Ask Me Help Desk - Will he ever want to?

Umm... nothing but sit their blankly stairing at a wall while I listen to music and think about how borin my life is and the last 6 years have been like this.

He said he signed up for the airforse but as much as he lies and makes things up how can I believe anything he says to me?

You mean you can't think of a single thing you like to do? Nothing?? No wonder your having all these problems, why didn't you say so??

Music. Listening to it and writing it. That's it. Other things I don't see the point in. unless it's a sharp object . Lol. Just had to throw that in there.

LOL, good one. What type of writing do you do, and do you like to read?

Just songs. I used to do poems but then got into songs. I hate reading.

Do you play any instruments, can you sing? I know I'm full of questions, just curious as to who the real you is.

I USED to play the flute but EWW not now. Lol. I've taught myself to play the keyboard and do okay at it but I can't make up my own songs on it that great

And I have trouble trying to get the exact sound I want on it with all the different instruments and speeds and rythems and all that

Sounds as if you have had no formal training, but would you like to learn, as a hobby I mean? I use to be bored to all the time, and just couldn't figure out what to do with all that time and didn't know what I liked, so I tried a lot of different things, before I bought a tablet and started to draw. I think maybe your in the same situation also, looking for something you like to do. You also sound like a little bit of a loner, nothing wrong with that mind you, I was for a long time, but sports brought me out of that.

Wondergirl, This e-mail he sent me really makes me mad. I already responded to it but I don't know what to do.
That's why I don't understand why your throwing a fit because I want to leave. I've known since I met you what you like. White wigger boys with shaved heads that listen to rap and act gangster. I think its stupid, and have made myself the exact opposite.
I believe I have a unique look to me, that makes me stand out from the rest of the people at our school. People find me interesting, but they don't know why. You on the other hand, are an average, generic looking pre-teen girl. I just don't like that.

The fact that he would compare me to those people. Really pisses me off.
I isn't nothing like them. I try to just be myself. I try to be different than them. To show them that I am against them.

I don't really like drawing TOO much but I like to have my own drawings if that makes sense.
I like when I have completed them. But I'm not too good at it and don't have the patience. And the only things I would want to draw are pictures with like the night sky and the moon... possibly shining down on water. Things like that

Omg I keep re reading that and it makes me so mad. I want to tell him how mad that makes me. Just the fact that he would say that about me. And he thinks were so different from each other... we both want to try to be differeent than everyone else. And I hate that he would see me as being like all those people.
I can't help but want to beat them off the earth now.

Me too, I like shadows and highlights, I still get a kick out of drawing moustaches on guys in the Sunday comics, I know I'm boring.

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omg i keep re reading that and it makes me so mad. i wanna tell him how mad that makes me. Just the fact that he would say that about me. and he thinks were so different from each other... we both wanna try to be differeent than everyone else. and i hate that he would see me as being like all those ppl.
I can't help but wanna beat them off the earth now.

I think your to good, and special to be letting him live rent free in your head, as his behavior is disrespectful, and unacceptable. You deserve better. Not getting any attention from you, is what he deserves.

Lol. And I like to make fun of people on TV when its muted and you don't know what they are saying

And I want more friends but I can't find people I like and all the friends I ever had did one of the following things:

1. turned their back on me
2. only come to me when they want/need something
3. only were pretending to be my friend and never really cared

He's cared more about me than anyone other than family and look at how he treats me. That's pretty sad

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Lol. and i like to make fun of people on tv when its muted and you dont know what they are saying

Play the music with the sound on the TV down.

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and i want more friends but i can't find ppl i like and all the friends i ever had did one of the following things:

1. turned their back on me
2. only come to me when they want/need something
3. only were pretending to be my friend and never really cared

he's cared more about me than anyone other than family and look at how he treats me. thats pretty sad

Yeah it is, but most good friends I ever met where ones we shared common interests in, okay maybe I didn't make that may friends, okay just a few, but they turned out to be good ones. But that just makes my point, he is no friend, because of the way he acts and treats you. Your right that is sad. By the way, cartoons are the best to play the music with.

Wondergirl, I copied and pasted this but didn't read it yet because I'm afraid. Tell me what to say back. And I will not read it at all.

You can't have me

For what reasons?

Someone else already does

Wonder what he would do if you ignored his butt for a while? Think he would get mad?

Think he would be happy if I did.

Omg. So I read that and I don't know what to do... hurry. QUICK

I thought you said you'd ignored him for a week.

I did. 8 days to be exact. Not 1 word. No e-mails. Nothing.
Until he called this weekend.

What if he forgot all about me and he's having sex with someone else right now?

Obviously he didn't forget about you after you ignored him.

