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Basically none of us can tell you that 100%. It's quite possible he's a nice guy, maybe he's not. Keep an eye on how he treats you over time. If he starts pushing the issue of sex then he's likely not the nice guy. Same if he tries the old "if you love me you will" bit
You shou;d not ley any one do anythink to you don't like as you will grow to regret it as I was raped when I was 13 and it was all my fault as I was very druk don't let any one do this to you its one of the worst things that will happen in your life
Twinkelstar. A 13 year old drunk girl is not at fault if she gets raped. She may have used bad judgement in beinh where she is at or drinking but no one has the right to rape another person.
Give yourself a break... most of us do foolish things when we are young and use poor judgement. The person that raped you was a criminal and hopefully was punished/prosecuted.
Does his friends say anything about him dating a girl 4 years younger..
Granted, it means nothing when he's 26 and you're 22...
But he's a sophomore/junior in high school, and I believe you're somewhere along the lines of 6th or 7th grade... no?
Thanks for your interest but I've had so many people tell me this ill never change my mind but ill never change what happened I've grew to accept it now xx twinkel x
I think that he is just trying to get in your pants!! I mean y else would u be asking that question if u didn't think that he was going to
Oh please! Why is a 16 year old boy wanting to spend time with a 12 year old girl? He is either developmentally challenged or he's a creep/Quote:
Originally Posted by 13sldr
Do your parents know you are dating this guy? Are they going to be around while this guy and his friends are at your house?
I'm sorry, there is something fishy about a 16 year old boy calling himself a 12 year old's boyfriend. There is also something wrong with parents that would allow such a thing.
I think you should be very careful with this guy. It would be fine if he was just a family friend who came over, but I noticed you called him your boyfriend. That really worries me because of your age. When I was 16, and no offense to you here, if a 12 year old had asked me out, I would have had absolutely zero interest. I would have just said no very nicely and explained that the age difference at the time was just too much.
Did this guy ask you out or did you ask him? Either way, it seems wrong to me. At 12, you're still very young and at a totally different place in your life.
It concerns me that YOU are concerned about New Year's Eve. Talk to your parents about the situation. If the guy tries anything, you just say no and tell him to leave. It's that simple, or at least it should be. I'm afraid he may not listen to you, especially if there is alcohol involved (not saying there is, just don't know). Make sure you guys are somewhere where people are around. Don't go into a bedroom or basement or anything alone with him.
I know you feel like this guy is safe because you know him well, but please be careful anyway. Sometimes rapists are the people who we do know or even live next door to. It's better to be safe than sorry.
Are you going to be home alone on New Year's Eve? I ask because I knew a girl who was raped in her own home on New Year's Eve while her parents were out at a party. She invited kids from school over, they drank a little, and a guy from her school raped her. All the other kids were drunk and passed out, and the guy was actually sober. It was really sad. She is still trying to cope with it years later. So my point is, if you were planning on doing a little partying while your folks were out, please reconsider. It better to call it off now and be a little embarrassed, than to get yourself into a situation you might regret forever.
Now, that being said, I'm not saying you are going to be drinking or anything. But, I don't know you, so I just wanted to say it to be on the safe side. :)
Are these other 2 people his friends or yours? I would be wary if he wanted to come over with other older guys and hang out with you.
Bottom line, in my opinion, you would be better off not having this guy as a boyfriend. Just tell him that you want to wait until you are older. If he is decent, he'll respect that and agree with you. Be safe and good luck!
WELL u all should be happy 2 know that New years came and me and him were in a room by ourselves and he didn't try ANYTHING!! I asked him straight up if that was why he was goiin out wit me and he said that if he wanted that he could go 2 any of his ex's!! So me and him are still good :)
That's good but in the future I'd advise against being alone in rooms with any boy.
The issue isn't her having male friends, it's allowing herself to be alone in a room with them. This is not to say that every male friend she has is trying to get in her pants but she has to be vigilant and keep her guard up.Quote:
raggablue disagrees: what if she has male friends hey, what's wrong with that? Most of my friends are girls, that doesn't mean I'm trying to get it on with them
raggablue disagrees: what if she has male friends hey, what's wrong with that? Most of my friends are girls, that doesn't mean I'm trying to get it on with them
First, may I call your attention to the guidelines for using the comments feature found here:
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What many people have said here is that a 16 yr old boy is unlikely to have any interest in a 12 yr old girl except a physical one. Is it possible that he doesn't? Yes it is. But the odds are greater against it. Most of us are simply saying to be cautious here.
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raggablue disagrees: what if she has male friends hey, whats wrong with that? most of my friends are girls, that doesn't mean im tryin to get it on with them
I'm sorry a 12 year old girl should not be entertaining male friends in her bedroom period IMO and a 16 year old boy has no business in a 12 year old girl's bedroom. She calls him her boyfriend, so if she were mine, there is no way he'd be in her room. At 12 she would not even have a boyfriend. There are just something's you should not do.
I tried this link but it told me that its invalid. Please may you enlighten me on the guidelinesQuote:
Originally Posted by ScottGem
Link works fine for me, but you will find it at the top of the Forum Help forum
I'm 14 and I reli liked this 18yr old I met - randomly, we went out a few times (3) and every time he just wanted to get inside my pants - at first I thought maybe I was being paranoid but then one night I was at a park with him and my m8ts he took me - tried it on with me but I was a bit freaked out to do anything in a park and shunted him off - then he walks round the corner sees my other friend and about literally 5 minutes later he is Fkin her in a bush.
I haven't spoken to him since
shows that most of the time they are complete Dks .x
You need new friends!Quote:
Originally Posted by fiona445
Well you know... I kind of have the same problem, but I'm 15 and my best friend is a 23 yrold guy, and my parents think we're more, well all I can really say is look at his backround, if he's sexual be careful, even if he's a family friend, I got raped by a family friend when I was like... 6-8 and he was 10-12, so be really careful, and to tell the truth I do think that's all he wants cause your really young for him in particular, that's if he's not a virgin, but uh... just be careful and if he puts a move on you tell him that if he really care's he'll wait, I'd say the same to my friend if I were you.
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