jul 25, 2008, 10:04 PM
    marriaget
    Uhh... I think you wrote something wrong there buddy.
    I don't understand you.
    And what people have to understand is, there are 16.. 17's who act youngerr.

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