Me and my boyfriend finally had sex.
He used a condom and did put it on right.
Well, he used a condom but he DID not ejaculate at all.
Could I still get pregnant?
I'm only 15 and I'm really scared. But I can't tell my parents anything :[
Help?:(
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Me and my boyfriend finally had sex.
He used a condom and did put it on right.
Well, he used a condom but he DID not ejaculate at all.
Could I still get pregnant?
I'm only 15 and I'm really scared. But I can't tell my parents anything :[
Help?:(
If you used a condom and it did not break inside of your vagina then you have pretty much no chance to of being pregnant
But like I've been having like small stomach pains the past week :/ and my period isn't due for like 2 more weeks... is it normal to start having small cramps this early? Cause I never did before
Its what they call "psychosomatic" you think you could be pregnant so you get yourself so worked up that your body starts acting like you are.
If you used protection correctly and the condom stayed on and there were no seminal fluids inside your vagina then you are not pregnant
Thanks! Could I also be having stomach problems from not eating? Like I'm not anorexic or anything I just haven't been hungry for the past like 5 days so I've pretty much no eaten lunch or dinner for 5 days. Would that also cause me to have cramps and tiredness?
Yes I'd say that is definitely what is causing it.
Relax and go have a yummy snack! Your fine honey!
Thankies! Yeah I've just been nervous. Cause my boyfriend was like "babe trustme im 100% sure everythings fine, nothing came out i know how to use a condom just trust me everythings fine and if anything were to happen you know i'll be right here for you" and yeah I just wanted to make sure cause on sites I've been on they are all like even if he didn't ejaculate or the condom didn't break you can still get pregnant and other sites say condoms are 97% effective... then again others are saying that most condoms have a small hole in them and yeah I don't know... I just thought it would be a lot easier to get information straight from someone actually online and stuff. Thanks again :]
And what about spotting? Is that normal like the first couple days after your first time having sex?
Its pretty uncommon to get pregnant from using a condom correctly and it not breaking. There is a lot of misinformation online so that was very smart of you to try to find the right information. If you want to be extra safe I would recommend using a condom and an additional birth control method whether it is the birth control pill or spermicide.
Not to preach to you but if you are not ready for the consequences you may want to reconsider.
Yes. Very common.Quote:
Originally Posted by kayyoss
Yeah, it was just one of those oh yeah I'm ready but like in the back of the mind its like not quite yet.. . And we both know now that I'm not, and so we are probably just going to wait until we can finally go for it without me freaking out after :/
Thanks a bunch!
Good for you! You seem like a very smart young lady.
Thanks.
I guess its just stuff everyone wants to experience.. and its not like he's someone that I'm just like oh OK lets go have sex.. like we waited a while we have been together almost 6 months. So yeah :]
But thank you so much you have been an amazing help, I feel like I can finally relax and not worry about it now :]
Good I'm glad.
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Originally Posted by GlindaofOz
Yes you are so right believe me its been put on me before it really messes up your system . If you think you are just take a test. One time I took a test and after fidning out I was not I got my period the next day.
Then the chances are zero.Quote:
Originally Posted by kayyoss
Well, it says you're from New Jersey. So I'm going to throw out a question, where in south jersey can I get BC ? Like is there any certain spot I got to go to? *Atl. County*
Planned Parenthood Federation of America, Inc.
Planned Parenthood will be your best bet. The cost is minimal to go and purchase birth control. They do not require parent consent or anything like that. Just click on find a location and away you go.
I do want to say that there is not method of birth control that is not 100% effective. So, if you are not ready to be a parent, you may want to reconsider sexual relations.
I'll agree with Glinda on the rest though. She did a fine job as usual.
I do have to add that if you go on birth control pills consider them to be your backup method not your primary method of birth control. You can still get pregnant while taking birth control pills. However the combination of the condom and birth control pills should keep you fairly safe.
Do not let your boyfriend talk you into having sex without a condom once you go on birth control. I actually would not even tell him. Boys can be very ignorant about certain things and yet think they know quite a lot.
Sorry just had to repeat this answer and give Glinda the credit. She is 100% correct on this issue!!Quote:
Originally Posted by GlindaofOz
Thanks J9!
;)
You're a good egg Glinda :p
That doesn't make you ready for sex.Quote:
Originally Posted by kayyoss
The best way to not get pregnant and not let your parents find out you are having sex is to stop having sex all together.
Ignorance will be your downfall...
OK well, can any girl answer this for me?
My per. Isn't due until between the 1st and the 4th normally it comes around then of every month...
Is it normal to start having cramps and stuff 1 - 2 weeks prior to it?
What's the "and stuff" you are experiencing.
Eh nothing actually just small cramps for right now *i just have a problem of adding and stuff at the end* but like just starting about yesterday or the other day I've been having small cramps and today its been a little worse but not very much worse... and its only happened about 4 times today... is that normal? Like its not BAD cramps that happen a few days before it.. just like small ones.
I don't know if I would think that was associated with your period but I would wait for J_9 to come on. She is a nursing student so she knows a lot!
It might just be some stomach troubles since you've been stressing out for the past few days.
While no form of birth control is 100% effective, if used correctly, you should be fine. The small percentage of ineffectivity normally includes those who use it incorrectly. I also agree with Glenda however, if you are not ready to accept the consequences you need to refrain, you are terribly young. If you wish to continue this, then plesae go to your local planned parenthood and get on the pill... use this in addition to the condoms. Good luck.
**EDIT** sorry for the repeat info, I totally didn't see any posts past the first page originally... :)
There is still approximately a 3% chance of becoming pregnant. But this is among REGULAR users, not a one-time use. So the chances are even slimmer. However, at 15, if you are not ready to talk to your parents about having sex, then you probably shouldn't be having it at all. This is something that could have major ramifications on the rest of your life. Just think about it carefully before continuing down this path.Quote:
Originally Posted by kayyoss
Sooo let me get things straight,
I'm fine being that he used a condom and did NOT ejaculate.
My body is acting different because I'm stressing over it.
And I'm having little cramps because my period is due soon but might be a little earlier or a couple days later because of stress?
Very good EXACTLY!!
Stress does very strange things to a body. It can make you feel pregnant, make your periods late and/or lighter, etc.
Again, if you are not yet ready to be pregnant you should be using two forms of birth control as birth control is not 100% effective.
j_9
But like I asked earlier,
Is it normal for me to be having light cramps 1 - 2 weeks prior to my period which is due between the 1st and 4th of each month?
Yes, it can be normal. Most women call it PMS and it can happen a week or two before a period.
K cause I normally get cramps at least a week before... its coming earlier cause of stress and nerves??
It very well could be because of stress. It could be that your cycle is changing also. You are very young and your cycle is not yet structured like it will be when you are in your 20s.
:] thanks! I feel sooo much better now then what I did a few days ago.
As a safe guard for the future, if you're going to continue having sex you should go to your local health department and get on birth control. Be sure to continue using a condom though.
You still don't get the big picture. Stop having sex!Quote:
Originally Posted by kayyoss
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