Wondergirl, I need your help. ASAP
J keeps talking to me and being all nice one day then the next day acting like that again.
He e-mailed me saying this:
"no, you have made your choice. The day you drive up to my house in a Mustang sports car, have both your ears filled with piercings, and wearing a tight, black, full body spandex suit...will be the day I want you. Until then, I'll always just treat you like dirt. So you would be wise to forget about me.."
He keeps saying things like this. I try ignoring him but he always calls or e-mails me and says something to wehere I just want to either kill him or myself.
I can't take it anymore. If I can't be with him I WILL NOT live. And I won't be with him If this is how he's going to be.

O and he keeps saying EVERY LITTLE THING he can POSSIBLY think to say that will bother me

Don't respond to him. AT ALL.

I already did. I told him to leave me alone and I was going to find someone else.
Do you think he cares one bit?
Just the other day he said that he really tries to. And he was acting all nice then next thing you know out of no where he's saying anything and everything to make me want to kill myself.

I mean, do you think he's just saying all that? Why do you think he's doing it? I just don't get why he's acting this way. Its like you never know what to expect from him. Then he said "i like to keep you wondering, it keeps you comming back for more."
Well I can't take it anymore. I thought it went to far a lot of times before. But I swear this time someone's getting hurt.
And it'll probably be his "bff", that girl he talks to all hour while he ignores me.
Then he gets mad that I don't talk to him all hour so now I think that he doesn't want to talk to me and I won't talk to him tomorrow during class and then he'll get mad about it and he'll say that he don't remember ever saying that he doesn't want to talk to me...
I know how it goes. And its weird how every year I've been with him is exactly the same.
Same fights over the same things on the same days just different year.
And we both have changed a little bit but winter time seems about the worst because all we do is argue and stuff and theirs never a reason. He just always has to go and start something with nothing.
I hope one day he is with someone who treats him like he treated me and then he looks back and regrets all this while I am with someone else who treats me better and forget about him...
But I'm not ready for that yet. I am still trying to get him. I just wish he was a whole lot different. What should I do? Io mean do you think if I ignore him he will see that he really is pushing me away and then maybe he will change? Do you think he will really come back?

Do not reply to his IMs or email message. Do not say you will find someone else. Do not say a word to him. Nothing. Nada.

Trust me.

Do you really think he will? And actually... I kind of told him that I already did find someone else just to make him worry.

Do not say a word to him. Do not tell him anything. Do not threaten. Do not promise. Do not throw out red herrings.

DO NOT RESPOND TO HIS EMAIL MESSAGES!

So what if he thinks that I am with someone else and then he just kind of moves on? What if he never does come back? How do I know for sure? Do you think he's only messing around with all this and that he knows I didn't find someone else?

You're sure not finding out the way you're doing it, are you.

Try my way.

I'm confused.
And this last couple months doesn't seem like we have really been together at all.

Confused about what?

You haven't been together these past months.

I don't know. I'm just afraid things aren't going to work out because of how theyv'e been. Do you think he will EVER be... I don't know how to say it other than a good boyfriend?

Do you think he means anything like that he says?

Well, all I know is that you are killing every chance you have.

So this is really all I can do that couls possibly work, right? Or it's the best thing anyway, right? So what do I say when he gets mad I'm ignoring him? Do I still ignore him? Or do I just tell him that its what he wanted?
I mean, he might come up to me and ask me or something? I don't want to just walk away.

If he comes up to you, just treat him like an ordinary person. Do NOT say a word about your past with him, the present situation, or the future with or without him.

Start reciting the story of Goldilocks and the Three Bears if you have to.

What if I don't know the story? Lol. J/K.
I could try that and see how it goes.

Then recite a poem or fairy tale you know. DO NOT talk about your relationship with him or threaten about a relationship with anyone else.

Its going to be kind of hard when he's always saying things to other people in front of me that he knows is going to upset me or how he is always talking to his "BFF" and all that.