Originally Posted by kp2171
dont assume we dont understand strong attraction to a person we cannot be with. we can absolutely understand and have completely different opinions.
also, while its true you cannot just turn off feelings, having feelings isnt justification enough. its called self control. dont think i havent met women ive been attracted to since i married? sure i have. dont think my wife hasnt been propositioned by interested men that she thought were attractive? sure she has. having feelings that conflict with what you should do can be tough, but it isnt a good enough reason to justify actions.
ok... back to the topic at hand. it is a dangerous line that would be walked. i have taught at university and i actually did date a student who had been through classes in the dept i worked in. we dated after the classes were over.
in my case, it was unique in that i had also been a student at the school immediately prior to teaching. there were people in the classes i was friends with... in fact i had to give a good friend a non passing grade my first semester teaching, and then we went out for drinks after. so... i was younger than most teachers, and i was careful to not date while the student was in my class.
she was a little older than most students (young 20's, i was mid 20's) and i had no say over her grade or classes.
i can also tell you i had several students with big crushes on me during that time and it sounds like nice attention, but it can be uncomfortable. in one case i had to notify the dept that a student was making strong advances. no fun at all.
so... i can't slap your hands too hard, having crossed a line myself that most are uncomfortable about supporting. i can tell you there will be people who flirt with you and thats all. i can't get into your teachers head. she might be interested. she might like to flirt.
you are underage now. shes flirting with an underage student. i dont care if you are "legal" tomorrow or next year... the teacher is either showing brazen recklessness, or you are convincing yourself that theres more here than there is. both are possible.
personally, i think you need to suck it up, deal with your feelings, and not cross that line. get used to the idea that you are going to be attracted to women the rest of your life that you may not be able to have a relationship with. it happens all the time. some people unfortunately use "want" and "desire" as a means to justify bad decisions. bad pattern.
