Ask Me Help Desk - She means so much to me, despite the fact we've drifted apart

Just wondering, does anyone else have any advice/input?

Is she ignoring me or am I just being really paranoid?

Well Ive tried calling this girl several times (the one I talk about in my other thread) and every time I call her phone it's either turned off, or sometimes though, it just rings several times until I get her voicemail. I haven't called her phone that many times but it's happened where it just rings twice now.

However I tried calling her home phone and asking her dad who answered if I could speak with her and she talked to me for a while there, and didn't sound like she was trying to avoid me. She sounded happy to talk to me and we joked around a little... so I don't know.

Im just wondering why I wasn't able to get ahold of her via her cell phone or why she didn't call me back if she saw she had a missed call? I don't know... I have no idea why she'd be ignoring me and I really doubt she would... I'm prob. Just paranoid.

Okay, so now I have another question everyone...
I tried calling her last Sunday, but it just rang and I got her voicemail. And I suck at leaving messages so I didn't leave one... anyway she never called me back over this past week, though I'd think she would since her phone would alert her to having a missed call.

Anyway, I tried again last night and same deal. Only I left a message this time. So I'll have to see if she gets back to me, but I have a bad feeling she's ignoring me for some reason. Though I have no idea why she would, and she really has no reason to...

Oh and I tried sending her a text on Friday but got an error message that said something like "Delievery failed, Invalid number: [her phone number here]"... so I don't know what that means... Im pretty sure she still has a phone, I mean, if she didn't wouldn't I get some kind of message if I called her number saying that it doesn't exsist anymore?

I am so confused here... :(

I think your being a little bit paranoid and I think you should ask her why she doesent answer her phone

Brace yourself, I could be she is just not interested and is busy. But just out of courtesy she should return your call.

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Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

Brace yourself, I could be she is just not interested and is busy. But just out of courtesy she should return your call.

Yeah... could be. I just don't know though... but thanks for the reply, anyway.

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Originally Posted by OurGreatestYear

okay, I am not sure at all how to explain all of this, and still keep it brief, but I'll try...anyway, two years ago I met a girl named Jessica. we became friends very fast, and at one point, I was there to help her with a patch of depression she was going through. during this time she told me things such as "I'm so thankful that you're my friend; we've been through so much.", "I know I can always count on you no matter what", and "I'm glad to know I have such a good friend as you"

.........never before had someone spoken to or of me this way, and it was one of the most touching things ever, to me. I of course, developed romantic feelings for her, but, as the idiot that I tend to be, never acted on them for fear of ruining the friendship. So I went on to have other girlfriends, and my feelings for her, in that sense, faded.

...until recently. I am currently single, and have for the past several weeks been thinking about this girl alot. Her and I have drifted apart alot, due to each of us becoming busy with certain things in life, as well as the fact that she transferred to a different school in a nearby town. Right now, I'm missing her so much that it kind of hurts.

Bottom line is, I want to talk to her about these things, see if there's a chance for her and I, and just explain how I feel without sounding like a creep or a wuss (for want of a much better word)...I want to tell her everything, because I know that If I keep on pretending that nothing's going on; that everything's okay, then nothing will ever happen. I am a senior in high school, and in my mind, the time I have to talk to her is increasingly diminishing. Once I move out on to college, things would get even busier and...idk...

I just want to talk to her, so my question isn't if I should or not, but rather, how to go about it? How do I bring it up when I call her? should I suggest hanging out sometime and then while we're hanging out, sometime towards the end, just mention that I want to talk to her? I am just so confused here....

...she is just too far amazing of a girl for me to risk losing from my life forever. Im not saying she's perfect, since as any human being, she has her definate flaws, but she is all in all, a wonderful, beautiful girl.

so, thanks for you time. I appreciate it.

Dear Funky1, If You Really Devolped That Much feelings For This Girl I Think You Should TAlk Toi Her.
Ask Her To Hang Out And Give It Time Like After You Guys Hang out For A Couple Weeks And Reconnect Bring it Up And tell Her How You Truly Feel.

Sincerely,Cassie
Good Luck

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Originally Posted by Cassie101

Dear Funky1, If You Really Devolped That Much feelings For This Girl i Think You Should TAlk Toi Her.
Ask Her To Hang Out And Give It Time Like After You Guys Hang out For A Couple Weeks And Reconnect Bring it Up And tell Her How You Truely Feel.!

Sincerly,Cassie
Good Luck

Haha, well my username's OurGreatestYear, but eh its cool, small mistake.
Thanks for your input though. I really appreciate it.

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Originally Posted by razza115

i think your being a little bit paranoid and i think you should ask her why she doesent answer her phone

Yeah... I don't know how I'd ask her, since she doesn't go to my school, and she hasn't been online since the 14th of September... which is something I noticed yesterday and am actually a little worried about... idk... I just get really worried about things

Any further thoughts? Thanks.

If she doesn't give you an excuse to rush off the phone, or otherwise avoid you. I wouldn't worry about it too much. She may have her phone off, or may have reached her minute count already.
Good Luck!

Thinking way to far into it bud. Many number of reasons her phone could be doing that, if she was avoiding you she would not be talking to you via the house phone :)

Hell, last week I had a rutcus of situation because my phone decided it would no longer take phone calls while on master volume. Try having the whole world ( ;) not really ) upset with you when you have no idea why.

Technology will always mess-up in someway, don't worry about anything :)

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Originally Posted by veronica459

If she doesn't give you an excuse to rush off the phone, or otherwise avoid you. I wouldn't worry about it too much. She may have her phone off, or may have reached her minute count already.
Good Luck!

Haha wow, I hadn't even thought about the minute count. Thanks for your reply. :)

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Originally Posted by Marcus11

Thinking way to far into it bud. Many number of reasons why her phone could be doing that, if she was avoiding you she would not be talking to you via the house phone :)

Hell, last week I had a rutcus of situation because my phone decided it would no longer take phone calls while on master volume. Try having the whole world ( ;) not really ) upset with you when you have no idea why.

Technology will always mess-up in someway, don't worry about anything :)

Haha yeah, I tend to think way too far into things and get really worried; start thinking in worst-case-scenario terms haha. It's a definite problem of mine.

Anyway, that's a good point, and pretty insane about your phone doing that haha.
Thanks for your reply man :)

A few more replies would be nice, haha.

Thanks :)

Flirting tips?

Yeah. It's a tacky thread title, haha. But it's seriously what I am in need of.

See, tomorrow night my band is going to be playing at starbucks in town and the girl I'm really in love with will be there (anyone who read my previous thread should remember her haha:p) anyway... what are some "cute" or "comfortable" (as in, not weird) ways could I flirt with her?

I know, I know, this sounds dumb as hell. But I've always been shy and awkward and never good at flirting. At all, haha.

Anyway, thanks for your advice. Greatly appreciated. :)

Lol flirting isn't dumb, just some people need to 'master' it. I think you should be yourself... or compliment on her shoes or whatever you find nice about her. Being yourself is the best way to go.

Haha, nah, I don't think its dumb, I just thought that I sounded dumb asking for tips on something that SHOULD come naturally to me, but it doesn't haha. Im usually pretty awkward.

But yeah, I see what you mean. Thanks for the input.

Well, first of all, be yourself. Don't act out of the ordinary. Being a little playful and sarcastic is a good way to flirt as long as you don't take it overboard... this will give her a chance to react back. Again be yourself but just add a little "flirtiness." Poke, tickle, joke, and make her want to poke you back. You'll be fine!! Good luck!

Cool, thanks a lot for your reply. :)
I'll keep your advice in mind.