He has no transportation, so where would he have sex and how would he get there anyway? And who would want him?

Well, what if they have their license... and can I talk to you elseware?

I have an e-mail to read from him but I'm afraid to anymore

I'm going to read it I think. But I'm very afraid of what it will say and I don't really have anyone to talk to about this

It said:

I plan on buying a bus ticket to Maine. Any other stories you want to hear?

Remember what I said about him talking to a girl online? One that lives in Maine

What can I say?

Tell him to have a great time and be sure to take warm clothes!

I don't think I really care much anymore about him. After what all he's put me through, it's so different. I mean I just wish I did care like I used to.
Do you think after this he may change, and I'll stilll love him?
Because right now, It's hard to love him after what all he's done to me and I just look at him differently now

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I don't think I really care much anymore about him. After what all he's put me through, it's so different. I mean i just wish i did care like i used to.
do you think after this he may change, and I'll stilll love him?
Because right now, It's hard to love him after what all he's done to me and I just look at him differently now

Well, you could still love him. That doesn't mean that you have to like him. I have said it before, I have dated quite a number of people in the past. There are those with whom I am still in love. I am sure that there are some of them that still love me. But, for various reasons, we went our separate ways and found others with whom we fell in love.

It's okay for things to be that way. That's the way that life is for many people a lot of the times.

J e-mailed me:
Appearently you don't need an education for a lot of the jobs there. Its all in manufactoring. I was called down to the office today to fill out the forms for dropping out. This is my last week! Yay for me!! Well, I guess this is it, so see you!

He was called down to the office and was their for about an hour and 1/2.
Then he came to class and someone asked what he was there for and he said that he had to take some tests.
Wondergirl, I need your help. Also, what do you thinks going on with that whole mess?

J never e-mailed me back. Do I wait?

No. Just be patient and watch how this plays out. Meanwhile, take care of yourself --get decent sleep and food, do your homework.

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I need alot of help with everything thats goin on. Theirs alot and its so long of a story that i dont even know where to begin. We have been together for almost 2 years. I wont say the whole story because its way too long but i will tell you bits and peices. Right now, he thinks i want his friend and i dont. so hes kida ignoring me. I only can talk to him at school and thats it. He wrote a note saying that he feels bad about leaving me but he doesnt wanna be hurt anymore. Their is nothing that anyone can say or do to get me to change my mind.... i already know that no matter what and even if i want to i will not give up on trying to keep us together. Even if I Want to give up on it i wont. I just need some help on trying to get him to understand that i really do love him and i dont want anyone else and i dont want him to be hurt but i wanna stay with him forever. I want him to know that I want things between us to be better than they ever were before and us to try to have fun together and get along better and not be misserable together because we both do love each other and we both dont like hurting each other and going throgh this but some how this is how it is............ i tried writing all this to him in a note but he said that one of his friends took it from him and that he never got it back. I told him to try to call me if he can and he said he would but he never did, then again he really isnt aloud to so maybe thats why..... I tried giving him another note and he said "i'l just lose it" so i ended up keeping it and he never read it. I told him to call me then and that was yesterday. So far he hasnt called. he said he would try though. And when i try to talk to him, he acts like he doesnt know me. I think that since he hasnt read that note he may still think that i want his friend and not him so he may be confused as to why i am talking to him. The day before yesterday, i told him in person that i want him and everything, then we kinda talked for like 10 seconds but then later i went back up to him and he just seemed mad again. This was right before we got out of school that day and then he just kinda walked away from me. The only time he talks to me is when i go up to him and he doesnt really say anything. But he sits next to me in 2 classes and in the 2nd one that we have together, he kept looking at me like he was trying to get my attention and then i kinda looked at him and then looked away and he just said "dont look at me like that"
But i dont know what to do.,. I mean from what i said, do you think if i wait, he will seee im not even talking to his friend and start to come back to me? Should i keep trying to talk or wait a little while before i say more to him? whats the best way to get him to come to me?
And he thinks i want his friend because of something that happened a few weeks ago.... He said he was talking to anoither girl and was going to leave me for her so i lied and said i wanted his friend and then he said he was just joking about her then he said it wasnt a lie and i dont know what to believe their becuase he makes things up sometimes to try to make me mad or see what i would do . but then i noticed him ignoring me so i told him that if he didnt want me to give to his friend because i was mad about eveything he told me about that other girl and when all thart was going on he said he didnt want me anymore so he was going to give to his friend. That all made me mad when i was only thinking about it so i said that to him but only becayse of everything he said to me.

I may have givin u somewhat the wrong idea or not enough info on this because its such along story but i tried to make it short.
but basiccaly i wanna know how i can get him to talk to me

Question to u honestly do u think he really love u