I love him so much. But my parents didn't know.

Do you have a question ?

You are a 14 year old girl and you are in love with a 19 year old boy? Right?

Are you asking if it's legal? Where do you live?

Yes. :| but.. yeah right. Uhm.. yes I want it to be legal but I don't think if my family accept it :(.. I live in Caloocan (Philippines)

Yes but what?

Yeah right. Uhm.. yes I want it to be lagal but I don't think if my family accept it :(.. I live in caloocan

Hi, secretinlove!

Unless you post specifics about what you're wanting to know, people will have a tendency to guess about that. When that happens, it can cause a lot of confusion for both the original poster as well as those who come along and try to answer.

Best to ask specific questions after giving specifics as to why you're asking the questions you are.

Thanks!

: thank :) uhm.. I want him.. but I'm thinking about my family, I think if they know about me and my secret BOY , they not allow me to meet him anymore . I want it to be lagal but I think my family wouldn't yet accept him . I don't think so .
secretinlove : thanks rather. Sorry because I'm slightly confuse I don't know if this is normal for my age or if this is right or wrong.. .



What is the right age to have a relationship?some proves that AGE DOESN'T MATTER:)

This is different for everyone, as everybody matures in his or her own way, based on background, surroundings, and even gender (as it's been proven that girls mature more quickly than boys, both physically and emotionally). It's hard to determine when someone's mature enough for a relationship or not, without actually engaging into one. It may sound cliché, but basically, if you try it and everything about it feels good, you have no doubts or second-guesses about being in one, and most of those around you accept this too, then that's a good step in the right direction.

Unfortunately, practically speaking, some laws or countries prevent people from starting a relationship at too early an age -at least where intimacy is concerned, but this should not be a requirement in a deep relationship- which differs per region.

secretinlove, please do not use the 'comment' box to respond to posts. Use the Answer box at the end of the thread instead. It notifies the poster that you replied to the thread.

Thank you.

The reason for the question:
https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/teens/...oy-505768.html

Age does matter especially when you are younger.

At 14, the world looks very different than it does at 19.

At 14, your parents have a huge say in when, where, and who you can go out with. At 19, you have the full responsibility of making the correct decisions for yourself. Believe it or not that makes a very big difference.

Disgusting. Perverted. Creepy!

He is 19 you are barely entering womanhood.

Your parents don't like him because they see him preying on you. You need to listen to your parents, I made the same mistake as you when I was your age trusting a 19 year old. I thought it was love-- bah! Yeah until we got hot and heavy and I told him stop wait I'm not ready. But he was ready and he had sex with me anyway.

I see absolutely no good in 19 year olds dating 14 year olds. It may not be illegal to date but I am very sure it's just a gateway to illegal activity.

Listen to your parents, find a boy your own age!

Egad! Where did you find this creep? Does he prowl around the school yard or something?

First off, what kind of relationship can you have with a 19 year old other than talking, and that has to be behind your parents back, and that's not being very responsible, and they will be more than mad, and not trust you, for a long time. Not to mention so wrong of you to go against what you know they will not like.

When is the right time to have a relationship? When you are mature enough to be responsible for yourself, and the decisions you make, and the actions you take. Whatever age that is, will be the right time.

As long as your parents are responsible for you, and you depend on them for everything, it's the wrong time to do anything behind their back, or deceitful, or what they think is the wrong thing to do. If you can't do what you want in front of them, then certainly don't go behind their backs and do it.

Cut this guy loose will you? You may feel strongly drawn toward him, it may even be love, but that doesn't mean it's the right thing to be with him, and go against what your parents want from you. Age doesn't matter only applies to adults, who can make their own choices for themselves, because they answer only to themselves. You answer to your parents, so age does matter a great deal.
Don't be in such a hurry, as real life will be upon you soon, so don't blow it now by NOT listening to adults who know that 14 year olds hardly can handle these strong new feelings you are experiencing the correct way. Thats why you have parents to guide you thru this, so talk to them, especially your mom, so you fully understand why being with a much older guy at your age is a very bad idea in the first place.

` tnx . I know that I have to listen to my fmily..
I don't know if this right for my age?! Ouch.

` thank you p0h..
Hm..? Ouch ?:( I don't know..

What should I do ?

Don't get involved with the 19 year old.

Do get involved in activities with people your age.

Do enjoy being 14 and having fun with your friends.

Do talk to your mother about growing up and dating. It may seem like she never went through what you are, but she did. Talking with her and being open with her builds trust between the two of you for when you do start dating.

Do keep up with your schoolwork and think about the future. If you have an idea of what you to do when you are out of school, you can have a better idea of what choices to make now to achieve your goals.

Good luck.

` thank you..
But he said he love me SO MUCH..?
I trust him..
I don't know. . Because I want him too..
ErRR..

He may be a nice person and thinks he means what he is saying. However, He is at a different stage in his life than you are.

Talk to your mother. Get her advice.

You've asked us for advice and we've given you advice. At 14 you are too young to be involved with a 19 yr old. A 19 yr old will have little in common with a 14 yr old except wanting to exploit her.

However, there may be cultural differences here. Since the age of consent for the Philippines is 12 (yuch) I have to allow for those differences. So I'm going to ask the question about who's decision it was to keep this a secret from your parents? If it was his decision, then drop him. Anyone who feels he needs to sneak around behind your parents backs is trouble.

If you both really think you are in love (though I would be very skeptical about that), then go to your parents and be upfront with them. If they approve, then you are good. If they don't, well, they are more experienced then you and, at your age, are a better judge of what's best for you.

So that's what you need to do, either break it off or be open with your parents. Those are your choices.